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Genuine Love Relationships starting out of a Club?


St.Lucifer Extrapolated from discussion on the thread Western Expat ratio thread, DK and Ian are raving abt how the members of ever mysterious s.ex look at men at clubs and end up with trash, while the good, genuine men sit at a corner and discuss some serious issues at some genuine club in the town thinking that a well mannered, gorgeous ravishing girl with a heart of gold would come and talk to them. That makes me wonder.. Is there even a small possibility of that happening..? ;)
^ian^
It happens, but I don't think the chances of it happening in Dubai are very high at all. Mostly because there is a dire shortage of these 'genuine clubs'.
Also, I think the likes of DK and myself are propping up the end of the bar, drinking our Guinness and discussing the finer points of manhood are not sitting their waiting for a girl to walk up. On the contrary, we're enjoying ourselves, talking about things that matter, and in general getting on with our lives in an extremely refined and civilised manner.
If a girl finds this interesting, she is welcome to join us, but there are no expectations that this will happen.
I have never had a successful relationship from a nightclub liaison. Now that I'm getting to those years where I'm looking long term, I do rather enjoy the quiet, refined, intellectual, intelligent, stimulating conversation at the bar, as opposed to posing and trying to fluff my tailfeathers in the right combination to attract some random bird. asc_26 Genuine love is made in heaven. You can't find it even in genuine clubs. :wink: There's no genuine club in dubai as far as i know. :wink: I would like to write more but i am afraid i might get bullied. :( Shall we define what's a genuine club then? :wink: Bleakus more importantly what is geniune love? asc_26 I have my own understanding of what a genuine love is. Let's hear it first from St. Lucifer as he's the one who wrote the subject line ~~Genuine Love....~~~ :oops: :wink: Bleakus did you hear this line before....... "like butterflies in your stomach" if i had butterflies in my stomach i would probably kill myself, plus it would hear.....what is that feeling.... :? :? apparently you feel like that when you are in love asc_26 i feel butterflies in my stomach whenever i have presentations but im not in love. :( You mean, buttterflies in your stomach can be equated to genuine love? :wink: Bleakus
thats some crazy stuff dude, insects in your stomach...ewwwww asc_26 Dude, im serious about what i wrote. Butterflies in my stomach when i have to do some presentations and im not in love. :( And you think that's crazy. keep it going dude and justify your case. What's genuine love for you? :oops: ^ian^
Start a thread about it. Oh hang on, there's already 100+ threads about what is love.

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St.Lucifer I really dont know if a club can be a good place to get into a relationship.. I've always gone to a clubb or pub to enjoy it... some times.. yea by enjoying the beautiful bods with or around, but most of the times to sip on to my Whisky and talk to my friends.. abt everything.. to open up yoa spirit :) ;) Genuine love is the one which eliminates the Ego between people. It extends the personal boundary or the personal bubble, to include the one you love. In such a relationship you wouldnt have to make adjustments for each other coz what he/ she is the reason to love that person. I keep hearing that clubbing cant b a start for a genuine relationship.. but I believe it can happen from anywhere. not that u fall in love with a person at first glance.. but they say love has no boundaries.. Bleakus
sorry dude, didnt mean to joke about it
sadly i dont know what love is? so i dont know what you are talking about? ;)
its all good Bleakus
so should i or shouldnt I?
do you have a link dude asc_26
A thread about GENUINE LOVE is fine dude. :wink: But i think St. Luci already defined what's genuine love for him. :D If others want to share their own definition about the subject, then it's worth making a thread. :wink: Yallah Dude! :D Nick81 Pffft you people are naive. Clubs were created for us alpha males to pickup chicks, score, and then kick them out the morning after. :oops: Anyway, more seriously, clubs are the WORST place to start a good relationship. Trust me on that one. No need for me to comment this, give examples or more details. It's a fact. Sure there can be exceptions but not worth it to spend your time looking for your soulmate there! kanelli I think Nick is right. I have known a few couples that formed based on an original one-night fling after a night club, but they didn't all last. It can happen, but I think it is rare. Nick81
You pickup guys in clubs too ? Does hubby know about that? :lol: kanelli No, I have never done anything at a club except dance with my group of friends. I wasn't into the meat market side of clubbing. :lol: However, I have met some couples who said they first met at a club. One couple was married with kids and they admitted they were only supposed to be a one night stand. :lol: Nick81
:lol:
Nice! Well like I said there ARE exceptions... But I wouldn't rely on this too much
asc_26
Same here, again there are rare exceptions or one in a million. :wink:
I think it also depends on what kind of clubs and the atmosphere inside the clubs that we're going to. Some of my friends met their partner in a club and their relationship last. :wink: sara_uk
:lol: :lol: :lol: well that is nice, a nice lady will be like hay you seem decent just chatting to a friend do you wana hook up?? Like hell any girl will do that!! keep waiting DK :lol: raidah is there a best place anyway to start a normal relationship? one of my friends used to say, she goes to the office to work, to the pool to swim, to the shop to buy things, to the disco to dance, etc. so we would always tease her about what is then the place to meet ppl and maybe start a relationship? the guy with whom she is planning to buy an apartmant and get married is from a night out with the girls. some meet on the internet and go straight to the altar. i came to this stupid city for smbody i picked up on the metro during summer vacation. an ex co worker of mine is already having a child and life with a guy with whom both her and her friend had slept, one after the other, after some crazy night out. a friend couple got married this summer after several years of being together and they got together because he was begging her practically on his knees and almost failed all his exams cos of her rejection, so finally she felt pity for him and decided to give in, thinking she would kick him out after he passed his tests. so how can anyone tell whats the best place? freza raidah
er, um okay :?
