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It seems impossible to have a serious relation in Dubai?Why?


Mr. M hola all, been here for almost a year now, and i have a weird impression that no one is taking serious relations into consideration, why is that so? Why everyone consider this place a temporary location where they can just f**k around till they get back home and only then start something serious, and why all girls are very much concerned about three things (nationality, company and salary) and only based on these they can decide to either start a relation or not? Now don't tell me look at the full half of the glass because honestly i don't believe it exists in this case, i've meet a lot of people since i came to dubai but not a honest and serious one (now don't want to sound deperate but why is it so hard?)... And then girls complain there are no serious guys in this city...NO COMMENTS... I would like to hear all of ur commnents, guys and girls... Thanks for replying
^ian^ Perhaps you're looking in the wrong spot? Check underneath your car seat... you might find more than chewing gum and that mobile phone you thought you lost. Mr. M unfotunately it's not as easy as u think to socialize with new people in dubai, people are "afraid" of socializing here, not to talk about the nationalities barriers, depending on ur nationality u'll have more or less chances to meet new people... mrs Robinson so where do you hang out mr. M....we need a bit more info for us to be able to analyse your particular problem... oh...and what nationality are you, where do you work and what do you earn...and personally I also love to know what car you drive, so please...if you would... Mr. M
don't make it look so pathetic :D i have a good job and a good salary, won't tell u what car am i driving :glasses2: , i'm arab. mrs Robinson good...it can't be the nationality, job or money that's the problem then.. so it must be to do with the way you look, or your personality... Mr. M
I don't think is any of these two, i'm very easy going and a happy person by nature, it seems to be something with the nationality, many people are reluctant of having arab friends, and girls usually think twice before starting anything with an arab (honestly sometimes i can understand why, keeping in mind the "beautiful" reputation some arab has)..
But tell me Mrs. what are usually girls looking for and how to determine if a girl is serious or not?
BTW it seems i'm not the only one having this problem in dubai, don't u think so? Flying Dutchman
There you go. Indeed a lot of ladies absolutely refuse to date Arab men. Not so much because of a bad reputation, more because of bad real experiences.
Dubai is a hub site, also concerning relationships. ^ian^
Nobody I have met is reluctant to have Arab friends. Perhaps the problem is with your definition of 'friends'.
Start out that way... stop trying to pork everything that moves, and life becomes just a little bit simpler. mrs Robinson
Can't speak for every girl...but I'd say initially they would look for someone that is pleasant to talk to, attentive, has a sense of humour and keeps things light...seems here a lot of the guys get a bit pushy straight away...if a girl likes you, she'll see you again, don't worry....nothing wrong with keeping a bit of distance, a bit of mystery in the initial phase...
and if the chemistry is there, things will move on...and honestly, what kind of car you drive shouldn't even be an issue. If you feel a girl is only after status, she obviously isn't the right one. Now, personally I wouldn't even dream of asking someone how much they earn, do women really ask you that?
Oh and for the record...I have never had any problems with the Arabs I have met.

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Mr. M
Like it or not but it's true, don't worry i know what the word friends means...and then i said "many" not "all"...i have non-arab friends BTW, being myself only half arab it's easier...
Life is simple buddy, don't take it on ur nerves :D ^ian^
Suspect it might be a looks thing then. Mr. M
Thanks for you enlighting answer....luckly i don't have that pushy attitude, i believe in the "take it easy and don't rush" concept (doesn't mean show a lack of interest)...
not everyone asked me about how much i earn and even who did, did it always in a very undirect way... Mr. M [quote="^ian^"][quote="Mr. M"]
Trying to be funny or what? I think the look is a relative thing, some people might like what others don't...and anyway it's not a "looks thing" mrs Robinson so you have the right attitude...in our elimination game...looks are left...any specifics...It does help to look fairly fit, fairly tall and fairly clean... And what nationality girls are you attracted to...maybe that needs looking into... ^ian^
I'm not the one with the problem. Mr. M
well i'm fit, a play sport regularly, 6.2 ft+ tall and clean...
U see i've never had any nationality preference, as long as she's not green and from another planet...i'm attracted to honest, sincere and easy going girls, that's it... Mr. M
Now it turned to be a "help for this deperate guy" thing, well it's not! Just want to know you opinion/experiences guys, don't need to be scanned. mrs Robinson
Mr. M...you sound like ideal material....I guess you have just been unlucky....I can only say, don't worry too much...stay cool and take it easy...and avoid Boudoir...
