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Dating an arab man


aisha7 i'm a filipina, and i met an arab man. he's an intelligent man, a major turn on for me. my friends had been telling me to cut whatever communication/ties i have with him. they said that arab men cant love, and will only use me for sex. ive read lots of horror stories involving my fellow filipinas being abused in arab countries, but then i'd like to think that not all arab men are bad. i happen to have a very high regard for Muslims, and i have wonderful Muslim friends. this arab man told me he loves me, and would want me to come and join him in dubai, or him coming over, whichever is sooner. i felt that 'love' is too soon, i want to get to know him more. i'm torn coz i kept on remembering wat my friends told me, but at the same time, i want to give this guy a chance. im confused :(
uaekid well I would say 95% are liars, just wana get a quickie LOL global_headhunter true not all arab men are bad, in fact some of them are really sweet, gentleman, caring & family oriented. but you have to be careful cos most of them are looking only for transitional gf while they are being arranged for marriage by their families. i assume that you have not seen him so it depends on exactly what your expectations are. are you looking for marriage? the title is quite confusing cos you posted dating an arab man but you said this"would want me to come and join him in dubai, or him coming over, whichever is sooner" connotes that it is leading to marriage. ArchitectRoel
Are you saying that you're going to marry the guy? since it is forbidden to live with a boyfriend/girlfriend here in Arab countries. aisha7
i have seen him, in pictures.
confusing title? i dont think so. but let me clarify sumting: coming over for a visit. does that mean marrying? not in my book. but i dunno how it goes in dubai. if coming over means getting married, no, i dont wanna get married yet.
@ArchitectRoel: i think he mentioned sumting about gettimg me my own flat/villa...that is, IF EVER, im coming over ArchitectRoel
Hollyy Coww!!!
You never met him..for goodness sake wake up kabayan!!
1.Unmarried couples: If you get caught living with him in the same room/flat/villa by the police you be imprisoned.
2.Visit visa is only last for a month.After that youl be penalized per day!
Be careful look before you leap! Chocoholic Aisha, hate to say it, but open your eyes and don't be so naive! To get involved with someone you've never met like that, is sooooo dangerous! How do you know the pictures are even him? There are some serious weirdos (from all over the world) trawling the internet for unsuspecting victims! Don't do it, no way, no how! And anyway if he's a local guy, sad to say that he will only want one thing from you, and to keep you on the side for fun, that's all you'll ever be. Kick him to the curb, wake up and don't be so gullible. Sorry if ths seems harsh, but this is how some people end up in a box! aisha7 nah its ok....dats why im asking opinions in the first place right? ive had relationships wid some foreign guys,but not wid a middle eastern/arab. all i heard were horror stories. @ArchitectRoel: im pretty sure it was him. you see, he is a friend of a former officemate. but our interaction is limited online. so the pics that he sent me was his, according to my former officemate. the former officemate was the 'bridge' thank you for your comments guys....im kinda sad but you are right :( global_headhunter
coming over for a visit? then what? like what architect roel said tourist visa last for a month only. non-renewable. he must be a rich guy if he is getting you a flat... extremely rich i must say if a villa on your own. i hope he did not say in the marina.
whoops! posted after aisha responded. good thinking girl... aisha7
i had him checked. i have friends in dubai who know their way around. yup, he is rich.
im not totally daft as u might think.
all i want to know really is what arab men are like. if seeing the goodness in any person is stupidity, then im guilty. u see, im just the type of person who doesnt think like 'all arabs are terrorists', etc. yeah sure some maybe @**holes, but im sure there are decent ones?
dang, im actually starting to get scared :?

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global_headhunter don't be scared of them aisha... like i said above some of them if not most are really decent. i am working in the recruitment business and i have had the chance to interact with extremely well educated arabs. very professional though some i must admit will test your patience :roll: :roll: :lol: ArchitectRoel
Ordinary people can get a villa/flat since the contract is only rentable for 1 year..He says getting her a flat not buying her a flat/villa. aisha7
im kinda veering towards to horror stories...but a lil part says there are still decent arab men out there. :)
thanks for the heads up :D global_headhunter
sure architect... but how much is the going rate for a crappy 1 bedroom now? 85k - 90k unfurnished... a rental in bur dubai for a 1 bedroom is 110 - 120k as of last year. a serviced apartment guess how much... need i say more about villas? K-Dog Aisha7. I don't know if you are for real, but lets assume you are. Listen to UAEKid above. He is the only local who has responded to your OP so far. Please don't get hurt. aisha7
yes im for real. im not trying to justify things, im just responding to their questions.
