What does this mean?

MERLOT Recently couple of weeks ago I was dumped by this fella, after a full on three month relationship, promising me the earth etc... love the full works. Anyway it ended, I'm getting myself together, training at the gym. He saw me last night, keeps looking over. He just gets the hi and cu of me, what more can he expect. Anyway got text late last night saying. "Hi, good to see you this evening working so hard. Hope all is okay? Would like to remain friends, tho understand if different at the moment. Regards." So folks what does this mean, is he just naffed off that I've not contacted him since he 'disappeared' or does he just want us to be real 'buddies' now. I'm use to fellas just clearing off for a while after the deeds done.

easternjewel ask him to fuck off. Cant trust such people! ^ian^

MERLOT wrote:

"Hi, good to see you this evening working so hard. Hope all is okay? Would like to remain friends, tho understand if different at the moment. Regards."
So folks what does this mean.

Call me odd, but I think it means...
Hi, nice to see you.
Hope you're OK.
Can we still be friends?
I understand if you don't want to be.
Guys don't speak in riddles, we tell it as it is. XRW-147

^ian^ wrote:
Call me odd, but I think it means...
Hi, nice to see you.
Hope you're OK.
Can we still be friends?
I understand if you don't want to be.
Guys don't speak in riddles, we tell it as it is.

Ian, you're odd.
More like:
Damn girl, weight watchers hooked you up - you are looking fine again.
I wanna rattle your bones. Hit me back later if you with it.
Peace. ^ian^

XRW-147 wrote:
- ^ian^ wrote:
  Call me odd, but I think it means...
  Hi, nice to see you.
  Hope you're OK.
  Can we still be friends?
  I understand if you don't want to be.
  Guys don't speak in riddles, we tell it as it is.
Ian, you're odd.
More like:
Damn girl, weight watchers hooked you up - you are looking fine again.
I wanna rattle your bones. Hit me back later if you with it.
Peace.

Oh come on. People look for meaning in everything, most often when there's no meaning at all. sara_uk

easternjewel wrote:
ask him to f&%K off. Cant trust such people!

i will go with that. Some men can't understand how women can be over them very soon so he must regret it now. forget friends anyway iam sure he has other agenda either he want you back or just hovering around you to see what is going on with your life and if you have someone now. Corcovado i agree with EJ tell him to f**k off , he is a jerk and u dont want him in ur life .trust me ur better off without him aarif i think you should let him go, he doesnt means what he is saying... he difinelty has other intentions... Corcovado

sara_uk wrote:
- easternjewel wrote:
  ask him to f&%K off. Cant trust such people!
i will go with that. Some men can't understand how women can be over them very soon so he must regret it now. forget friends anyway iam sure he has other agenda either he want you back or just hovering around you to see what is going on with your life and if you have someone now.

exactly plus i think most men expect dumbed women to sit at home crying over them and waiting by the phone for them to call :evil: :evil: and when he saw u working out and looking good he was disappointed ... :x men can be jerks sometimes :x :x :x XRW-147

Corcovado wrote:
exactly plus i think most men expect dumbed women to sit at home crying over them and waiting by the phone for them to call :evil: :evil: and when he saw u working out and looking good he was disappointed ... :x men can be jerks sometimes :x :x :x

Probably a power / ego thing - thinking the woman will realize how good they are and want the person back when its quite the opposite in reality.

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XRW-147 wrote:
- Corcovado wrote:
  exactly plus i think most men expect dumbed women to sit at home crying over them and waiting by the phone for them to call :evil: :evil: and when he saw u working out and looking good he was disappointed ... :x men can be jerks sometimes :x :x :x
Probably a power / ego thing - thinking the woman will realize how good they are and want the person back when its quite the opposite in reality.

lol agree , usually women feel better after looking back at their exs and say : " What the hell was i thinking??? :lol: :lol: sara_uk