Mr. M
hahahaha why Boudoir? Never really been there... mrs Robinson oh....in that case...go there and report back ok....I don't want to influence you beforehand... Mr. M
Yep i'll do that, don't have great expectations thoug Jeevan serious people looking for serious relationship seriously enuff are nearly extinct, so finding serious people looking for a serious relationship is seriously out of question. :? guess i been working too hard lately :lol: reviewer
Get [color=red]serious[/color] the guy is in dire straits :wink: mrs Robinson I take it all you guys are seriously happy with your lovelives... so spare a thought for Mr M.... St.Lucifer Hmm I can suggest you an easy way. Go for an assisted marriage.. The neo Indian way.. Arranged marriage packed in an all new Fresh Bottle.. You dont have to be in the competition to win the best of girls.. Just start a formal courtship with the girl(s) yoa family suggests you/ or perhaps even matrimonial websites.. and then decide for youself. On the contrary, if u want do date a girl and get into a serious relationship.. u've to search, find, give it time and you must utilize all your skils.. or just get to know each person as a friend and nothing more.. dont get friendly with anyone with the expectation of a serious or not relationship.... to me thats the best way a relationship can bloom.. and somewhere down the line both of of u'll realize that u've become integral parts of your daily lives.. It may sound passe or even utopian, but it still works that way. mrs Robinson true...all this love stuff is highly overrated... ^ian^
No... THIS GUY is in Dire Straits
Jeevan
he seriously needs to take a[color=darkred]walk of life[/color] reviewer
I'm thinking about it ...seriously.... :lol:
On the lighter side , I agree with Luci and Mrs. R...lighten up.....start with friendship....and take off that sign in your head ..that says..."Guy looking for serious relationship". Sometimes love doesn't need to be found, it will come in its own time and place..unexpectedly....
:) :) raidah im a very social person, yet in the past almost one and a half years since ive been here i havent managed to build a single at least slightly close friendship with any female. have some male friends that i mostly made through my bf. so my best friend, my boyfriend, my girlfriend and family are all in one person. for which im very gratefull by the way, cos generally for a good relation you need luck, but here even more so. and even thou its true, too many women to count run after only the money and passport, guys are no better when it comes to making an effort to have smthing genuine. bonk
Wow :shock: raidah :P yeah, reading it over, i guess that does sound funny :lol: . with best friend and girl friend the idea kinda got repeated :lol: anyways, who lives in dubai without any relatives knows just how important is to have smbody close to you. St.Lucifer
Thats strange.. but hey it also depends on whether u want to make friends or not isnt it? perhaps u r really not keen on making friends.. or say u are really happy to have all in one :) reviewer People tends to search/look for love/relationship so hard that they all forgot to live their lives.....one need s to lighten up a bit...the more you search for it the more it becomes elusive.... rudeboy mr m u ll find ur angel on day mate. but dont expect her to be knocking on your door on ur msn or on this forum. What u go to do is? get out there and look for her. No1 will giver her to you on a plate like she was some sizzling dish, which I wish would happen :D. Just keep on trying you will find her mate. I suggest u join a gym or something or some club not the blooody night club like a sports club or something cos i really have doubts where u hanging around ;). MaaaD Mr. M its too bad they closed Cyclone, my most meaningful relationships have been after meeting girls there ! raidah
im happy with what i have, thats not the point :) . the point is, maybe i just havent met girls with whom to "bond" with...or maybe i dont want to hang out too much with those who are too much after money and getting drunk in the bars. could it be im getting old? :shock: :lol:
i noticed by the way that because of the lack of girl friends here, typical female conversations start to irritate me... :roll: not that i would have ever been the girly type... St.Lucifer
hmm.. Is getting drunk a barrier to having good friendship? Or did i read it wrong? quatroporte Sometimes people don't socialize properly and thats why they end up alone... Get more involved in public activities... I personally find it easy to make friends in activities such as Aerobic Classes, Dance Classes, Photography sessions etc. Things that you can find friends who share similar interests with you. and as many said in this topic, make casual friends, be interesting and always look good... honestly, you will find the opposite gender knooking your door :wink: I dont expect to find "MY DREAM LOVE" in a club or on Facebook or MSN. ohh one more thing, do your best to avoid relationships at the office... you dont want to be the center of gossips and many other reasons as well :) just my two cents quatroporte ohhh posted twice sorry Captain Sirus Black
tell me about it .. been here a year .. not a single friend .. sigh .. Captain Sirus Black
