quatroporte wrote: Dubai Knight wrote:
If she is more swayed by the fake than the real...then she is not worth knowing and not the one for you, no matter how good looking.
People are more shallow than a saucer in this town, the ones that stand out are the real ones. Don't follow the crowd and be a fake sheep.
I disagree with you DK...
he is not asked to fake that he drives a Ferrari... he is asked to get attention... being yourself will only work if you are a super good looking person... or he will be just another customer walking in. thats why he is told to be frequent (at the least) and hope she notice him. or try the other tricks which usually get ladies attention.
being yourself will work when you are with your friends and you want to get attention of a lady friend who is joined around.... but it does not always work with strangers... specially with very good looking ladies.
I'll go even further, beeing "yourself" around lady friends will not win you anything either. Dating is like marketing, what sells is whats in high demand and limited supply.
Besides, i just wanna destroy the myth that money is all it takes, lots of rich guys get laid but they don't get any respect from women because besides money they have nothing. They are beeing used for their cash. Im sure youve heard of rich businessmen who's wives cheat on with some deadbeat who lives in a 1 bedroom and earns 40 000 a year. The money thing is a myth; of course money makes it easier, but a hot woman will choose a man who makes her feel excitement and challenge over a man with millions but no personality anytime.
Women are driven by their feelings, and when she feels attracted to you, nothing will distract her from that. The "be yourself" argument just doesn't cut it, sorry DK. No one is born perfect and everyone is entitled to a chance to improve. Having a plan and a strategy in life will take you somewhere, relying on "destiny" and trusting life to bring you what you want is laughable at best. It's valid for dating and for every aspect of life. If you want to win you have to be competitive, and in order to be competitive you have to find out what sells and how to get that.
Besides, the "crowd" IS shallow, but their tactics dont even get close to what really works, so no having a sound plan doesnt make you a "sheep". The average guy needs to learn what creates attraction, not how to satisfy a gold digger who wants to reach for your pockets. DK, I understand what you mean, but do you really believe that you have to settle for whatever comes your way in life? I never have, and in all modesty I got much much better then what the "crowds" get. If you don't step up with a plan, another man will, and you'll lose out every time.
Maybe I play games, but women have been doing it forever and they will eat you alive if you cant navigate the trenches. Girls will often tell you "i dont wanna play games". When she does, you can bet your ass off the games have already started.