i appreciate your responses actually. thanks a bunch
8) ArchitectRoel
Here's a blog about Filipinas it says Filipinos are by and large educated, but not too informed you can read it if you want to:
global_headhunter
honest assessment from a foreigner... an interesting read. thanks architect for the link :) quatroporte As an Arab guy myself... I would agree with 90% of all what already being said... if you are looking to date him during your holidays and go back to you home country.. I would say you probably will get what you want from him.. but nothing more... trust me... yet, you need to reconsider that dating a person you only knew online is not a good idea. if you have friends in Dubai, pay them a visit and stay with them... don't stay in his place... meet him in a public place and see how it goes moving forward.
Chocoholic Of course not all Arab guys are bad. But the fact is you will neve get anything long term out of him. Due to cultural pressures, most guys date and have fun with women of other nationalities - and if that's all you're looking for then fine - but they will settle with an Arab girl. And yes, what the others are saying about meeting in a public place and not staying in somewhere he puts you is correct. quatroporte
Indeed... its not that Arab men are bad... its the culture and social pressure that makes most Arab men never get committed with Asian/western ladies.
In this open multicultural age... its possible yet very limited
Men will remain MEN everywhere... :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: Mahmoud04 FYI, I know some Arab men who are married to filipina girls, one of them is my boss :D... Anyway I would agree that 95% of men (In general all over the world) are *****. I general I would advice all girls who are looking for serious relationships to be very careful when they meet guys (face to face), and be ready for all probabilities, unless you are lucky and got one out of the 5% of us. And in your situation its a keyboards relationship, I won't say say it never worked before because I am sure all of us have heard of good stories started from a keyboard hand writing, but I would just advice you to be ready for any 1% that this guy is just playing or a 99% . cheers, good luck. M. howdy uaekid: Ahhh, C'mon man, how could you say that? we are not all like that, and do you
think your country men are not running for "Quickie" as well???
global_headhunter: there are famillies forcing their children to marry only from their countries girls, they raised them and they wish the best for them. is that wrong?
aisha7: to be frank, I like filipino people, im not criticising them, but cuz im planing to marry a girl from there someday, everyone warning me, they say she might cheat on you, or she can make a "quickie" with her x for a change and to remember her nice past, or she can easly take your kids and run away. we hear some scary stories as well, which is not aplicable on them all.
quatroporte: I rate your comment as the best.
My word for you Aisha. dont think about the money if he offered. sometimes it worths the risk, but it might be against your happiness. I know a filipina who was in a relation with a rich english manager, she lived with him in a luxerious house, fancy life, but she wasn't happy at all. then she left him with a poor waiter, searching for a simple life. get the one who will live with you in a room, but makes you happy, where ever he came from. Im arab, and I can sure tell you there are many good guys around, and there are other pain in the *** as well. No hasty decisions ma'am. God bless u. aisha7
hmmm honestly he's not offering money, maybe coz he saw that he doesn't have to? i mean, im not richie rich but not exactly poor either. i have a comfortable life, and he saw that. what he said was he'll make sure i'll be comfortable.
im sorry about the horror stories that you heard about filipinas. sad to say some of it are true. but then, you can smell a goldigger or a player a mile away. you can always tell by the way they talk. good luck, God bless you too sadiq 8) Galactico
Why not meet him in your comfort zone not his and see what he is like ... ArchitectRoel
If he's true gentleman, he'll go to the Philippines...Get to know each other better..
