So, let me get this straight, other men admiring your girlfriend is ok - it's just the extent of the lust they have for her that they show in public that offends you.
It's ok to have an extended look and assess her attributes (that she's a looker rather than a minger - for example). It's ok for them to say to themselves at that moment 'tasty', 'I wouldn't say no' or something similar.
However if they stare as if the sight of a woman is something alien to them in their day to day lives, this causes offence.
Have I got that right?
I guess it's just another one of those very personal things. Because what Dutchman wrote sounds perfectly acceptable to me!
Men look or check-out women, women do the same. But there are
degrees of obviousness. There is
a way to do it...
The feeling of pride which a man gets when he knows that his wife or gf is viewed as attractive by other males - and even women - is a perfectly natural one, in western society at least (I will admit that things might change a little in Eastern or more conservative parts of the world). Any guy being honest for a second will admit as much. It is an ego boost, and something very primal too...
But going back to what is actually acceptable - a nod/word passed between a bunch of guys, a 'longer than usual' glance, a sucking in of breath...these happen every day. I don't think many blokes get put out by it.
But at some undefinable point, a line can
be crossed and the behaviour we are talking about becomes offensive - perhaps it's when that 'casual' look turns into a full five minute stare? Or maybe at the start of a more raucous laughter/slapping of backs etc between a bunch of blokes? Or could it be the famous cat whistle?
I'm not entirely sure. That's why I will admit - it can be a very personal issue, what the individual finds offensive.
But in general, I think there are some very broad guidelines/boundaries which are shared by quite a few men...