Corcovado wrote:
- XRW-147 wrote:
  - Corcovado wrote:
    exactly plus i think most men expect dumbed women to sit at home crying over them and waiting by the phone for them to call :evil: :evil: and when he saw u working out and looking good he was disappointed ... :x men can be jerks sometimes :x :x :x
  Probably a power / ego thing - thinking the woman will realize how good they are and want the person back when its quite the opposite in reality.
lol agree , usually women feel better after looking back at their exs and say : " What the hell was i thinking??? :lol: :lol:

:lol: :lol: I agree especially when they meet someone much much better than the ex. Corcovado Bingo :lol: :lol: ^ian^ Typical response from a bunch of girls. The guy might have been feeling bad, that's all. Corcovado

^ian^ wrote:
Typical response from a bunch of girls.
The guy might have been feeling bad, that's all.

yeah yeah ... u guys defend each other ... he should 've known better and i am sure if she gets back with him he will dumb her again :evil: asc_26

MERLOT wrote:
Anyway got text late last night saying.
"Hi, good to see you this evening working so hard. Hope all is okay? Would like to remain friends, tho understand if different at the moment. Regards."
So folks what does this mean, is he just naffed off that I've not contacted him since he 'disappeared' or does he just want us to be real 'buddies' now. I'm use to fellas just clearing off for a while after the deeds done.

IGNORE HIM! He's offering you to be friends again, for you not to feel bad but nothing more than that. If i were to interpret that SMS - IGNORE HIM! :wink: Moved on... :oops: XRW-147

^ian^ wrote:
The guy might have been feeling bad, that's all.

Typical excuse. ^ian^

XRW-147 wrote:
- ^ian^ wrote:
  The guy might have been feeling bad, that's all.
Typical excuse.

Jesus what does a guy have to do these days?
Answer: Nothing and they're still scum. asc_26

XRW-147 wrote:
- ^ian^ wrote:
  The guy might have been feeling bad, that's all.
Typical excuse.

Typical excuse to clear their conscience and still trying to play a handsome image. :wink:

^ian^ Yeah I don't know what obviously bad experiences you girls have had, but to be honest it sounds like to me the guy was trying to extend a genuine hand of friendship. Of course, I don't know what his true intentions are, but I didn't read anywhere where he wanted anything else but friendship. zam Merlot you have to add some info here....why did he dumped you in the first place???? asc_26 Merlot shared her story in "how to call it quits thread" :wink: you may refer to that if you wish, so you can understand the full story. MERLOT Hi I met him at the Health Club, I knew of him, but didn't take much notice. We're both in our early forties, never married, he's CEO, I'm an architect. He pursued me for about 3/4 months, then we went out for just over three months. He forced it along, wanting to get seriously, love, family, key to his house, wanted to know everything about me. He'd obviously asked around because he knew alot about me, he just said he wanted to be sure and that he doesn't like getting too involved unnecessarily. Coming to the end he seemed a bit all over the place, hot and cold, and appears scared, usual thing, hurt in past, so rather than it go on further, he just reckoned it would end sooner or later so why not now. So you can guess that I'm not happy, but you can only go so far, then you leave them to it. So I've had no contact at all for two weeks, I don't believe he wants to stay friends, I'm sure he's got plenty of friends who wouldn't be so much hassel, unless there's an motive. Probably the ego thing. But yeh I want him back, but responding ain't going to get me any nearer. zam Ohh its like the legendary Carrie love story. :lol: Fine if you still like him and of course willing to take the risk, then yalla let him hunt you down. Play a bit hard to get for sometime. If his feeling is strong he would not give up just bec u didnt txt him back. :wink: St.Lucifer Please watch,
1. Pyar ka super hit Fomula[Super hit formulas for Love] (with English Subtitles) 3 times a day for 2 weeks.
2. Kamasutra - By Meera Nair (English version)
3. Stalk him
on a serious note..,
I think he wants to just b in touch as a friend so as to make sure that u are ok.
Seems like your story is just like another one in the same forum a lady from london in love with a CEO both in their 40's, unsure of what to do..? is it the same..? asc_26 [quote="St.Lucifer"]
Seems like your story is just like another one in the same forum a lady from london in love with a CEO both in their 40's, unsure of what to do..? [b]is it the same..?