...But I don't think he got the balls.haha xero_ lol 14 years ive lived here in UAE and you dont know the horrors i have eye witnessed with my friends or people i used know who did what you are about to do. i-babahay ka lang nya and use you as a parausan. trust me we used to rent a part of our villa, and the same thing happened to the filipina girl, she was pretty beautiful too and almost everyday i would see her with blue and black bruises over her body. when we ask her what happned she just says she fell/hit something. thats one thing but the most common is, once nagsawa na sila they will just dump the girl alone. anyways, suggest ko sayo you will be better off with a pinoy. but thats upto you, kakahiya kseh minsan kababayan d2 kasama ibang lahi, they look pretty cheap to be honest. global_headhunter
hey howdy in what part of my post did i say arranged marriage is wrong? kindly re-read my post: "true not all arab men are bad, in fact some of them are really sweet, gentleman, caring & family oriented. but you have to be careful cos most of them are looking only for transitional gf while they are being arranged for marriage by their families."
i am stating a fact, cos isn't it true that some arab men actually look for gfs outside their culture when they are not yet ready to get married but when the time comes that they want to start a family they follow their family's wishes? its your culture and tradition and i totally respect it. if it works for you then who is to say that what you are doing is wrong? no one should, cos its your life.
aisha is asking for opinions so i said my piece, ultimately it's her decision. global_headhunter
wag makitid ang utak mo kabayan, mas nakakahiya yata na pinoy nga ang kasama mo pero me pamilya na naiwan sa pilipinas tapos yung pera na para sa mga anak eh ginagastos sa babae nya sa dubai o di kaya sa sobrang kapal yung ipapadala sa pamilya eh nanggagaling sa bulsa ng babae. meron ding pinoy na nagkukunwaring walang asawa at nanliligaw ng kabayan na kahit matino at galing sa maayos na pamilya eh walang pakialam para lang makagamit. o sabihin na nating single nga ang lalaki pero 3 naman ang kasintahan.
wag kang ipokrito, kaya ka nagagalit sa mga pilipina na me kasamang ibang lahi dahil di ka pwede sa ibang lahi. RobbyG
German: Wie sagt mal?
Dutch: Wat zeg je?
English: What did you say?
French: Comment dit fois ?
I wonder... english please! :wink: xero_
kapal muka mo kabayan, pamilyado akong tao at sa dinami dami ng nakita ko dito sa dubai, eh totoo ang experience ko. kung may kamag anak ka man na babae na may boyfriend o asawang dayuhan eh dapat talagang mahiya ka. dahil sa kahirapan, nauuto ng mga dayuhan ang kapamilya mo nag magpagamit ng katawan nila. nakakahiya talaga ang mga kababaihan naten na pumapatol sa ibang lahi, at feeling pa nila eh naka-jackpot sila pag umasta sa mga mall kasama ang mga mababantot na dayuhan haha. aisha7 hey hey....ease up guys...cant we agree to disagree without getting personal? update: he keeps calling but im not answering his calls. he emailed and asked me what is going on. Not_Sure
WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOH.....i like ur avatar ;) 8) global_headhunter [quote="xerokapal muka mo kabayan, pamilyado akong tao at sa dinami dami ng nakita ko dito sa dubai, eh totoo ang experience ko. kung may kamag anak ka man na babae na may boyfriend o asawang dayuhan eh dapat talagang mahiya ka. dahil sa kahirapan, nauuto ng mga dayuhan ang kapamilya mo nag magpagamit ng katawan nila. nakakahiya talaga ang mga kababaihan naten na pumapatol sa ibang lahi, at feeling pa nila eh naka-jackpot sila pag umasta sa mga mall kasama ang mga mababantot na dayuhan haha.
ay naku makitid talaga ang utak mo! di katulad mo di ko pepersonalin dahil di ako guilty. marami talagang nakakahiyang mga kabayan dito na imoral (pinay at pinoy). sinasabi ko lang ang obserbasyon ko sa mga pinoy na nanloloko ng kapwa. buksan mo ang mga mata mo wag mong tingnan ang mga pinay lang na me kasamang ibang lahi. ke pinoy o ibang lahi ang kasama kung walang nasasaktang pamilya walang nakakahiya doon. sanga pala di kami mahirap kabayan at mga propesyonal ang magulang at mga kapatid ko kaya bukas ang isipan ko.
pasensya na din kung napersonal ko yung last sentence dapat ay "mga pinoy na nagagagalit dahil di sila pwede sa ibang lahi" di dapat patungkol sa yo yan... nasabi ko din yan dahil inaamin ng ibang pinoy yan. Del I'd never, ever date an Arab man. RobbyG
That is kind of rude, don't you think? He hasn't done anything wrong yet If I read your story right.
So why not give him a change to come to your grounds. For a women thats much saver. Maybe he is the 'right' Arab guy afterall. Just date with him on your terms. Go girl. :wink: ArchitectRoel
Thy're fighting and it's kinda personal...you don't wanna translate those rubbish words!
