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Reasons why HE stopped calling?


keyper i often hear women complaining that the guy they went out with the other night or the guy they have been dating for some time now have stopped calling them. And they would unendingly ask, "why isn't he calling me?" Well, who knows? Guys out there, what would be your main reason why would you give this kind of torture to women? Can't you just tell the women straightly what's happening? I thought women are difficult but I found men more difficult & more complicated in this case.
WhiteJade He is just not that into you. Flying Dutchman
The guy probably asks the same "why isn´t she calling me?" keyper
yeah right. but you know, not all women can understand that easily. I mean, they don't give up easily especially when they really like the guy. they would give the guy's action some reasons like maybe he's busy and many more "maybes". worse is, they are willing to wait. so why not just tell the girl straightly like, 'this won't go anywhere'? this maybe rude but what is more rude and intolerable is to make them hope for nothing? keyper
okay....? that's nice. but... who takes the gambling in this stage of dating? isn't it men? Chocoholic Because guys just think differently. Whereas we sit checking our phones for calls and messages every two seconds, they're off doing stuff and don't really give it much thought. Roadtester There are others reasons *)he found someone else to have sex with *)he's feels he's waited too long for sex as well as mentioned earlier - he's not that into you! This is year 2010 girls should ask guys out! xty
I would have to disagree ;)
Why most women always demanding everything have to be always from the men first? And then expect men to be like God who know and do everything even without being told. And if they don't, they are always to blame. ;)
But speaking about the calling after the dates, don't expect too much on first date ;) The same situation when the girl refuses to go out again on a second date. Roadtester how come my post was edited - - is that word offensive? smokedawg Choco edits stuff without giving a reason or caring. she also loves answering questions that are directed towards guys. To answer your question, he obviously saw something he didn't like, wasn't getting what he wanted from you, or something better came along.

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Chocoholic Which post? I haven't removed anything from this thread! Anyway going back to a previous comment, many women are traditionalists, we like men to well be men, to take the lead. There is absolutely nothing more off putting than a 'wet' bloke who can't make decisions and constantly relies on a girl to do everything. Roadtester
Whoever changed this please state why.
'to have love with' lol
It said sex!
SEX IS DIFFERENT TO MAKING LOVE! melika969 it is changing automatically in the forum, as much as I know s.ex will be changed to love, Biatch will be changed to princess! I didn't try other words yet! ;) Chocoholic Oh okay, this is not mod edited, the forum is set up by admin to change certain words! I take it you wrote s.e.x! It automatically changes it to 'love'. Certain swear words are automatically changed too. Dawg I'll be awaiting your apology for making assumptions shortly! Roadtester lol my posts looks even funnier now! yes it is s.e.x Chocoholic I can't remember which swear word gets changed to 'tasty' but that's quite funny! Roadtester
The temptation now is to test the filter - but ill resist as there are'meek' eyes on this forum. Chocoholic Test it in Fight Club because no-one will care in there anyway. Roadtester I'm a few posts short of mailbag so as to speak, I thought you need 100 posts?
Chocoholic Oh you do, and then you'll have to request permission to enter. wilfred yeah one of the most occuring problem it may happen if the gal is not much fun loving and most of the time a guy will always crack jokes or tell some funnt things bt if the gal ends up just laughing it wont get a right feed back... both shud understand wat the other likes toi speak about if not then the one wont feel like calling back... the gal also shud be aware that she doesnt expose much during dating as most of the guys will only look for s..x and later will ditch the gal by avoiding smokedawg no apologies Choc, you've done it before to me and others. Don't ask me to research either, not all have the time you do. Jamal
after readin a couple of your posts ,,, i've come to the conclusion of this ... that almost everything you've posted here on the forum is most probably things that have happend to you baby...
though im still in the assumption stage of what i've just said above ... im gonna have to continue assuming,, so as to provide a more accurate answer to your question..
