Single Expat Women In The UAE Are Lonely!!!

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Single Expat Women in the UAE are Lonely!!! Jan 10, 2009
I agree. There are a lot of men in Dubai, but the vast majority of them just don’t make the cut!!

The following article appeared in Gulf News today (Jan. 10, 2008)


Despite the 1:2 ratio loneliness remains a sticking point for single women in UAE

By Dina El Shammaa, Staff Reporter
Published: January 09, 2009, 23:48


Abu Dhabi: Loneliness is a big issue in the UAE for single women from their 20s to 40s in addition to career challenges and the fact that they hardly have any free time.

For Francys Arias C, 25, a production engineer from Venezuela, mall-hopping, catching up with friends and roaming the streets freely without fear, are just a few of the activities women can enjoy in Abu Dhabi.

"But loneliness is a big issue, despite the fact there are more men than women here," she says.

However, she does love the privileges women enjoy in this male-dominated society. Privileges such as women-only queues.

When Arias first settled in Abu Dhabi, she felt the mix of cultures would help her find a suitable partner.

However, after two years, she started to realise that Abu Dhabi is a "transitional place" which made her feel like "an old woman at a train station watching passers-by come and go."

"It's routine life," she said. "Waking up at seven, working for eight hours, burning calories at the gym, then going back home. It is a hard and competitive, hard world. It can be boring, but this is the price you pay as a female who has the opportunity to save money and live a high standard of living, which one cannot easily find in another country," she said.

Arias is invited to at least two farewell parties a month.

"The chance of finding a single guy and starting a relationship is next to nil," she says.

When Filipina engineer Cheryl Trugillo, 27, decided to move to Abu Dhabi, she was convinced she would grow professionally. She enjoys being part of a multi-cultural society. Her biggest challenge is finding a life partner.

"Meeting people is not hard, but finding real friends who are not transitional is difficult. I think of my life here as temporary, and feel that if a girl finds a partner these days, she's simply lucky. If not, then she only focuses on her career and enjoys the life this country has to offer," she says.

Born and raised in Abu Dhabi and now working as an engineer, Abeer Karameh who is Lebanese and 24, feels that it is not only singles who suffer, but also married women, who face torrid times being "hit on" by men.

Women with demanding jobs have no time to enjoy their lives. "As for women who have a 9 to 5 job, these are the ones that need to fill their time with activities, which are costly."

German national Jelena Bundesmann, 45, is head of business administration in one company, and feels that life in Abu Dhabi is different than that in Europe, in spite of it being open minded, multi-cultural and safe. This is her first time to live and work in an Arab country.

"I have worked in an international company for many years. I have to say that Abu Dhabi has so far brought me no surprises as a white European, non-Muslim woman. I feel accepted and welcomed here," she said.

She appreciates the time one can spend at various sports and hobbies. "I love yoga and fitness offers here, and I use them!"

Annaliese Regan Adelaide, an Australian aged 32, feels that living in Abu Dhabi requires patience, understanding and the need to be respectful of local and various cultures.

Independent women

Single women everywhere know that being single is fun. Here's why?

You don't have to fight for the remote control

You have control over what you spend

There will be no shoes in the middle of the room to trip over at six in the morning.

You don't have anyone saying, "You're not going to wear that, are you?'"

You can have as many mood swings as you want

You have the freedom to choose.

You can sleep peacefully without any snoring to keep you awake and irritate you.

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Dubai Rose wrote:Independent women

Single women everywhere know that being single is fun. Here's why?

You don't have to fight for the remote control

You have control over what you spend

There will be no shoes in the middle of the room to trip over at six in the morning.

You don't have anyone saying, "You're not going to wear that, are you?'"

You can have as many mood swings as you want

You have the freedom to choose.

You can sleep peacefully without any snoring to keep you awake and irritate you.[/color]


more then that
being single will let you live in the safe side
no pain no breaking hearts no tears

just enjoye life and have fun

loooooove being single :D
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Dubai Rose wrote:I agree. There are a lot of men in Dubai, but the vast majority of them just don’t make the cut!!


The cut? Please clarify.

I know one lady who throws herself at money men or blokes with high powered salaries - sorry - jobs and she isn't getting anywhere, apart from being shagged left right and centre.

I told her to forget money, go for someone who's OK and hope for the best.
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Well yes, if you're a superficial, shallow person only after money etc then you're never going to find any decent guys are you.

I'm really sad, I had the most amazing date with an awsome guy, got along like a house on fire. Sadly he's leaving Dubai - damn it!
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Miss_lolly wrote:
Dubai Rose wrote:Independent women

Single women everywhere know that being single is fun. Here's why?

You don't have to fight for the remote control

You have control over what you spend

There will be no shoes in the middle of the room to trip over at six in the morning.

You don't have anyone saying, "You're not going to wear that, are you?'"

You can have as many mood swings as you want

You have the freedom to choose.

You can sleep peacefully without any snoring to keep you awake and irritate you.[/color]


more then that
being single will let you live in the safe side
no pain no breaking hearts no tears

just enjoye life and have fun

loooooove being single :D


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Well well look who's back! How are you?
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Chocoholic wrote:Well well look who's back! How are you?


I am great but some part of me missed caressing your fur...
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Haha sorry, the pussycat is taking a break!
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Chocoholic wrote:Well well look who's back! How are you?


I am great but some part of me missed caressing your fur...


You were always rubbing her up the wrong way!

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Chocoholic wrote:Well yes, if you're a superficial, shallow person only after money etc then you're never going to find any decent guys are you.

I'm really sad, I had the most amazing date with an awsome guy, got along like a house on fire. Sadly he's leaving Dubai - damn it!


I had the same experience few years back. People come, people go. The sad part is, when you thought everything's great, suddenly you find out he'd been destined to work somewhere else.

Maybe, one good guy will come and stay.
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Del wrote:
Dubai Rose wrote:I agree. There are a lot of men in Dubai, but the vast majority of them just don’t make the cut!!


The cut? Please clarify.

I know one lady who throws herself at money men or blokes with high powered salaries - sorry - jobs and she isn't getting anywhere, apart from being shagged left right and centre.

I told her to forget money, go for someone who's OK and hope for the best.




Chocoholic wrote:Well yes, if you're a superficial, shallow person only after money etc then you're never going to find any decent guys are you.

I'm really sad, I had the most amazing date with an awsome guy, got along like a house on fire. Sadly he's leaving Dubai - damn it!




By saying “they don’t make the cut” I didn’t mean they don’t make a lot of money….!!!???

Making the cut is an American idiomatic expression meaning they don’t meet one’s expectations. Just like also saying “they don’t make the grade.”

I keep forgetting that this a multinational community and people here don not always understand American idioms!

The last criterion for me in evaluating any prospect is probably how much money he makes. I make plenty of money myself, with a big salary and bonuses, so money is not, and has never been, an issue for me.
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No, I know what you meant by making the cut, sadly in this here place, making the cut means a loaded guy.
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Chocoholic wrote:No, I know what you meant by making the cut, sadly in this here place, making the cut means a loaded guy.



Didn't know that.....

Thanks Chocs!

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A Loaded Guy!!!!

that guy must be loaded after the party.

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Loneliness Really Hurts you hard Jan 11, 2009
Being single amongst the people really hurts you. This phenomenon has serious psychological repercussions. Sometimes on get depressive. Even your own self irritates you
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