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Broken Hearted


PrettyPenny I'm pretty sure guys feel just as badly as women do when they break up. They're probably just better at hiding it. Whereas a woman may go into sorrowful isolation a guy will go into rebound mode with every thing in a skirt, though I've seen guys do sorrowful isolation as well. Women fall in love more easily though. Up your expectations and let the next one EARN your love. You're going to be fine girl! This is the time for you to find those great friends of yours and have some fun. BIG HUG!!
Chocoholic Why do break-ups hurt so much? Especially for the girls! I mean how come men just get back on with it and carry on, where as we end up feeling like the heart has been ripped from the chest and stamped on. These feelings suck. MaaaD Because men never get as emotionally involved as the women. So it keeps things easy to move on. I am positive if a guy got emotionally involved in a relationship (rare) he would have the same feelings you described. Is everything alright Chocs ? Chocoholic Everything is just dandy, apart from the fact that I feel like I've just wasted the last 2 years of my life messing about with someone that didn't care in the end and just made me feel bad. MaaaD its never a waste, you always come out better, stronger, smarter out of it. Chocoholic It doesn't seem that way right now. MaaaD I am sorry, it will once you think about it clearly. *hug* easternjewel
I am very sorry to hear about this choco. I know exactly how you feel. Been there…breaking up with a long term relationship does almost kill you. I think it is so difficult for us because we are more sensitive. Make use of the heart often then our heads in such situations, thus leading to heartaches!
“There's always been heartache & pain, but when its over u'l breath again” Bless you. yorky500 Sorry to hear that Chocs. Well then girl, you are better and wiser now. Don't let the bastard get you down, and see you like this. Show him he meant sweet f/a (even though he did) and get on with your life. Come on, chin up and brave face. 8) Jeevan chocs, its not only girls, it hurts guys as well, like maad said 'if' he was emotionally involved. i was in a relationship for 6 years before we mutually decided to part ways, it took me bout six months to get over the fact that we had actually done that.:) so ur not alone. cheers, Jerry

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Eros Sorry to hear that. If someone is worth crying for, that person will not make u cry. If someone makes u cry, most probably that person is not worth it. arso304 just think of 'rocky''s theme, stand up look for someone else, and u'll forget this one ;) XRW-147 Chocs, time heals all babe. Chin up. kanelli Sorry to hear about the break-up Chocs. It hurts at first, but I agree with MaaaD - you'll be stronger for it. Eventually you'll be able to move on and find someone who make you happier. ^ian^ Yes it really sucks. Don't think guys aren't affected by breakups, we most certainly are. :( XRW-147
Ditto Ian. Emotional barriers might be higher or (seemingly) stronger than a girl but when they come down we hurt just as badly - we're humans too! ^ian^
Yeah I usually just drink myself into a stupour for a few days, but finding it hard to do that these days. Investing 2 years of your life into a relationship only to see it fall apart is truly heartbreaking, especially when one isn't getting any younger. XRW-147
Yah, been there, done that. Just remember alcohol (or drugs) are never the answer... time heals all and life goes on! ^ian^
Whilst it may not be the 'answer' it is kind of like an anaesthetic and does help the pain... for a little bit. Of course.
Life does go on... whether you like it or not.