Merlot is the lady from london you're talking about. bear I agree with Ian... Guys don't speak in riddles... can't be bothered... We can lie really well... but not hide meaning. Though I can't remark on whether you should be friends with him or not because I don't know what ended it. And I'm not asking... Unless you wanna tell. EDIT: Just read what happened. It sounds to me that after 3 months he decided that you weren't the one he wanted to be with. Yes, I think he was wrong to promise you stuff, and say that he loves you. The word love gets thrown around too loosely. But getting back to your original question, sounds like he's just looking for friendship. alexandra
- MERLOT wrote:
  Recently couple of weeks ago I was dumped by this fella, after a full on three month relationship, promising me the earth etc... love the full works.
  Anyway it ended, I'm getting myself together, training at the gym. He saw me last night, keeps looking over. He just gets the hi and cu of me, what more can he expect. Anyway got text late last night saying.
  "Hi, good to see you this evening working so hard. Hope all is okay? Would like to remain friends, tho understand if different at the moment. Regards."
  So folks what does this mean, is he just naffed off that I've not contacted him since he 'disappeared' or does he just want us to be real 'buddies' now. I'm use to fellas just clearing off for a while after the deeds done.
i have serious doubts that this man is able to be a real friend to u...for me this text u got sounds more like: can u be my friend and help me to get over u and when i feel horny will u accept (as we r friends now) to crawl in the bed with me....pls at least for my hormones :twisted:
friends? yeah right :roll:
one more thing i will add up: if u really want him back than make sure u can forgive and forget! clear ur head being away for a while, that will make u less vulnerable to his "friendship".
no matter what u decide i wish u luck :wink: sara_uk ^^^ the wise women has spoken alexandra
- sara_uk wrote:
  ^^^ the wise women has spoken
wise is too much...better not that stupid :lol: hack88 da fella dumped u and he still has da guts to remain friends.. .lol.. stupid...really stupid..lol ^ian^
- hack88 wrote:
  da fella dumped u and he still has da guts to remain friends.. .lol..
  stupid...really stupid..lol
It happens.
Well apparently it doesn't happen. According to the ball-breaking female contingent posting here, all he wants is to get into her panties again and he's just stringing her along.
He apparently has no intention of being friends, he's just using this to get close to her again.
Because you know, it's so easy to get out there and make genuine new friends in Dubai (or anywhere). asc_26
- MERLOT wrote:
  
  But yeh I want him back, but responding ain't going to get me any nearer .
After what he'd done to you? :roll: You want him back? :roll: Well if that's the case, be wiser for the second time around. But i think the guy isn't worth it. :? If he'll send truck of roses in front of your house with a banner saying that he wants you back, maybe you can think about it, otherwise let it go. You deserve someone better. asc_26
- ^ian^ wrote:
  - hack88 wrote:
    da fella dumped u and he still has da guts to remain friends.. .lol..
    stupid...really stupid..lol
  It happens.
  Well apparently it doesn't happen. According to the ball-breaking female contingent posting here, all he wants is to get into her panties again and he's just stringing her along.
  He apparently has no intention of being friends, he's just using this to get close to her again.
  Because you know, it's so easy to get out there and make genuine new friends in Dubai (or anywhere).
Finally, he got the right interpretation. :wink: ^ian^
- asc_26 wrote:
  - ^ian^ wrote:
    - hack88 wrote:
      da fella dumped u and he still has da guts to remain friends.. .lol..
      stupid...really stupid..lol
    It happens.
    Well apparently it doesn't happen. According to the ball-breaking female contingent posting here, all he wants is to get into her panties again and he's just stringing her along.
    He apparently has no intention of being friends, he's just using this to get close to her again.
    Because you know, it's so easy to get out there and make genuine new friends in Dubai (or anywhere).
  Finally, he got the right interpretation. :wink:
Well, on that note, I'd like to not hear from any of you moaning about how you can't find love in this city. MaaaD btw her location is Manchester. I wonder if this happened in Dubai or Manchester. not that it matters anyway... asc_26
- MaaaD wrote:
  btw her location is Manchester. I wonder if this happened in Dubai or Manchester. not that it matters anyway...
Merlot is in UK. :wink: asc_26
- ^ian^ wrote:
  - asc_26 wrote:
    - ^ian^ wrote:
      - hack88 wrote:
        da fella dumped u and he still has da guts to remain friends.. .lol..
        stupid...really stupid..lol
      It happens.
      Well apparently it doesn't happen. According to the ball-breaking female contingent posting here, all he wants is to get into her panties again and he's just stringing her along.
      He apparently has no intention of being friends, he's just using this to get close to her again.
      Because you know, it's so easy to get out there and make genuine new friends in Dubai (or anywhere).
    Finally, he got the right interpretation. :wink:
  Well, on that note, I'd like to not hear from any of you moaning about how you can't find love in this city.
We can find love in this city. In fact, love is just around the corner :lol: Going back to merlot's case, we're moaning about slutty & playa guys and not how we can't find love in this city and anywhere. :wink: ^ian^
- asc_26 wrote:
  
