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This is a distant virtual relationship and I think it's so much different with yours.
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puppypup wrote:This doesn't sound good Aisha. I once 'met' a man online then by telephone. I wasn't always available to answer calls because I was at work or at a dinner party but he was jealous because I wasn't readily available for a stupid call. Anyway that went nowhere. I didn't have to meet him in real life to know unhappiness waited for me if I stayed in touch with him.
quatroporte wrote:puppypup wrote:This doesn't sound good Aisha. I once 'met' a man online then by telephone. I wasn't always available to answer calls because I was at work or at a dinner party but he was jealous because I wasn't readily available for a stupid call. Anyway that went nowhere. I didn't have to meet him in real life to know unhappiness waited for me if I stayed in touch with him.
totally agree with you...
I want to add something
Rule #1 in relationships.. don't answer his/her calls whenever they call you... if you are busy at work, eating etc... don't pickup until you finish... and call back.. make sure to call back and free sometime for the call... answer the calls when you are free. if he/she got something important to tell you, they will sms it
but don't give them the habit that you are always available whenever they call you... this is not sweet, it makes you look desperate to your partner and this thing have bad effects in the long run.
Miss_lolly wrote:quatroporte wrote:puppypup wrote:This doesn't sound good Aisha. I once 'met' a man online then by telephone. I wasn't always available to answer calls because I was at work or at a dinner party but he was jealous because I wasn't readily available for a stupid call. Anyway that went nowhere. I didn't have to meet him in real life to know unhappiness waited for me if I stayed in touch with him.
totally agree with you...
I want to add something
Rule #1 in relationships.. don't answer his/her calls whenever they call you... if you are busy at work, eating etc... don't pickup until you finish... and call back.. make sure to call back and free sometime for the call... answer the calls when you are free. if he/she got something important to tell you, they will sms it
but don't give them the habit that you are always available whenever they call you... this is not sweet, it makes you look desperate to your partner and this thing have bad effects in the long run.
wawwww
if anyone listen to this
life gonna be easy
quatroporte wrote:Miss_lolly wrote:quatroporte wrote:puppypup wrote:This doesn't sound good Aisha. I once 'met' a man online then by telephone. I wasn't always available to answer calls because I was at work or at a dinner party but he was jealous because I wasn't readily available for a stupid call. Anyway that went nowhere. I didn't have to meet him in real life to know unhappiness waited for me if I stayed in touch with him.
totally agree with you...
I want to add something
Rule #1 in relationships.. don't answer his/her calls whenever they call you... if you are busy at work, eating etc... don't pickup until you finish... and call back.. make sure to call back and free sometime for the call... answer the calls when you are free. if he/she got something important to tell you, they will sms it
but don't give them the habit that you are always available whenever they call you... this is not sweet, it makes you look desperate to your partner and this thing have bad effects in the long run.
wawwww
if anyone listen to this
life gonna be easy
sadly... I learned this the hard way
aisha7 wrote:update: i answered his calls, explained to him why i ignored him. he didnt get angry. i thought we were ok then. the calls that came after that talk were kinda different. he always act like he doesnt trust me or jealous when he hears voices of other people in the background. i was like...whats up wid that? then shifts back to being nice and sweet. moody huh?
samsam007 wrote:aisha7 wrote:update: i answered his calls, explained to him why i ignored him. he didnt get angry. i thought we were ok then. the calls that came after that talk were kinda different. he always act like he doesnt trust me or jealous when he hears voices of other people in the background. i was like...whats up wid that? then shifts back to being nice and sweet. moody huh?
Hi, I know this a very... very late answer
But for the record, I am from Syria... (i.e. Arab ) and I have to say that in general, arabs only look at friendship and girlfriends before marriage as a "walk on the wild side" or an experiance before marriage... but they don't usually get married to their girlfriends and go for an arrianged marriage at the end.
It's not that THEY're bad! but their families usually highly, highly object to this (ask me, my family almost disowned me when I told then I am thinking of marring a non-Syrian girl!--- she was Japanese, by the way!)
In the west, people can easily go against their parent's will because being very close to your family isn't a big thing in the west, they see them twice at year most... but we are expected to stay close to our immediate family and non-immediate ones as well... so there
Of course, I do have a friend from Yemen who got married to a Filipino girl... but that's the only exception of the rule... (plus, she did get convert to Islam... on her own, btw)
royality wrote:Aisha, i think you have already took your decision and for the moment being you are looking for someone to approve it for you...listen Aisha, you are the one who talked to him, who knows him more than any one here (or maybe not), but sincerly never take a decision in a virtual world, wait for the landing that you reach teh real world then believe me you will find teh answer out...be patient and mature.Good luck
xero_ wrote:global_headhunter wrote:xero_ wrote:but thats upto you, kakahiya kseh minsan kababayan d2 kasama ibang lahi, they look pretty cheap to be honest.
wag makitid ang utak mo kabayan, mas nakakahiya yata na pinoy nga ang kasama mo pero me pamilya na naiwan sa pilipinas tapos yung pera na para sa mga anak eh ginagastos sa babae nya sa dubai o di kaya sa sobrang kapal yung ipapadala sa pamilya eh nanggagaling sa bulsa ng babae. meron ding pinoy na nagkukunwaring walang asawa at nanliligaw ng kabayan na kahit matino at galing sa maayos na pamilya eh walang pakialam para lang makagamit. o sabihin na nating single nga ang lalaki pero 3 naman ang kasintahan.
wag kang ipokrito, kaya ka nagagalit sa mga pilipina na me kasamang ibang lahi dahil di ka pwede sa ibang lahi.
kapal muka mo kabayan, pamilyado akong tao at sa dinami dami ng nakita ko dito sa dubai, eh totoo ang experience ko. kung may kamag anak ka man na babae na may boyfriend o asawang dayuhan eh dapat talagang mahiya ka. dahil sa kahirapan, nauuto ng mga dayuhan ang kapamilya mo nag magpagamit ng katawan nila. nakakahiya talaga ang mga kababaihan naten na pumapatol sa ibang lahi, at feeling pa nila eh naka-jackpot sila pag umasta sa mga mall kasama ang mga mababantot na dayuhan haha.