XRW-147 Alcohol and the like only suppress and delay what you need to go through to get over someone. Its never easy... but its not the end - no matter how much it feels like it. kanelli Alcohol and drugs are definitely not the way to go to patch up the wounds of a broken relationship. It only makes new problems. fayz I'm sorry to hear that Chocs, his loss Chocoholic Thanks guys :D Have to say the booze thing is not the way to go, you just end up making drunk phone calls at 3am and making a total fool of yourself - never a good thing. ^ian^ Yes well, I didn't mean become an alcoholic, but it doesn't hurt to go on a bender. I know what you mean by the 3am phone call though chocs. gLoBalTeCh
i agree wit u Maaad, thats y i m still hurt of my ex. i guess we sould not use our heart to love our partner, its realy hurting upon break up or if we find her/him a cheater or double timer Corcovado Choc first a big hug for u ... second if the guy seemed to be the right one for u and u ended up breaking up this means he is not right and once ur out of the pain and ur seeing the big picture u will know that u are better off without him ... true love stays and lasts and ur a beautiful girl inside out ...FLY AWAY constantine been over 7 months...am still getting over "the one"...hey distract yourself and sing yer heart out...kareoke on the main page... :lol: 8) Corcovado yes and if u are not over someone DO NOT date another as u will screw his heart apl Hi Choco - sorry to hear that. I'm one of those guys that did exactly the same a couple of month ago and here's why: After taking the decision to break up with my girlfriend I told her very clearly as I knew it would hurt her like hell. After that I was intentionally very distant and tough to show her clearly that I was serious about it and there is no room for discussion or doubts. I guess most guys work like that and try to draw the line to hurt once and for all instead of dragging the pain along by negotiating, coming back together, splitting again, etc. I almost cracked twice and only a phone call to a friend (female) made me stick to my plan as I was very close to just stop her pain by getting back together. Maybe I was right, maybe I was wrong, but my intention was to make it as easy and fast for her to get over me. Today I still believe it was the right decision and from what I hear from some common friends she's doing ok. I'm sure he's hurting too and he simply tries to not show it. I completely agree with Corcovado, if it would have been the right one you wouldn't have broken up. Hank in there - you'll do fine in a little time. Princess Banana Hammock I feel ya hun! That's why I always sing You Oughtta Know... Everyone's like 'You look like you mean it when you sing that'... That's because I do... to all those evil men who think they got the better of me arrrghhh so wrong!!!!! You see, I feel better already! Maybe we should organise a girls night out and find lots of cute single men!!! :D alexandra
choco...i feel u and i know it's hard in the begining but i will say i am happy that u did not lose many more years with a person that was not worth it.
cheer up girl, after all u r the miss DUbai forums and for sure u will find better than him :wink: raidah
can u ever know when u get involved how long will it last? no
was it bad being with him these 2 years? im sure not
if he brought u any positivity in ur life, thank him for that, cry the time u feel necessary to get over, and move on.
and, trust me, they suffer too, only we raise them, our boys to be men who dont cry, dont get emotional, etc. so they hide when they r hurt. FeiPo
I agreed. easternjewel talk to the guy you've had crush on :wink: (if any) HP
hahah i think Greece guy has left u , why did it happen so late :P . I dont take relationship serious , i always enjoy it as long as i can .I never played wid the feeling of anyone. I always tell in begining that we can only be " fck buddy " :oops: kidding............... HP Choco sorry , just give me his address and i ll kidnap him from his home. How come Greece idiot made fun of my sister for 2 years. Kutte ka bacha na ho tu (he must be prick) :oops: Eros
Yeah .. dont cry cause it ended, smile cause it happened. BTW Raidah, nice avtar XRW-147 Ahhh... it seems the sudden availability of Chocco has brought HP back. Watch out Chocs :lol: Chocoholic I'm thrilled - NOT! Hate feeling this way, it's crap! raidah
:wink: ajb
Now the last eye shot avatar was yours ... can we assume this one is also?? :D raidah
u can assume whatever ur heart wishes for :wink:
nice shot, eh? ajb
Very artistic .. love it! :wink: HP Choco You spent 2 years warming the bed of a Greece guy and what did u get out from it ? Pleasure of few minutes ? . You cud get a master degree instead. The poor guys must have wasted 2 years of his life :P Now leave this crap , mom was saying that she will take you to Pakistan in september and find you a handsome guy. You can meet wid some families and then we can decide about it. :roll: femina Last year I would not know what it meant by broken heart. This year I do. I learnt that a guy can be romantic, nice, decent, understanding with his nice words at one season and change to a devil, idiot, liar, a hammer, a full of nonsense ape, the next season. The experience broke my heart but build my wisdom, so with it I mended it. Luckly I have few good best friends, a full time job, loving relatives and other things that take my time and mind which force me to be positive. I consider it is lucky that I'm not married to the idiot and I can continue with my comfortable life without much worst situation. My advise is to think positive, learn from every event. Take care! 8) KeithL Choco, im so sorry to hear about your break-up..
