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Is it important for your partner to be virgin when you get


Dubai Knight Damn good point J. Perhaps the narrow minded, backward thinking types ought to look a little higher on a girl and see if she is actually smart, educated and sensible before they worry about her virginity? If she is, then you marry her and let her contribute to society and get a job rather than forcing her to wear a hijab, locking her in the house and turning her into a baby factory. Its the 21st century after all... :? :? :? Knight
abdulnafees I was reading an article and came across this and might as well share with you guys. So how important is this factor for you when its your time? Incase you feel uncomfortable replying please vote BabyDoll Dont think there are many 18 year old virgin boys around, are there? They start as early as 15 these days from what I read. So unless you want to get married in the teens ... gtmash
That may be wherever you're from, but the situation here is different. M! What sense does this make.... i dont wanna be the one who needs to ride her in..... and learn her everything. :roll: Weirdos abdulnafees Now the most important point where we seek a virgin partner is cuz of our religion and culture. Still in countries like Egypt and Syria the mother of the groom places a cloth on the bed as she wanna have a prove that her son married a virgin or not?. In some culture mother herself see and witnesses that the bride never lost her virginity till now. So for many the family attitudes, personal values, or religious beliefs provide them with an inner voice that guides them in resisting pressures to get sexually involved before the time is right and the person is right which ofcourse means marriage. And mostly importantly the risk of diseases. Why do they lose it? Its cuz some dont wanna left out among friends which is "Still being a virgin" or "LOSER" as a label on their forehead. So teens of now think its no big deal to experience such a thing, another thing that makes a person to loose it is TV & Movies which is the best source to move them into these directions. Some tries to show their love with phyical relation, some being forced by others or that person whom she/he loves. Sometimes your curiosity or sexual feelings can make you feel like it's the right time to have sex, even though it may not be. Yet a girl can lose it with hard work or exercise as most of the well religious girls keep everything within limitations. Again, what matters most differs from person to person...When it comes to sex, there are two very important things to remember: one, that you are ultimately the person in charge of your own happiness and your own body; and two, you have a lot of time to wait until you're totally sure about it. If you decide to put off sex, it's OK — no matter what anyone says. Being a virgin is one of the things that proves you are in charge, and it shows that you are powerful enough to make your own decisions about your mind and body. If you find yourself feeling confused about decisions related to sex, you may be able to talk to an adults for advice. Keep in mind, though, that everyone's opinion about sex is different. Even though another person may be able to share useful advice, in the end, the decision is up to you. Cheers!!! Liberty7 [color=darkred]I saw the results, there is 50 50 % wich means 1 for yes and 1 for no!!!!!
by reading the title i thought that there will be alot of reactions!!!!!
i really want what arabic men think about the question, thanks for talking about that.
regards;[/color] M! OK Yanni, so what about your own vote.... :roll: ive voted and one more, so you didnt Requesting here thoughts but not sharing yours, you dont have a idea or what? ^ian^
Provided that is indeed the reason why one remains a virgin. Plus it should be said that just because someone is a virgin doesn't mean they're in charge... it just means they haven't had sex yet.
Too much importance and too many double standards with all this for me to comment further. The same mother that will watch sex and insist that her son marries a virgin, is the same mother who gives her daughter a vile of goats blood to ensure there's blood on the sheets. raidah
amen to that.
plus, dont know how can anybody consider a person in charge of a situation that he or (most likely) she has been forced to in the 1st place. ur in charge when u decide not to jump in bed when ur 15 and dont really know what u would be doing, but wait until u get older, more knowledgeble about the subject and have the chance to do it with somebody u trust at least to some extent.
europe is full of arab (female) students who live their lives while they study, than go through a make up operation to become "virgin" again by the time they go home. i feel sorry for them for having to submit themselves to this crap just to make some narrow minded guy/mother in law happy. and im sorry for that narrow minded guy also for being happy in his ignorance.
how pathetic...