But maybe we're talking about a bit more normal people here.. alexandra
gorgeous and ravashing with heart of gold will wait for the good genuine man to come and talk to her....i guess! so better for the good man to raise his a$$ from sitting at the corner table and go talk to her! :lol:
do i make any sense :? :lol: :lol: :lol: sara_uk
perfect sense to me :lol: :lol: bear nothing good has ever happened in or come out of a club in my experience... except for the hour or two of exercise from getting your groove on. But even still my preference is a calm atmosphere, a cup of coffee, and a good conversation. alexandra
:wink:
and also another reason why the ravashing girl will wait for the good man to talk to her first is that if she makes the first step and goes to him, she will most likely be treated as a hooker... :roll:
now seriously, men don't know what they want (some of them!!!)...and if a girl will make the first step in a situation like that (the club) they will never consider to have more than one night stand! Nick81
Oh babe, it all depends on what happens later that night. If there's no wow factor, then yeah it's 1 night stand for you!
Blame the game, not the player!
:oops:
:lol: sara_uk
plus there is too many guys that will try to chat you up first that you will not have a chance to notice the good guy chatting to a frined. :lol: :lol: anyway forget club not best place to make a good relationship. it is too loud to get the name of the person not alone get to know them a bit, club is nice for dancing and harmless flirting. alexandra i am not sure who was this "u" u were refering at :roll: but i agree with u...no wow factor than the guy is not even worth it a one night stand :lol: :lol: :lol: am i right girls? 8) Nick81
Oh man, and to think some ppl are wondering what you Succubi are discussing in the Ladies' Section!! :lol: :lol: :lol: ^ian^ Meh. Girls. Nick81
^ian^
LOL! Funny.
But LOTR is so gay. alexandra
oh man... like u wouldn't snoop in the Ladies section and find out if u r a "victim" of our talks :lol: :lol: :lol: Nick81
Looks like someone missed my post in the Black List section :roll: I am well informed sweetie! :twisted: alexandra
hehe just read it buddy! all bla bla, i don't buy it, sorry :lol: :lol: Bleakus dudes, just get married ;) arranged are the best Nick81
Well the very minute you posted this, you posted in the Ladies' section too and every single time I refresh the page I see a new post in there! Haven't seen so much activity since the new section was created! So you did kinda buy it eh? :twisted: Am I right or am I right? :lol:
Anyway I was kidding, but like I said, it doesn't take a rocket scientist to imagine what you're all talking about in there... sara_uk
Actually it does because if men can understand women then it will be no problems in this planet. asc_26
Ohhh..mental telepathy nick :wink: alexandra
dude u shock me.... :shock: :shock: :shock: r u virtually stalking me???? :lol: :lol: :lol:
that confirms what i saied about u....i would love to know all we talk about but u act like u don't care :P alexandra
nice joke :roll: MaaaD I have developed a genuine love relationship from a club ... me and whiskey are inseparable now .. we are very much in love !!! (i sound like ian in this post :lol:) Bleakus
why is it really that bad? ;) kanelli Can admin please make the Gentlemen's Forum soon so that the men stop obsessing over the topics in the Ladies Forum? I'm sure that we can predict what topics will be discussed in that forum as well. Anyhow, back to the topic anyone? weary_heart
How can you marry a stranger?!! Eventhough I met a lot of people who had arranged marriage - I still find it very odd! Bleakus
well you get to know that person first before the marriage and estimate dude
the thing is these days, you cannot trust a person even if you know them for years...Alot of my friends are happily married although they dont know that other person that well.
The more you interact with people, the more experience you gain in knowing people faster right?
do you agree my dude (weary_heart) Dubai Knight Worlds biggest Oxymoron: 'Happily/Married' Cynical older person. :shock: :shock: :shock: Knight ^ian^
LOL, up there with Romantic Comedy if you ask me. Bleakus oh come on dudes, i wanna get married (hopefully in the coming 3 years).....it cant be that bad ;) is it? :( :( weary_heart
You get to know them - like for a couple of meetings and a half hour exchange of thoughts?!
hmmm still Im not convinced...