  We can find love in this city. In fact, love is just around the corner :lol: Going back to merlot's case, we're moaning about slutty & playa guys and not how we can't find love in this city and anywhere. :wink:
And you can tell someone is a "slutty playa guy" from an innocent enough text message.
I imagine it will be a long walk to the corner, let's hope love has the patience to wait (and doesn't send a text message in the interim.) asc_26
- ^ian^ wrote:
  - asc_26 wrote:
    
    We can find love in this city. In fact, love is just around the corner :lol: Going back to merlot's case, we're moaning about slutty & playa guys and not how we can't find love in this city and anywhere. :wink:
  And you can tell someone is a "slutty playa guy" from an innocent enough text message.
  I imagine it will be a long walk to the corner, let's hope love has the patience to wait (and doesn't send a text message in the interim.)
I am referring to merlot's case, why not read her post in "how to call it quits thread" so you can understand. and mind you, the CEO is no longer innocent.
Of course, i can't tell if someone is slutty or playa thru sms. :wink: unless, he's sending same sms to anyone i've known :wink:
It's ok to take the long walk as long it's worth it. :wink: True love waits. :wink: ^ian^
- asc_26 wrote:
  
  I am referring to merlot's case, why not read her post in "how to call it quits thread" so you can understand. and mind you, the CEO is no longer innocent.
I read it. I still don't see anything that would suggest he was a "slutty playa". Some relationships just go cold quickly, and yes, perhaps not showing up didn't work in his flavour, but that doesn't make him a "playa".
- Of course, i can't tell if someone is slutty or playa thru sms. :wink: unless, he's sending same sms to anyone i've known :wink: [/.quote]
  And you know the full story. Here we have one half of a story.
  - It's ok to take the long walk as long it's worth it. :wink: True love waits. :wink:
  Ok asc_26
  - ^ian^ wrote:
    - asc_26 wrote:
      