true enough .. our wise old say dont run after a train, money and women .. it would come to you .. Captain Sirus Black i have been here a year now .. i live alone .. have no friends other then the ones i know in office .. been through hell finding a place to live and to adjust .. finally i managed all of this .. but sorry to say people here in Dubai are racist .. people only go for European or American .. i dont know why .. or they hang out with there own folks .. beside this place can not be called home .. Dubai dosnt give the that feel which is generally associated with a place called home .. so people are not willing to spend there life here (other then those who have no place to go back to) .. so they treat Dubai as the hub to move on or to go back .. in this sitution its highly unlikely to fall in serious relationships .. beside serious people are as extinct as the dinosaurs .. and women of any race culture nationality ethinicity nationality look for three things status money nationality MC You're probably looking in the wrong places. But I do have to agree that there are far too many girls out there that simply just wanna have 'fun' rather than get into a relationship. But then again, that's probably because most guys want the same thing :lol: reviewer Everything has its own time.....live your life....dont get bugged down with relationship ..it just adds to the stress of the living in a very fast paced city... Relationship will come at a time no one expected it to come,,, :wink: Captain Sirus Black
hmmm .. so what are the right places ???? where i can find the girls looking for fUn .. not relationships .. as u said thats what guys want to .. right .. Captain Sirus Black
ahem .. i know .. :) .. it sure aint gonna come in dubai .. thats certain .. reviewer
Yo never know..it does come in unexpected places,,,(its that a song..?) oops: O|DN07 No one is bad!. evryone has something good inside which can't be ingored!......agreed for wait then they don't need anything else!........ don't look for you're understadind with her .. look how you can understand her!........ thing's then going so easy!..... try it!.............. Captain Sirus Black
auummmmm .. i dont think so .. love shove is all loads of shit .. its all your harmones .. see i love you is eight letters .. so is Bullshit .. :wink: Husalfen Hey Mr. M. I've just seen your topic and totally agree with you. I don't know, what is wrong, but have some thoughts: - to easy to get a night one stand - a lot of people live in bedspace or shared accomodation - a lot of people here lie faster than the camels can run. VERY SAD HABIT!!! - 9 1/2 out of 10 men think with a certain part of the body and NOT the brain - people don't want to "mix up" with other nationalities. A lot of europians are very snoppy human being Just some of my thougths on a tuesday evening without a ONE NIGHT STAND. Take care. Husalfen PS: If somebody gives you lemon, then make lemonade. Husalfen How sad for you. Maybe you have met the wrong people OR are not openminded enough. I could have more than 200 friends, if I'd kept all of them. But I hand-pick my friends, because you can't trust a lot of people in Dubai. It seems, that people in this part of the world are born without both manners and common sense. Do you think, it's because of this people want to be friends with Americans or Europians???? And by the way: What is wrong about being from there? I'm danish and have ONLY one english friend and NO danish friends here in Dubai. The rest are from everywhere else. You just need to be open-minded and behave in a nice way. Not spit on the street, pick in your nose and leave a wind at the diningtable. Quite simple??????? Have a nice evening. And I'm still free for VALENTINES EVENING. :D :( :P Husalfen MC
hahah this thread was for finding girls who want a relationship, not fun :P
But if you want fun, you are gonna have to figure that out on your own, not the one to encourage these things ;) reviewer
H E L L O O O ..did I hear that one right....... :lol: :lol: Captain Sirus Black i was being sarcastic .. DUH !!! ... i would rather have friends and be casual then to be stuck in a relationship and ruin my whole life coz of all the Ifs and Buts and cants and wonts .. i think straight .. yes or no .. which dosnt work in a relationship i guess .. MC
Yes, yes you did :D MC
Sometimes, a maybe is fine :wink: reviewer
In the middle ground, having to lie in both beds.....quite fun sometimes.. :lol: :lol: :lol: ebonics i only read the first post, someone tell me what are the desirable fashionable nationalities, companies & salaries? australian, self employed - thumbs up or down? just in case my fiance dumps me :lol: reviewer Aint nothin to worrry 'bout mate...your's still in fashion.... :lol: :lol: ebonics in that case im accepting resume's for future suitors - just to keep on file, i like to stay organised :lol: reviewer
Future referencing I supposed not a bad idea.... :) Captain Sirus Black
ya .. i learned it the hard way .. a maybe can create lots of confusion .. so can i dont know at times when you dont want to answer .. and silence is another weapon .. but in a relationship .. you need to be with someone who wont even say or ask why even if you killed someone .. or maybe thats what i think .. bonbonboi
Sad to say That's true Mr. M .. and there are reasons for that...
for example... reasons like...
01. look at the social structure here in UAE.
02. most expats came here to get a job because they were live a poor life in their home countries.