Time will heal the heartbreak and besides you have clowns like us to make you smile !
:wink:

Relationships when you're on a rebound are never a good idea. Girls seem to learn that the hard way :cry: HP Choco is damn racist girl and she deserve more than that. I was jst thinking how come guy is living wid someone having the brain size of monkey ? Choco got the punishment by making fun of me for not having someone (irritating wink). She said " HP u never took the bath wid somone". well i took the bath on beach wid so many girls . :P well gals r also cheater. Once i traveled to sweden to meet a girl , after reaching at station , i dialed the number , but there was voice " there is no contact wid mobile phone". I waited for 2 hours but mobile phone ws showing the same message :roll: If such kind of girls meet me , i ll act like sophisticated idiot like fayz habibi :P so many times , i took the bath wid cold water in winter in order to meet a girl ,but girls never showed up :roll: MaaaD
cold water shower before you meet a girl ? .. no one told you about "shrinkage" ? ... easternjewel
erm ... I din mean that :roll: I-No-Jack hp i kind of hear about you. they are right you are an idiot :!: :!: PrettyPenny Time heals all wounds and wounds all heels. dubai girl Choco, My 28 year old daughter just experienced the same situation, said all of the things you have said, and my heart is broken for you! I know that it is hard, and there is something to remember: Things happen for a reason. It seems harder to be a girl.....broken hearts are carried for some time, but eventually it will get better. THOSE BASTARDS!!! You sound adorable, and we all want you to be happy. By reading your messages you are an intelligent, well rounded young lady with many things going for you. Just take a deep breath, and time will tell. yorky500
Hi Mum. :lol: :lol: KeithL
That 28 year old daughter is YOU !
:?: HP
things happen for reason? what is the fault of choco , she warmed his bed for 2 years and at end the guy walked away :oops: There is nothing for her in life now , the only path is to jump into sea. She is lucky that in Dubai , they have nice sea. If we have sea in Pakistan like Dubai , lot of women and men will commit suicide. Our people have to travel for 2 hours to jump in river. If u travel for 2 hours on public transport , it can alter your plan.
sometimes it is written on river "suicide is not allowed in this river , any violation will be subject to plenty of 1000 Pakistani ". :oops: I-No-Jack :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: IMJ HP are u on some pills, may be u should share whith us what they are? PrettyPenny
HP, I hate to admit this, but I think you're right! HP .wallah
i am feeling really sorry for Choco. She was even learning the Greece language :) . She used to say my alexander the Great :P .
She shuldnt give him unlimited access and free trial before marriage :cry:

Pretty penny
u r also in love wid someone in your office , i am sure u r not giving him free trial and unlimited access to broadband services like choco :P PrettyPenny
Don't be obnoxious HP. Its no wonder no one will marry you! HP
what about E.J or corco :roll: They told me that they would give me right but after marriage :oops: PrettyPenny
IF they ever marry you. HP
what about ya pretty ? You were desperate for someone in your office ? what happened to your love ? PrettyPenny
I stopped myself short of doing an "HP". HP Pretty Penny Can i find you a Pakistani man ? what about Shafiq , i mean he has 3 kids but it also means he has lot of experience and he knows what he is talking about :P PrettyPenny
Thanks, but no thanks. Maybe you should set up a dating service and then you get paid for your services :). You would also get to keep the best ones for yourself. HP
Can u display your picture so we dont waste time on u :oops: PrettyPenny
I repeat ... thanks but no thanks :D HP Edited: Tales of the wonderous mind Nick81 Am I the only one to feel bad that people hijacked Chocs' topic? I doubt that this was the kind of feedback she was looking for... KeithL
But Nick...its a typical DF thread...great build up and then downhill all the way Lara_CH_73 Hi Choco, I dont know you but I have exactly the same feeling as you - seems harder for girls to move on - specially when feelings arent totally finished for your ex-boyfriend :cry: Hope that time will help, but even after 5 monthes, I still have a big empty hole instead of my heart - hope it goes better for you now... Despite I'm trying to smile, you can see through my eyes that happiness has vanished. I think the only way to get better (step by step) is to not stay alone and dont let your mind go through old memories I wish you and all other people in the same situation to find love and hapiness again - there is nothing as great as sharing something special with somebody that make your heart jump in your chest... Be brave and strong Choco (I will try too !!!) I-No-Jack choc's, having read soe of your posts and comments from others about you i'm sure you'll be perfectly fine. you go girl! HP
Edited: Tales of the wonderous mind sharewadi Sorry to read the bad news C :cry: .