with that said ... the answer is this .... he stopped callin cause you been bitchin alot .... so get your act right , an belive me you gonna be serv'd right. Chocoholic Ouch Jamal - harsh! Dawg - continue living in your delusional world hey :twisted: keyper Well Jamal, you've got me with your answer- very blunt. I like blunt and frank people for they make conversations interesting. But you disappoint me with the way you dropped it – very shallow, provoking, & morbid. With your frivolous assumption,” that almost everything you've posted here on the forum is most probably things that have happened to you baby I do not wish to spoil your delusions (thanks for your description, chocs.) but unfortunately, you didn’t actually hit the spot my dear jamal. Don’t forget that aside from the words “own experience”, there exist other words like “from other’s experience”, heard from others”, & spoken by others”. I’d be a crook if I’d say that I haven’t asked this question to myself. I occasionally do. But not to the extent that it’s gonna eat me. Do you know what really bothers me, it’s “why doesn’t he just stop calling me?” So, I hope, I have enlightened your assumption. Yet I like your answer. You’ve given something from a new angle. Please elaborate your answer like “been bitchin’ alot?” How do you say that a woman is ‘bitchin’ alot?” razi_sc Hi, there are only two things in this scenario 1) boy has lost interest in her 2) may be he wants her to become little more aggressive because girls just wait for things to happen and after certain time period if girl is not responding as per boys expectation boys tends to back off a little to see what girls are upto tell me what you thing about this thanks Jamal
well girl , firstly thank you for appreciatin my answer .
an sometimes things need to be explained in a shallow provokin manner .. especially when the intention is to get ur point across in a blunt way , as you put it .. ... an also i aint no shrink , i cant pamper my words to suit.
an im glad to know that your problem is that he keeps calling an not that he aint callin ...
an as far as my assumption goes ... yep you very brightly enlightened it. thank you
an elaboration on my answer aint necessary ,,, especially since you already like'in it from all directions ... keyper
"lost interest"
Okay, truth is, when a guy stopped calling, the first thing that would cross women's mind is that, "he has lost interest in me". but because women are from venus, they won't entertain that thought and instead give the guy some benefits of the doubt. they would rather think that maybe "he's busy" (which is the lamest excuse). And even if a womn accept the fact that her guy has lost interest in her, that won't make her sit and relax - she would want to know why. So again, i'll throw the same question every woman i've encountered has been asking, why can't he just tell it?
Is it too difficult? keyper
“Really?” guys stopped calling to make the lady become aggressive and just to see what the girl is up to? That’s, I think, another side of men which is not so obvious. As far as I know, you can’t make a woman more aggressive in this way – but instead, you would make them weaker.
And may I just say something about “girls just wait for things to happen”, - not absolutely true. Girl’s just like playin’ on the safe road.
But anyway, your answers could help girls out there to understand more guys’ non-verbal actions! razi_sc no its not that difficult unless girl has made it explanation is if you put too much pressure on the boy and keep arguing on every small things like why you late ?, why you watching other girl, etc you know what i mean. then guys tends to back off they then they keep their feeling to them only what you say? razi_sc first of all i am not trying to make any woman aggressive its about those guys who does that i am just sharing my thoughts and as for safe road is concern girls are right but if they find a love of their life i think then road is already safe for her according to my thoughts both boy and girl are equally responsible for this situation Chocoholic Just read the book 'Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus' - explains everything. xty
Sometimes I wonder what's the purpose of reading this kind of book. To understand more about opposite s3x? Sometimes we tried so hard to understand and fulfill other but forget what we deserve and be ourselves. It's perfect when things work both ways, but in reality it is rarely happening (e.g. one being taken for granted). panaghoy i agree to the guy who said that he is just not that into you. think of it this way: you are in a shop and there is this gorgeous shoes that you wanted to buy you are now contemplating which one to gey - red or gold? note that both have the same style, price and brand but you can only buy one now, if he stopped calling --- you have to stop thinking about it and stop asking why he hasnt called anymore? that only means that he had lost interest on you. dont feel bad about it or to yourself. nothing is wrong with you - these things happens to everyone. what you should next is go out and have fun! meet new friends and get back in the game ;-) dubailife
Yes,correct.They dont anderstend what we need from them. :cry: SiciloBylka94

Not when we truly love. We re good when we truly love. xty
But do you understand what we (men) need too? Men also have needs but mostly being overlooked because most women tend to focus on themselves (when saying men are selfish is not all true) or being passive (e.g. everything should be men first, men should know all). melika969
yeah, casue when women start to care, men will go in to their cave! they always need to be ignored to get out! ( not all men of course, but this is typical between them!!) Chocoholic
Have you beewn reading 'men are from mars, women are from venus' too?