03. they are singles and they do not expect there will be someone gonna marry with them..
and anybody can list another more reasons...
in Anyway, lifestyle especially in Dubai is sucks and sometimes it could make you feel lonely!
Better to find a hobby for yourself and get addicted with it and no need for more headache and no need to ask what's going on :lol: Chocoholic We're concerned with more than three things I can tell you that straight off! Things like education - who wants to date someone without a brain! Sense of humour - making us laugh always goes down well. Looks - explains itself. Hygiene, manners, etc.. And for me, height! I've never ever dated anyone under 6ft tall. Fit bod, no-one wants a jelly belly. raidah
well girl, you made one mistake :) . you thought with the head of smbody who has brain. if you didn't have any, you would not want sense of humor, cos you couldn't tell when smbody was joking, having brains would not be an issue in the 1st place, hygiene, manners usually come with some education.
...and i second the height :wink: . no offence for shorties, but for me a small guy is not a guy at all. bonbonboi
By the way I'm a short guy 5.5 ft :walk:
but with a big tool :ky:
Meanwhile there are short men get married with so tall women,
Plus to be short or tall will not be that big deal to discuss about...
we are about the mind and the behavior....
I'm a Happy short boy and have no problem to carry my small body except that those two balls :blob:
and I always say This is me I am who i am . you could like me because for who i am as a person as a unique soul or better you leave me alone :study: St.Lucifer
TO Both you GIRLS.....Dont dream so much.
Whom would guys like?
Education - Doesnt matter coz its of no use. I wonder how educate people relate education with Brains.. huh!
Sense of humour - Who needs a joker girl.
Looks - Well Balanced, some of us folkes like bottom heavy, some like top heavy.. but over all.. balance is the key. And having a pathetic face doesnt matter.
Hygiene, manners, etc..
Height -U Wear high heels anyway.. is there a chance to know whats your real height?
raidah
somebody is in a bad mood :) . don't know about Chocs, but i don't dream of perfection in a guy, nor do i want it. but brains and humor and a lot of other stuff do matter.
we have met only once and it seemed to me you are both educated, smart and with sense of humor. so don't tell me you would want a girl starring out of her head and not having a clue about anything. :) St.Lucifer
Haha lest we turn this into a mutual admiration thread... Thx for those words. :P
I was just making a point.. n glad that its been noted. :) Still no answer from chocs though..
I was point out to some of the no brainer points in that thread..
and to say a short man is no man.. is making a threat n insult to over a billion men. :)
Note that India, china, Baharine, Iraq, Nigeria, USA all 've an avg national height of 5.5 - 5.7 for men. :)
And I dont believe education is a measure of one's smartness or intelligence level. It's just an opportunity that poor countries/people lack
and rich people/countries take for granted. Period. If intelligence was to be measured by education level we'd have to say many of the scientists are braindead and we'd have to write off a lot of very successful men from time unknown(not just with a huge bank balance even otherwise )
But again..
Height -- that depends on whats your view of short men. Agree..
Education -- Chocs could be comparing people whom she interracts with, may be most of her friends/ acq. all come from similar socio/economic backgrounds and hence it could be a good basis for judgement..
All said.. its All cool.
P.S : We've met twice ;)
And you are a stunning person with that hot russian accent :P hahahah i'mma be killed for that :P Chocoholic Well ok, I like someone that can hold a conversation with me, nothing like awkward silences. Each to their own, but I just have a thing about height, and yes I wear heels most of the time, so that means the guy has to be even taller. I like to look up into a guys eyes, not meet him eye to eye or look down at him. I think it's a genes thing, I like a man to be a man, to feel protected and tall guys give that to me. I like guys who're funny, being able to make someone laugh is one of the greatest things. One thing I cannot stand is childish guys, I hate that. MC
I would prefer her to jump on the table and make monkey noises to awkward silence =/
What you guys mentioned is good enough for dating I guess, but there is so much more if you are looking to be in a committed relationship. St.Lucifer
Chocs.. different strokes for different folkes..
I like tall girls as well (oh! i'm not tall) ..may b coz I believe in equality :) not to look up or look down . And I've never felt threatened or ashamed of a person's height when ever i've been with a person whom i know well.
But for me what matters is the compatibility, comfort and connection you feel with the other person. I think..sometimes.. its the ability to have a beautiful conversation that would be the decisive quality for a partner.
Perhaps its a bit more....its how you feel when you are with that person that matters(i'm not talkin only abt sexual compatibility here). .. its how independent, confident and well mannered the other person is what matters.. having a beautiful soul is what matters the most.
But all these are trivial when you are in love. :) nothing matters.. all that matters is the love between the two.