@global & xero= you both have a point. shorn77777 hey why u wear a string like dress ArchitectRoel
it's called spaghetti :lol: Chocoholic This is an English forum! Therefore please post in English only! I will not tolerate insults in this section, anymore and this is going to Fight Club or Trash! howdy global_headhunter and xero : Who give you the right to type in tagalog. I can read between the lines. and im better than you in arabic, so i can write many things which u can't ever know._

Del: so dont date arab men, they are not there for you.simply, Del them.
RobbyG: well said.
Let me tell you my story briefly. I had a filipina g.f, our relation lasted for almost 3 years. at the end, after loving each other sooo deeply, do you know why we started fighting? it was all cuz of other filipinos, they poisoned her mind of stories like that. "he is arab, even if he married you, he will leave you someday and go with his cousin, he will beat you, he will cheat on you, bla bla bla." and at the end, after our brake-up, we both found that they were jealous from our perfect relation. they even arrange a replacement for her, so she can erase me immediately, and she did,what was her end, she got pregnant from that guy, and he neglected her, who is bad here??. who the hell said im gonna leave her for my cousin??? those guys know nothing about us, they just judge books from their covers, and they don't even bother to read it. wake up guys. let people love as they want. when i was going with my x-gf to public places, guys on the side walk don't stop insulting her cuz shes with arab guy. so they just don't want her to be with a stranger (as they call us). Mahmoud04
there must be a story behind that.... brave enought to share it !!!
M. puppypup It's your life OP but you are here posting with doubts. Be careful. I've gone out with Arab Catholics and even then I felt uncomfortable with the culture difference. aisha7 update: i answered his calls, explained to him why i ignored him. he didnt get angry. i thought we were ok then. the calls that came after that talk were kinda different. he always act like he doesnt trust me or jealous when he hears voices of other people in the background. i was like...whats up wid that? then shifts back to being nice and sweet. moody huh? puppypup This doesn't sound good Aisha. I once 'met' a man online then by telephone. I wasn't always available to answer calls because I was at work or at a dinner party but he was jealous because I wasn't readily available for a stupid call. Anyway that went nowhere. I didn't have to meet him in real life to know unhappiness waited for me if I stayed in touch with him. Take care and be safe. I'm not Filipina or Asian but I feel like a surrogate sister to Filipinas. ArchitectRoel @ Howdy This is a distant virtual relationship and I think it's so much different with yours. quatroporte
totally agree with you...
I want to add something
Rule #1 in relationships.. don't answer his/her calls whenever they call you... if you are busy at work, eating etc... don't pickup until you finish... and call back.. make sure to call back and free sometime for the call... answer the calls when you are free. if he/she got something important to tell you, they will sms it
but don't give them the habit that you are always available whenever they call you... this is not sweet, it makes you look desperate to your partner and this thing have bad effects in the long run. Miss_lolly
wawwww
if anyone listen to this
life gonna be easy 8) quatroporte
sadly... I learned this the hard way Miss_lolly
there is a raison for everything
and if it s not a hard way we will not learn anything from the experience Mahmoud04 well well, I have been watching and learning, and I wonder why non of men has ever asked about "dating any nationality (Filipino, Arab, white, black,etc..) woman" and it only came to my mind that women doesn't trust men of all nationalities (men in general) or they are racist. I wonder what would be your answers if I asked about, dating a European woman?. go on guys its your chance for a revenge :D:D. M. by the way I don't like fight talks...so try to smile while typing... howdy guys. are we going so far from the main subject. lets talk about Aisha only. eyad84 it looks for me like he is a measurable guy looking for a girl, nothing more but its up to ur heart btw most comments about arab guys are not correct, alot of them are very good, whether u like it or not :D silent no one can say his intention is bad towards u or good. but dont start it with a deep relation and b exposed 2 public as others said. for me my only advise is: never trust and never be extra extra good 2 whomever this person is. (nationalities doesnt matter) coz then watever bad happens will not put a load on u. f he is good or bad u always should becareful. Nicholson Why not visit Dubai as a tourist and check in to a hotel and then meet him for lunch and get to know him in real life? Behind the computer screen a person can be who ever they want to be, but don't forget that words only stand for about 7-8% of the communication between two people, the rest is bodylanguage, so my point is, it's hard to know his intentions by plain words over the Internet. D74 I totally agree with you... Aamir111 Look sweetie! dn be confused. if u want to hv a month of fun wd that guy, then come over. he wl enjoy wd u for a month. Might get u a sub rented flat. After a month ur visa will be over and u wnt hv an option but to go back. And he wl hv an addition to his list of conquers. rest is upto you. abyssdesire Aamir111, very smooth! I'm impressed. samsam007
Hi, I know this a very... very late answer
But for the record, I am from Syria... (i.e. Arab :) ) and I have to say that in general, arabs only look at friendship and girlfriends before marriage as a "walk on the wild side" or an experiance before marriage... but they don't usually get married to their girlfriends and go for an arrianged marriage at the end.