Well, to each his own... Bleakus I think you need more time than that to get to know them before you decide its all good Dubai Knight
Yes...it can!
Just getting married for the sake of getting married is wrong. Get married when you meet the right person and spend more than 30 minutes with her before the wedding day, when you decide you are two people who can love each other and spend the rest of their lives together...not when and to whom your parents tell you to.
Live a little before they clamp the ball and chain around your ankle.
:shock: :shock: :shock:
Knight sage & onion
I am happily married, no ball and chain either Bleakus
well dude....
i see you point and it makes perfect sense
in my case, i refuse to marry anybody who i dont know or havent spoke to infront of me. Plus before i marry anyone, i wanna spend at least 4 months talking to her live (like not on the phone and stuff)....i want to get to know the person im gonna marry and find out what kind of person she is and is she going to be good for me in the long run. Its kind of an investment if you know what i mean........Loving that person comes after time and when you share a baby together, i dont believe that love comes after first sight, it doesnt work with me
thats how i wanna get married. I know that some families dont do what i wanna do but thats im going to be confident of having a wife
what do you think Knight dude? asc_26 Very Good Dude..at least you know what you want. Good start dude :wink: sara_uk beakus i dissagree, when people are dating for marriage they pretend to be the best way, not nice period to know the real person even engagement period not good either. Anyway if you start a thread about arranged marriage then I can write assay on the subject but I find it very difficult to understand how people can get married that way now days. asc_26
It works for some sara, and i think it's about culture thing also. :wink: sara_uk i come from that cculture asc and i know, that why there is high rate of divorce. asc_26 You do? I've heard in India, divorce case is very less and same with other asian countries. :wink: sara_uk
But not in the middle east but I can explain why in India have low rate but not in this thread, the main topic is diverting.
asc stop winking your eyes will hurt :lol: asc_26
Hahaha.. my eyes is the after shocked, yesterday i was purple. :lol: :lol:
I agree with you. In mid east especially in UAE, divorce rate is very high. Personally, i've observe that every rich countries are like this. Also i am wondering why the divorce rate here is very high where in fact muslim man can have four wives. St.Lucifer
I give u all authority to divert from the topic for this discussion :D, what have u got to say on it.. asc_26
Ohh...St. L, what can I say?! Thanks a lot. It would be better to make new thread. :wink: Bleakus
alright i think thats a good idea on opening a thread about it Bleakus
but thats a different issue all together, anyways lets disscuss it on that thread about arranged marriages ;) alexandra
so i guess u r ok with the idea that ur husband can get married anytime with another woman (2) than another one(3) and....oh yes i almost forgot the 4th wife :shock: ...hun if u r all cool about it than i admire u :P
p.s and if u r not marreid my mistake...i took it as a fact from the post where u saied "it's working for me" pixie 32 well, since the topic was - whether you can find true love in a club - i actually know a couple who met in a singles club in dubai and are now happily married. so maybe...it could happen after all.. Bleakus [quote="alexandra"][quote="asc_26"][quote="sara_uk"]
whats wrong with that? so that husband can get married anytime??? alexandra [quote="Bleakus"][quote="alexandra"][quote="asc_26"]
u missed my point...the prob was not THE TIME :roll: Bleakus [quote="alexandra"][quote="Bleakus"][quote="alexandra"]
im sorry i didnt get your point? can you explain it more? bushra21 she doesnt get why the divorce rate is so high here when a man is legally allowed to marry up to four women... Bleakus
it probably because one or both sides dont wanna live with each other...one of them or both of them give up so quickly for any reason. You have high rates of divorce everywhere not only in the UAE.
divorce and marrying more than one woman are 2 different subjects dudes. bushra21 i was just helping you understand what she was saying Bleakus
i appreciate that dude...thank you :D asc_26
Alex?! I am not cool about the idea of multiple wives. I am only wondering about the high cases of divorce here. :D St.Lucifer Its more like.. even if they can get married to 4 girls, still there's high a divorce rate.. isnt it..? asc_26
Exactly! Btw, bleak made new thread, you may check in dubai culture forum. :wink: Bleakus dudes, are we gonna start talking about how 4 wives causes high divorce rates or about geniune love in clubs? asc_26
Dude, i am only affirming what St. L wrote. True, this thread is for genuine love in clubs that's why I informed St. L regarding your new thread. :wink:
As to the high rates of divorce, I personally wonder why divorce cases are high here where in fact man can have 4 wives? Well, this would mean another thread for discussion. :wink: St.Lucifer I was in Kandy club( an indian joint) a week back, was very crowded.. but hmmmm wasnt a place to even think abt genuineness. :) freza
Why? Can you describe the place and people? I'm curious. St.Lucifer Hmm it has a quite big floor.. but it was crowded and everyone were sloshed. So its the right place to shake yoa booty n watch some good crowd.. nothing more nothing less. :) atleast after 12.. well moi think. Bleakus
we can do that by starting another thread..can you start the thread please ;)



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