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raidah [quote="^ian^"]
Provided that is indeed the reason why one remains a virgin. Plus it should be said that just because someone is a virgin doesn't mean they're in charge... it just means they haven't had love yet.
Too much importance and too many double standards with all this for me to comment further. [color=red]The same mother that will watch love and insist that her son marries a virgin, is the same mother who gives her daughter a vile of goats blood to ensure there's blood on the sheets.[/[/color]quote]
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DF is really crap today Jeevan If you are expecting a virgin, then you are not born in the right era St.Lucifer Relax ppl.. Y make such a big issue of such a small tissue! Liberty7

[color=darkred]this small tissue had ruined famillies and reputation and lives!!!! becarefull of what you are saying !!![/color] Liberty7
[b][color=darkred] i use dark red just to find my messages quikly when there is a respond like you did, but when you are on a forum and give a point of view, you need to know that people react to that, if that makes you relax iam going to ignore your messages next time and skip them. have a nice day!!![/color] St.Lucifer
Cant do anything abt those like you with moronic mindset. Using dark red to make yoa point clear and warning someone off an online discussion is so imbecile like. Grow up! ^ian^
Hahah, what a chickenshit. You can't go around pretending people with different opinions don't exist. St.Lucifer [/b] Liberty7
[color=darkred]I'm done with you![/color]
SCY :lol: Jamal i aint into trainin my trick on how to give up to me on bed ... dats if a hustla like me ever gets hitched though .. i aint down with the whole schoolin thing ... so nahh man i aint require no virgin .. J requires experience .. nahh but on the real .. to all my fake assss arabian brothers who claimin they sooo strong culturally .. take a god damnn deep breath for a second an tell me where all your culture and traditions at now .. you done sold it all out and you still is .. so comin in here claimin all this and all that aint gonna help bring back issues that lost homie's .. i mead damnn something small like virginity is a what you wanna focus on when building your future with a woman whom claimin love for ??? most of the nigggas out here who claim they only wanna get married to a virgin aint virgins themselves to begin with .. and as far as them syrian an egyptian i dont know lebanoni's or watever women you talkin about who are so strict an all that ,, thats nothin bullsh it they just gimickal tricks/hoochies .. they goin around town in tight ass jeans an shirts showin us everything they got then puttin a scarf on ... i mean for what ? baby i dont wanna see your hair sh it i get you wig if you aint got none .. im checkin out your booty an im bout to exploit it if its fine .. thats how the majority of us honest men think when we visualize them kind of thangs .. an yo the same mothers that put that white bed sheet for the first night to check out if there son got married to a virgin got daughters who they be pimpin by allowin em to go out an slang there bootys u know wat im sayin ... so enough of this holy islamic / arabian gimmicks you all tryin to show .. get with the flow a window with curtains or a window without it .. is still a god damnn window. my bad if my words dont connect ... but sh it thats just how J is like .. he spits out alot of intellctual jibberish in a single sentence. so comprehend it Chocoholic It's personal choice but I'd rather have someone with experience, who wants a life of bad s.e.x! The whole bed sheet thing is a load of old rubbish, women who're virgins don't necessarily bleed the first time they make love. If you're into sports and other activities your hymen can break at anytime, even using tampons can do it - it's a ridiculous thing to do really. and the old thing, that's it's ok for men to go and 'sow their oats' before they get married - purlease! St.Lucifer Even a bicycle ride can break the irrelevant tissue.. ^ian^ This is an age old argument, and we've all heard the reasons why it is stupid 1000 times (and all the reasons why the hymen can break). The bottom lines is though, there is a helluva lot of dickheads in the world. Dubai Knight
Is there such a thing as 'bad s.e.x?' Or have I been doing something wrong all these years?