LOL - I laughed so much when I read that book - all so so true! melika969 ^^^No I didnt read the book, I talk based on experience! ;) Rickydubai coz. the guy isn't getting what he wants ! melika969 or coz lots of the guys dont know what they want!! :D I think that's closer to the truth! melika969 ^^^Chocs is that u talking trough my name again?!! i m sure I didnt write the second sentence above!!!! xty
there's a difference between being caring/supporting and possessive/controlling. being the latter for example the husbands who are afraid of their wives. do you really want your men to be like that? no wonder some of those men try to get out ;) melika969 ^^^oh I think the problem is the difference between definitions of caring/supporting and possessive/controlling! Of course vital issue! ;) By "get out" i meant get out of their cave not get out of therealtionship! Rickydubai
I guess, we men know exactly what we want but at times, to get out of a relationship we pretend that we do not know what we want so that the girl feels that we do not know what we actually do know :) xty I think pretty much the same like women too. They need some space too right? In fact they don't know what they want from men. Even if they do it would be rather inconsistent ;) One day they want A, the next day they want B. Men needs are much much simpler, and consistent. But unfortunately women can't see it. Chocoholic
Arse!!!! Sorry sorry, the friggin buttons are too close together - keep hitting the wrong one!
Men are just weird creatures! melika969
Of course everybody needs space, but in women's mind ( again what I m saying is in general, not applied to all women!) women can think about all the things together, so when they are at work they can think about their relationship, their family, their friends, movies, books etc etc. So they would realte all the things together and their man is always on their mind, but for men all these things have their seperate space, they think about all seperately and can focus on each alone...
I think that s why men's needs may be simpler, and besides that s why they seems ignorant sometimes. melika969
I dont agree, lots of guys actually dont know what they want, they just think they know! ;) Rickydubai I think, you think men do not know what they know but i know, I know what I know and what I do not know so I don't think I know, I actually do know ! Phew... :) Chocoholic I don't think guys know what they want, and they don't want others to know that they don't know that they don't know what they want, so they pretend to know what they want! :wink: xty
don't you think actually it is better like this? we don't screw things from other things. women with their changing emotions tend to do this, mixing things up. probably you're upset on one thing (office, friend, bad hair, weight gain, etc etc) but blame it to your man. that's another reason why men can't stand. ;)
but even though sometimes we don't talk about our life/problem outside the relationship/family, it doesn't mean we don't want to share. we do want to share and expect the woman to support too. but just don't tell us what to do, don't be possesive/controlling. actually it's not arrogant but rather pride. let them be "the man". we want to be "the man". we want to be needed. melika969 ^^^well it's not about our decision, women's mind is like that and that s how we are different from men. I dont think each of these is better than the other, it s just the way it is and each if these way of thinking has their own pros and cons about the being possessive as i said before, in my own relationships as I started to need they just get away! so for me I should always be independent with no needs! dubailife
ok,tell me what he need if he live with me 10 years,he love me to mach,I give him everefing what I can and what i can not,never I not have any thing with over mans,but he always have small romance with ladis and after he jast told me that he need freedom and he living party life but till now teleng me about his love to me.ARE YOU UNDERSTEND THIS? melika969 ^^^feel sad for you dubailife :( xty
i'm with you. i too had 8 years of serious relationship, but she changed and had affairs with some guys. first i blamed and questioned myself, just like you now, as i never had done anything considered bad. then i stumbled upon this:
One thing that psychologists know about cheating that the general public seems to ignore is: cheating is never about the relationship… it’s not about the partner who was cheated on not being good enough. Cheating is about something wrong inside of the person who cheats, plain and simple.
therefore, no need to blame yourself and regret whatever happened in the past. don't worry, time will go by. there will be time you will understand that you don't need to understand why all of this is happening. you can't change someone. you can't change the past. you just need to accept and move on. RAMO
very difficult ... sometimes we do like to hurt your feelings ... other times we do not want extra complications in our lives smokedawg Men know exactly what they want, but just like women, we change our minds sometimes RAMO
not only we know what we want, but with all due respect, women are just too too romantic, loyal, affectionate, considerate... Bora Bora
Good qualities I would say if she is to be the mother of your children. RAMO
I assure you that I know that very well ... good nite



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