P.S : The heels thingy was a generic statement towards almost all women. I've never met you - technically. spoonman
how about short guys on steroids? do the trick? raidah
ewww Unknown Devil Okay Okay People!! Let the devil speak!! lol First of all as few people mentioned is a the social structure in dubai. How!! hmm!! I dont mean to offend anyone at all!! Been living here since I was born and all. Now before the white expats and asians like filipinoes and all. This place was filled with less of arabs as in u have the locals and few migratory ones and the whole place was filled with sub-continent asians like Indies, Pak, Sri lankans, Bangladeshi etc. We worked ourselves like anything and got this country where it stands and all. But since then us asians are very conservative and all and still few people are. Because of which if its like preferable to have a relationship with people in our community and all. U hardly find a sub continent asian with an arab or a white expat husband or vice versa. Then when the so called development hit Dubai. U go to any bar where mostly u find hooke.rs or u find the place is filled with males mostly than females. Cuz every guy wants one thing which is the reason females are more reluctant. Mr M. u might be one of those genuine cases which exists in one in a thousand who would wanna have a serious relationship with a female. But u need to approach her right. Cuz other wise the female thinks u just lookin for a one night stand. I know there are lot of females who also have fun which infact is not with any or every guy. Either the guy is loaded or is damn good looking or knows how to talk to her. The percentage of male population here in dubai is not equal to the female population I believe and which makes guys thing stand up and if he cant find a female he rather go get himself a Hook.er. And face it!! its a fact in Dubai. And pretty difficult to find. Plus the nice so called clubs in Dubai are so racist they wont let u enter specially sub continent asians. Because they have a notion us asians are dirty and stuff!! Bloody hell the club was built by us and not like every guy out there is dirty. I go to clubs for the music cuz I can't live without it. Everytime I get stopped even if I am dressed right attire. And the worst part is in all the white folks around me they always for some damn reason had to pick me and much worse the security guy after he catches me and all makes another asian check me like I am some kind of trash!! Due to which say u look for a chick like u wanna hit on in the club, u cant, cuz she just say u outside getting caught to enter illegally or something. This has happened to me so many times even when I am with my white colleagues. There are so many factors which needs to be straight to cause a relationship first and then go for the later part. But if the first impression sucks then ur screwed. I went to bangkok. I had the money and I was treated like a king or something and I met girls, hooked up with them, went out partying, para sailing and loads of things. I couldve easily made a relationship. But Dubai doesnt give u the chance to do that. Its is so artificial that even puke looks better!! U just gotta wait thats all I can say unless u get lucky!! And frankly speaking since ur white u have a better chance!! Neways happy hunting!! I hope u get someone for a serious relationship though I myself believe in none because of Dubai!! St.Lucifer Thats a very cynical view.. I dont subscribe to that..I've never been stoped.. unless ofcourse for going stags into a night club. But I got in after a friend came in to rescue. Anyway, I dont believe that holds any ground in the context of this discussion.. I've a number of friends who are into cross ethnic relationships here.. And the most valuable Playa i've met and who's a friend of mine happens to be a Pakisthani. :P not a white boy. :D :D deadlife Well man as Ian said ur lookin in the wrong place here mostly people are fun loving, scared or pessimists so they are not really serious enough or are scared that it will be heart broken at the end Find some one who watches a lot of hinid movies and believes in "happy ever after" Unknown Devil
That again depends on what kind of music u cater to and what type of crowds. Being mostly clubs filled with desi music which probably u might go and also enter but I have faced it always in scarlets in emirates towers. Yes why not whats the harm in entering stag. I see a whiteboy entering stag so why not me. Though we both are properly dressed. Well then again its the experience which tells. My experience has always been that way. What u want me to go to a mall and check out a female and stalk her as in find the right moment to ask her out for a date and then get caught by the cops which frankly can happen in other places not in dubai. So I wanna go to a club so to hit on females!! Why not I really dont understand!! Taimoor LoL i guess dubai is a heaven for guys! the bars are great! the people are just so friendly! barasti is like the best place ever! but ya i would agree with the nationality part! being a pakistani i did have some problems starting a convo but later on being a British Asian it wasnt as bad!! LoL so ney gals looking for a Pakistani / Jobless / 0.00Aed a Month !! LoL!! spookservices.com Im a white boy from usa and wondering what ratio is men to women. Taimoor well to be true the ratio is quite bad!! lol i guess one gal for every 5 men!! lol and ya one more thing is arabic girls hardly know english so this makes it like kinda tough!! but with all the expats it goes all good!! ;) blue226
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