:shock: :shock: :shock:
Knight Chocoholic That's a personal question DK, one which I'm not going to answer. Lets just say that there are some guys who don't have a clue which buttons to press. ^ian^ Sometimes the only button I want to press on women is the 'off' switch. Jamal a combination of the finger or fingers an tongue prior to the insertion of ur bigger homie always keeps you on the upper level of the s.e.x performance chart ... am i right ? . and chocoholic baby you damnn right ... like i said your trick / woman dont require to be schooled .. she gots to be packin the know how prior to the get down .... its like a mother fu cking job search baby ... if you aint gots the experience dont ever be bothered to holla at me with ur resume ... cause i jst dont require ur services .... unless ofcourse ur current workforce is streched cause you got them coverin every night of the week .. then you can take in a trainee for an afternoon bang ... or as my british homies here prefer to call it a shag ..... damnn no wonder british men is lousy in bed ... cause they keep on sayin "im gonna shag you" ... i mean that word dont create no rush ... but now if you go around say "baby tonight im gonna bang you up proper" .. now mmmm thats a creation of temptation even before you u do it .. the want already gots her in a pleasurable mode. quatroporte I see many ppl confused the topic... From what I understood the question (poll). I dont want to confuse Religion on this topic... If I found the right girl who can understand me, love me and can be a mother ... It will not really be important if she had a previous relationship or affair (Virgin or not)! given that she is starting from the point (we are together) and so on till the end that she will be faithfull, loyal, honest and a loving wife... I will never judge her on her past mistakes or behavior. Ms UK I don't think I know anyone that has bled the first time they had sex :lol: You can break your hymen doing a cart-wheel or martial arts, it's not an accurate indication of whether a girl is a virgin or not. Dubaidude007 This reminded me of something funny I had heard at work a few months ago. A sexually active co-worker went out of his way to find himself a virgin bride from some village in India. He wanted her to be a virgin because he could not bear the thought of her having been with anyone else but him. When he returned from his honeymoon he was complaining to anyone that would listen that his wife would not let him completely penetrate her because it hurt too much. They apparently had not had full intercourse while on their honeymoon! reviewer
He can console himself of having a virgin bride and a virgin honeymoon :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: BabyDoll
Precisely BabyDoll
Really? You get away with saying that??
Shag and bang should be taken out of the vocab completely. How unrefined & unromantic ! reviewer
Hmmm trying to imagine what will my future virgin bride would say if I say


bride will say hop in and bring it on ..austin powers :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: kanelli So funny... I don't really hear women banging on about the importance of marrying a virgin. I think men who have had s.e.x but still expect to marry a virgin are perhaps worried about their wife having something to compare him to. If he is a crap lover that is all she will ever know and she will have not much of a clue that it could be so much better. Sounds good for the guy :P reviewer
Hey, your highness no offense meant...trying to stir it a little bit
Anyway, its a dilemma really for one the bride can't insist on marrying a virgin groom since there's no proof a guy can show to say that he's still virgin. while its the opposite for the groom......maybe thats how life is meant to be.... :? St.Lucifer
None has anny proof to show. I guess a good relationship is the one thats based on trust. So partners words are the only proof in anycase. me thinks. BabyDoll
Great minds think alike ! :lol: quatroporte
Thats true... my ex-girl had few relationships before we have met, and she was my first relationship. I made it clear from day 1, I dont care about past relationships more than what I care how we will be with each other from now on...
Loyal, faithful, honest, romantic and loving is what I care about.
and we where supposed to get married however, un-expected issues showed up made us break-up...
bottom line... she being a virgin or not... is not the issue... she should be a virgin in her soul
Loyal, faithful, honest, romantic and a loving wife :)
my two cents as well ^ian^
Maybe any girl who has to be subject to this stupid and barbaric ideal should tell their potential partner to fck right off?
Perhaps that's how life is really meant to be. reviewer
Imagine this over a billion girls will or have been subjected to this ideal, that's how life is really meant to be for them. ^ian^
Oh way more in the history of the Earth.
Doesn't make it right, or destiny, or how it was meant to be. reviewer
Yes indeed, pray more and more women will speak up and let their voices be heard. ^ian^
I think we should donate money so they can buy guns.