      I am referring to merlot's case, why not read her post in "how to call it quits thread" so you can understand. and mind you, the CEO is no longer innocent.
    I read it. I still don't see anything that would suggest he was a "slutty playa". Some relationships just go cold quickly, and yes, perhaps not showing up didn't work in his flavour, but that doesn't make him a "playa".
  If you say so. :wink: antidisestablishmentarian
  - Corcovado wrote:
    - XRW-147 wrote:
      - Corcovado wrote:
        exactly plus i think most men expect dumbed women to sit at home crying over them and waiting by the phone for them to call :evil: :evil: and when he saw u working out and looking good he was disappointed ... :x men can be jerks sometimes :x :x :x
      Probably a power / ego thing - thinking the woman will realize how good they are and want the person back when its quite the opposite in reality.
    lol agree , usually women feel better after looking back at their exs and say : " What the hell was i thinking??? :lol: :lol:
  On the other hand, why don�t you also think that your ex'sssss must be thinking likewise, saying what the f*king hell was I thinking, what a relief.
  If the relation with your current B/f is good, there is no need to show him that you are loyal and he is the best this way, you can use better ways to show him that.
  And like your ex'ssss, your B/f has brain to use it, he knows that you are sending him a message to tell him that you only want him and no other, as I said, you can do that without making your ex'sssss look stupid.
  After all, no one pushed you to be with them, and when you started with the any of them, you both didn�t know that you going to continue looking for a better one all the time, because there will always be a better person, at all times, no one is perfect.
  Plus why do you feel so insecure, and you are trying your best to keep what you have, if things are working out with your B/F there is no need to keep insulting your ex�ssssss
  asc_26 Anti... your nick is very long or it's the longest nick in DF? :wink: Back to the topic guys. MERLOT Call me thick, but the hell did (anti) all that mean... lol antidisestablishmentarian German: the doctrine or political position that opposes the withdrawal of state recognition of an established church; - used especially concerning the Anglican Church in England. Opposed to disestablishmentarianism :wink: asc_26
  - antidisestablishmentarian wrote:
    German:
    the doctrine or political position that opposes the withdrawal of state recognition of an established church; - used especially concerning the Anglican Church in England. Opposed to disestablishmentarianism
    :wink:
  Lecture is on... :lol: antidisestablishmentarian
  - asc_26 wrote:
    - antidisestablishmentarian wrote:
      German:
      the doctrine or political position that opposes the withdrawal of state recognition of an established church; - used especially concerning the Anglican Church in England. Opposed to disestablishmentarianism
      :wink:
    Lecture is on... :lol:
  he asked dear :? ok? asc_26 ohh dear i know. are you anglican or otherwise? asc_26 ^^an atheist? Why dear? antidisestablishmentarian
  - asc_26 wrote:
    ohh dear i know. are you anglican or otherwise?
  no I hate religions. asc_26 EDIt - double post asc_26 i've google this is the definition:
  - dis`es`tab`lish`men`ta�ri`an`ism
    n. 1. The doctrine or political position that advocates abrogating the establishment of a church as the official state religion.
    Prior to the Puritans, very few earlier believers contended for any form of disestablishmentarianism.
  antidisestablishmentarian
  - asc_26 wrote:
    ^^an atheist? Why dear?
  why not? :lol:
  what are you? asc_26 I have religion since birth but not religious. I am more spiritual. antidisestablishmentarian
  - asc_26 wrote:
    I have religion since birth but not religious. I am more spiritual.
  we all have religion since birth :wink: asc_26
  - antidisestablishmentarian wrote:
    - asc_26 wrote:
      I have religion since birth but not religious. I am more spiritual.
    we all have religion since birth :wink:
  You do? which one? PrettyPenny ok you guys have completely stolen this thread! how did it come to this? :shock: asc_26
  - PrettyPenny wrote:
    ok you guys have completely stolen this thread! how did it come to this? :shock:
  at least not me... :roll: :? pitbulero
  - asc_26 wrote:
    - MERLOT wrote:
      
      But yeh I want him back, but responding ain't going to get me any nearer .
    After what he'd done to you? :roll: You want him back? :roll: Well if that's the case, be wiser for the second time around. But i think the guy isn't worth it. :? If he'll send truck of roses in front of your house with a banner saying that he wants you back, maybe you can think about it, otherwise let it go. You deserve someone better.
  The guy can do that remember he is a CEO means he has a load of money to pay for that even a dozen truck. Sending tons of roses doesn't mean that he loves you. Do you think if the guy buys you a BMW Z4 then he really loves you? Thats the reason why guy wouldn't want the girl for a longer relationship because sometimes the guy feels that the girl is being materialistic. I'm sorry for my comment but those comes from my friends experiences. sauron Yaaaa, for guys, I think, the thrill is in the chase. Once they've got what they want, they get bored..........seeing you looking good and over him, maybe you present a challenge again?