It's not that THEY're bad! but their families usually highly, highly object to this (ask me, my family almost disowned me when I told then I am thinking of marring a non-Syrian girl!--- she was Japanese, by the way!)
In the west, people can easily go against their parent's will because being very close to your family isn't a big thing in the west, they see them twice at year most... but we are expected to stay close to our immediate family and non-immediate ones as well... so there
Of course, I do have a friend from Yemen who got married to a Filipino girl... but that's the only exception of the rule... (plus, she did get convert to Islam... on her own, btw) Arabian.Rose Take this from an arabic lady, 1. If he is really serious about what he saying let him come to you.. you never know what he will end up doing when you come to him. 2. Most of them are players and just few are decent. 3. look for the signs, he can talk alot and build a dream castle but you need to see the actions. Start will making him visit you and please dont let him stay at your place , if he said something about you living in a villa I am sure he can afford a hotel to stay at. shabir2AA I suggest, do not even think about this. shabir2AA Good option if you have known the person for long, may be couple of years. not in months. Do not go for it. Arab males are famous of their fire. Bora Bora
Excuse me but for someone who does not live in the west you seem know alot about western family ties.
I can only speak for the US and England, which are very similar in culture. I'm talking about the culture that developed hundreds of years ago. In the west we are what is called "open minded" and accepting. The majority have no objection to "mixed" marriages. As a matter of fact, it really isn't something that is given much thought. Those who migrated to the west and have "trouble" with cultures crossing over are those who migrated to the west one or two generations ago that hold onto their native cultural ways. These people are a very small minority, not the majority.
As for family ties, westerners see families more than two times a year. Many westerners have strong family ties, the difference is that each family is a family unit unto themself.
The majority of western parents, well I should correct that, the Mother, which is usually the case, does not interfere with their childrens marriage. We may not see our family every day, but there is always a phone call at least once a day.
I have seen mixed marriages marriages where Momma was intrusive and disruptive and in most cases it was the husband's mother. The fathers seem to stay quite because the Mother broke them along time ago.
I know many westerners who married into families of another culture and suffered from the husband putting Momma first and from Momma dictating to sonny on what he should and should not allow his wife to do, as well as badmouthing the wife. This behavior generally came from the fact that Momma didn't approve of sonny marrying "outside". This came from westerners marrying Arabs and Indians. I have even seen Arab and Indian couples where the husbands put Momma first.
Having close family ties is a good thing, but in moderation. Too much of anything is not healthy, and that includes immediate family and extended family.
As an Arab you know only Arab culture. I'm western and my husband is Arab so I am familiar with both cultures. I have been blessed with wonderful in-laws who are not intrusive or disruptive, but always welcoming and loving. Maybe that's because they live in another country.
I believe you made my point when you wanted to marry someone you loved, but didn't because your family came first. I'm sure that your mother is still looking for the woman she wants you to marry. Seeing that you are the good son, I'm sure you will silently accept it, even if it kills you, because it's all about pleasing Momma and what she wants that makes her happy isn't it? samios don't do it it's risky you haven't seen him before. just look for a people around you you will find intelligent people around you there is a lot nationals in dubai good luck Parisienne from my observation and conclusions taken out from conversations with Arabs I think that they have very inquisitive look at reality largely. I think that because I have Slav roots [completely different culture], but so far I came across no bad Arab. Perhaps I am lucky. I don't know. From my point of view Arabs are handsome if it is about an appearance. Largely. Inside these are good persons, in spite of prevailing stereotypes in many places in the world.



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