You know it's the right thing to do. JMK do I want my husband to be a virgin - Oh God No!! ...eew.... Captain Sirus Black
u must be kidding .. i know virginity is not a virtue its lost opportunity .. but for some people its important not to lose it till you are married .. Captain Sirus Black
whats wrong in him being a virgin .. ????? Captain Sirus Black
agreed .. trust is the key to any relationship .. quatroporte
I am just curios; why dont you want your husband to be a vergin??? is it lack of experience???
you will be his first and only girl in his life!!!! :)
and I think this is so genuine to have a partner who is a virgin (regardless husband or wife).
if it happened my so-to-be wife is a virgin I call it as a bonus :) as I will be her only man in her life. abdulnafees and some replies makes me wonder ... day of judgement is near O|DN07 umm!!.... i wont take anyone incharge if question ask from me.......BUT... in our way of life yes we do care about it!.........Dont hit me narrow minded!........................... Not_Sure She is with u as a virgin...but in her dreams..she has 6 guys doing her! :lol: They say dreams do come true... Captain Sirus Black can you eat shit or vomit .. i cant .. it is food .. isnt it .. but processed by someones elses digestive juices .. the same goes with sex .. you cant just stick your tail in any hole or a hole in which many have already stuck it in .. its disgusting .. ewww .. masrisy [color=olive]As an Arab & a Muslim, when it comes to marriage it's absolutely important to have a virgin partner.
It's like a fact in all Arab societies even non-Muslims in my country think the same way!! Arabs (Muslims & non-Muslims) look at the girl who lost her virginity before marriage as a wh0re; they even have a name for her " Sharmoota ".
a word in the ear for Arabs saying the contrary I say "stop being hypocrites, u know it's true"[/color] Flying Dutchman
And what´s the name for a guy not being a virgin during the wedding night?
Oh, and do you believe if a woman cannot proof being a virgin its because of horse back riding?
Me personally, I really cannot understand this "obsession" for virgins. quatroporte
No! we don't call them Sharmoota or a wh0re!?!
maybe you do but not everyone. quatroporte
Unfortunatly Arab guys do what they want... and at the end they demand a virgin girl when they want to get married.
and unfortunatly, most of the guys think that if the girl did not bleed on first night means she is not a virgin...
and as you mentioned, not only horse riding... but if she play any sort of sports she would most probably loose it..
and YES, I am an Arab guy and I prefer my girl to be a virgin (as I am her first man) however, this is not a condition. ebonics
you people are rediculously deluded. masrisy
Hey! chill out guys! don't kill the messenger!
We're not here to judge anyone, I'm just revealing accomplished facts about the Arab world.
ebonics: a word in the ear, u're in multicultural community, if somebody doesn't agree with ur views, IT DOES NOT MEAN HE IS DELUDED! HAVE SOME RESPECT IF U WANT PEOPLE TO RESPECT U! blue moon "Is it imporant for your partner to be a virgin before you marry?" A few points... Firstly, I don't know any virgins. This includes some muslims. That means I could not get married. Try before you buy. The love between two lovers is a wonderfull thing... What if she was no good at it, or didn't like it? Why are women meant to be Virgins, but it doesn't matter for the men? ^ian^ Can someone just delete this thread. It's been done to death. Chocoholic Oh for goodness sake. People should do whatever they want, however I disagree that women should be virgins, whilt men get to do whatever they like that's just daft. Plus the whole showing the sheets thing on the wedding night is ridiculous, women can break their hymen at anytime, we've already discussed this. In this day and age with people focusing more on careers and living more full lives before they settle down, they're getting married later and later. You would literally end up with a bunch of 35 year old virgins walking around. There's nothing wrong with people having experience, in fact it's a good thing. I don't want a dud in the bedroom, and I've certainly learnt a few tricks myself. Try before you buy? - Absolutely! ^lan^ f*ck me side ways bonbonboi to clear that out... the virgins going to look for a virgin partner ... otherwise, who are not virgins might will not care about that... meanwhile, in our arab community, if someone get married with a girl and after on if he