Men can hurt too - just like you describe yourself now. And sometimes women don't appear to.
Uh oh, those 3am phone calls :oops: ...
We've all been there and sympathise. It doesn't seem to hurt less as you get older or wiser (ahem :? ) either. All the cliches you hear are true. Just take one day at a time and try to find different things to keep busy. Sometimes writing letters to the ex is therapeutic (but DON'T EVER send them).
How's the snowboarding going?
Sometimes the distraction from the pain is good because it reminds you that you can feel alright. I may have a different understanding of the word "date" though. HP Edited: Tales of the wonderous mind Lara_CH_73
Wise advices :wink: raidah
u know i find u many times funny, but ur not being one now :?
what is ur problem with her? leave the woman alone HP HP Edited: Tales of the wonderous mindo KeithL
You're such a liar HP....
Choco is a "lady" and would never use such language HP Edited: Tales of the wonderous mind KeithL
Are you still in London ?? or back in Denmark ?? HP
Edited: Tales of the wonderous mind Chocoholic Keith, Thanks for the vote of confidence and you're correct I certainly would never, ever send anything like that, or say anything like that to anyone. HP, you're a liar and a ridiculous person. What gives you the right to talk about another person like that? You think that just because I decided to take some time out to think about the whole thing it gives you the right to bad mouth me! No it doesn't. And whoever said that HE left ME? Don't assume you little weasle, just because a person decides to end something doesn't mean they can't feel bad and cut up about it. Everything that comes out of your mouth is poisonous and horrible. You don't know anything about me, you can't even get my age right. sharewadi


HP may at times be abusive with his/her personal attacks but you're not painting yourself in a very good light with those comments.
Since HP has made a public accusation, and quite an outrageous one, I think it would be useful for the admins to confirm or deny it.
It's a shame this topic has degenerated so much (or perhaps that's what DF users want - topics often seem to degenerate into name calling and personal attacks). Chocoholic Sharewadi, How would you feel if you were going through a hard time and someone used it as an excuse to make personal attacks on you? And anyone on here that knows me would know that I would never, ever wtire such a thing. The first PM he put up is genuine, the second is definately not! As I would never describe anyone as that, and if you ever read my other posts you'd know that I see everyone as equal and do not descriminate between race or colour. Mods please now lock this thread. HP you should be ashamed of yourself for making things up. PrettyPenny Spare yourself the grief Chocs. Anyone who has any sense will take anything HP says with a pinch of salt. I wouldn't worry about it if I were you. At all! sharewadi
I wasn't referring to your feelings, I was referring to what you wrote.
If someone tries to use my feelings when I'm having a difficult time to make a personal attack, that shows how immature and small minded they are. I would try not to give them the pleasure of knowing they got to me no matter how I felt.
My point was that the way you responded does not make it any clearer what kind of person HP is but it does reflect negatively on you. That's only my opinion though ...
Irrespective of all that, I hope you're feeling better today than you did yesterday. Chocoholic I am upset about it. Because basically what he's doing is making slanderous comments about me. It's character assassination. XRW-147 Too far HP. Apologies for letting this get out of hand Chocs but don't worry, we all know what HP is full of.



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