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This really annoys me.... Jan 03, 2008
That would still be bearable if they could stop staring at your girl like a starved jackal stares at a steak. We caught a pack once surrounding a girl who was alone in the pool, until her boyfriend - a rather big guy - showed up and they all fled like, you guessed it, jackals.
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Dont they have women in their own country.

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Jan 03, 2008
Obviously there are deprived...Although truth is, when I walk on the streets of Dubai and men look at my girl, I do feel a bit proud.
Also bad is, that lately the gay community in Dubai seems to get aggresive and start touching you without any reason given. That´s what is really upsetting me! :twisted:
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Re: This really annoys me.... Jan 03, 2008
gezza wrote:Dont they have women in their own country.


They do have women in their own country. The thing is, they are not allowed to bring their women here with them. Minimum salary cap and all.
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Jan 03, 2008
I wouldn't say GAY COMMUNITY mate......I would say just deprived Pakistanis.
as for proud!!!?...
Makes me feel violated.
Espically when they stare at my daughter. :twisted:
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gtmash wrote:
gezza wrote:Dont they have women in their own country.


They do have women in their own country. The thing is, they are not allowed to bring their women here with them. Minimum salary cap and all.



Still gives them no right to make my wife feel uncomfortable.
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Jan 03, 2008
gezza wrote:Espically when they stare at my daughter. :twisted:


I am not sure where the daughter came in, but I meant my girlfriend.
My point is, there is a difference between hungry eyes (which are offending) and a small headturn. With the latter I have no problems. And yes, I rather see a small headturn than instantaneously puking!
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Jan 04, 2008
Flying Dutchman wrote:My point is, there is a difference between hungry eyes (which are offending) and a small headturn. With the latter I have no problems. And yes, I rather see a small headturn than instantaneously puking!


So, let me get this straight, other men admiring your girlfriend is ok - it's just the extent of the lust they have for her that they show in public that offends you.

It's ok to have an extended look and assess her attributes (that she's a looker rather than a minger - for example). It's ok for them to say to themselves at that moment 'tasty', 'I wouldn't say no' or something similar.

However if they stare as if the sight of a woman is something alien to them in their day to day lives, this causes offence.

Have I got that right?

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Jan 04, 2008
An extended look would offend me, not a headturn. So I would agree with your statement if you replace extended look with a small headturn. Then they can briefly assess what ever they want...
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Jan 04, 2008
Put ur daughter , girl friend or wife in black veil :lol:

There r so many suicide bombers in Pakistan , can we not express our feeling abroad? :P
I have x-raw machine in my eyes and i always look at girls as i am gonna eat them :lol:
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Jan 04, 2008
gezza wrote:I wouldn't say GAY COMMUNITY mate......I would say just deprived Pakistanis.
as for proud!!!?...
Makes me feel violated.
Espically when they stare at my daughter. :twisted:


How do u know if someone is Pakistani ? Are Pakistani people having "PAK number plate" ?

Its indian people , am i right Jits ? :lol:
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Jan 04, 2008
HP, thank you so much for your constructive contributions!
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Jan 05, 2008
shafique wrote:So, let me get this straight, other men admiring your girlfriend is ok - it's just the extent of the lust they have for her that they show in public that offends you.

It's ok to have an extended look and assess her attributes (that she's a looker rather than a minger - for example). It's ok for them to say to themselves at that moment 'tasty', 'I wouldn't say no' or something similar.

However if they stare as if the sight of a woman is something alien to them in their day to day lives, this causes offence.

Have I got that right?

:roll:

Cheers,
Shafique


I guess it's just another one of those very personal things. Because what Dutchman wrote sounds perfectly acceptable to me!

Men look or check-out women, women do the same. But there are degrees of obviousness. There is a way to do it...

The feeling of pride which a man gets when he knows that his wife or gf is viewed as attractive by other males - and even women - is a perfectly natural one, in western society at least (I will admit that things might change a little in Eastern or more conservative parts of the world). Any guy being honest for a second will admit as much. It is an ego boost, and something very primal too...

But going back to what is actually acceptable - a nod/word passed between a bunch of guys, a 'longer than usual' glance, a sucking in of breath...these happen every day. I don't think many blokes get put out by it.

But at some undefinable point, a line can be crossed and the behaviour we are talking about becomes offensive - perhaps it's when that 'casual' look turns into a full five minute stare? Or maybe at the start of a more raucous laughter/slapping of backs etc between a bunch of blokes? Or could it be the famous cat whistle?

I'm not entirely sure. That's why I will admit - it can be a very personal issue, what the individual finds offensive.

But in general, I think there are some very broad guidelines/boundaries which are shared by quite a few men...
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Re: This really annoys me.... Jan 05, 2008
gezza wrote:That would still be bearable if they could stop staring at your girl like a starved jackal stares at a steak. We caught a pack once surrounding a girl who was alone in the pool, until her boyfriend - a rather big guy - showed up and they all fled like, you guessed it, jackals.
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Dont they have women in their own country.



Thats what happens when u go for a stoll through a labour camp!
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Re: This really annoys me.... Jan 05, 2008
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gezza wrote:That would still be bearable if they could stop staring at your girl like a starved jackal stares at a steak. We caught a pack once surrounding a girl who was alone in the pool, until her boyfriend - a rather big guy - showed up and they all fled like, you guessed it, jackals.
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Dont they have women in their own country.



Thats what happens when u go for a stoll through a labour camp!


Yeah, the labour camp called Dubai.
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Jan 05, 2008
It is a fact that every man and woman will check out another man or woman they find attractive. It can be a beautiful face or beautiful body, whatever! I've double-taken a look at handsome men or beautiful women in dishdashas and abayyas. I completely agree that taking a look should be discreet and tasteful - just use your peripheral vision or make more frequent glances. All out staring for a long time, and most definitely physically getting close to the person etc. is absolutely rude. Quite a few men in Dubai are very basic when it comes to manners and they are incapable of being discreet. I've seen guy ma.st.ur.bating in front of my car in the Mall of Emirates parking garage, so lots of pent up s.e.x.ual frustration to be found in Dubai I guess :lol:
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