discovered that she was not virgin he going to reject her and send her back to her family. I remember a story someone told me that his friend get married with a girl... after some days later.. he repealed the marrige. his reason was... she knows how to suck and that's mean she was with men before! period _ Chocoholic That's just stupid. Bunnu virgins get married to virgins non-virgins get married to non-virgins (tho marriage is not necessary for you) Problem solved.. end of discussion deadlife I agree with Jamal with the banging stuff I want my wife to be educated and stuff but it doesnt matter whether shes a virgin or not I mean why should be digging up on her matter I agree there are still simple minded (stupid) people on the planet but they should look around a bit because things have changed Going out, drinking, smoking these are basics nowadays there are more urgent matters to be attended rather than finding out whether your partners a virgin or not I mean you can buy a used car>>>??? cant you???? Absoluteherb Spam bonbonboi [color=blue] Your virginity is the head crown that you should be proud of . [/color]


Raya Virginity is very important in Islam not only for the woman but also for the men ! However if you're not a virgin anymore because you have been married before, that shouldn't be any problem...You can get remarried if you want. A perfect example is the Profet PBUH, His first wife Khadija was married before and so where some of his other wifes. Now days it's hard to find a man who is still a virgin ...but that's between the person and his creator. I won't make a big deal out of it ;) 6600 I don't think it matters. Some people meet their partners at right time when they are still virgin while others meet their partners after they lose their first time. The most important thing is love itself. Don't repeat past. Past is past. Don't say that your religion doesn't allow. It's only an excuse in most cases. If you love your girl, even she is not a virgin, please support yourself and her! There's nobody else except you and her in your love world! Dubai Knight Having at least one of the partners in a relationship with experience will certainly stop a lot of the fumbling about and make the whole thing a lot more fun. :lol: :lol: :lol: Knight Countryboy Hmmm same old story . and always there will different views to that point. skanojia_hr [my dear friend virginity is not dignity it is lack of opportunity :cry: Dubai Knight
Or a sign of ugliness!
:lol: :lol: :lol:
Knight puppypup I think it is more important for the man to be a virgin at marriage. He's used goods if not. But how is he going to pull that off with the 3 other wives. I guess he'll just get virgin surgery. Now a woman need not be a virgin. She needs to sow her wild oats first before she settles with that 1 MAN. bonbonboi Read this quotes:
"im 23 years old but im still a virgin.. Staying virgin until marriage is one of my promise to God, i hope i can keep this one until i got married.. because for me it is sacred, and it is not a sin when you do it after you’ve blessed by God.. I had a boyfriend now for 3 months, and I told him that i don’t want our relationship be strong by sex.. and because im saving it for the person whom I want to marry.. and he understand it and respect my decision, actually he’s proud of me because of that.. :) And my beliefs in having sex outside marriage is not Love.. its a Lust! when a man respects you and control he’s urge he definitely love you.. i had many friends who engaged to sex in a wrong time and after that the guy just left them, and they just want girls to have sex with them and if they refuse to it, they will get mad and sometimes hurting the girls.. it’s so ironic coz some girls would allow the guys do that to them because of their love for their guys… I hope we virgins can handle that situation.. just stay strong and under control.. good luck! God Bless us.."
"I am a virgin and I am twenty six. My friend who I am talking to finds it very sexy that I am a virgin and want to wait. My body belongs to God, so I am waiting until my wedding night. If a guy cannot wait then he is not truly in love with you. You will find a boyfriend someday who will love you enough to wait.
Why does it matter how you look? The right guy will come along and love you for you are on the inside. Saying that about your looks sounds kind of like you are spoiled."
Yup. Decision worth waiting for!
Marrying a virgin in my opinion is a blessing. So keep it!



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