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my conclusion... Mar 21, 2005
Yeah right! distance love affair is never easy...

The loneliness we feel when we are far apart with our partners , in most cases, can easily defeat the love. This happens especially when we miss
them(the one we want to share ur life with)and when they are not able to be by our side.

However, I still believed that each mile that seperates 2 person who truly care, can be joined with strong love they have got and the foundation of their relationship.

Having faith with each other,and believing that they do feel the same say,
standing firm with the trust, though most of the time it's tough,for the sake of long lasting relations, this is a must.

Thinking of one another's emotional needs, letting them know that we always care. Not letting the seeds of jealousy grow deep in our heart. Cuz if we let this happened,our relationship will surely be doomed to fall apart.

Being honest to how we feel, and never lead the other one on. It is unfair and irresponsible to play around with other's feelings, and turn around one day and walk away.

Not to give up for the love, and hold on to what we feel from deep
within.

Cuz for me, love that is sincere and strong, will be held together, no matter how apart......... :wink:

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Mar 22, 2005
It was very touching to read that above, but seriously, wake up and smell the coffee. it DOES NOT work, get out of the fantasy world.

Again, this will all blown away if you meet somebody else you think is really nice!
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Apr 11, 2005
Woooww.... I like this!

Looks like everyone has gone thur something here....

Good luck for all of you and I am sure you can find the right person.
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Apr 26, 2005
basically im just new here in this forum blah!blah! :?:
anyway this topic caught my attention...
Long distance love affair? will survive or not? hmmmm... it depends...

what kind of relationship ur into..or the truce you made to each other..
it will survive if there is enough love,respect,communication,trust and of course honesty in both sides. :roll: ..definitely IT WILL

But if the foundation is weak...more on just physically involved...i think it wouldnt, :cry: most specially if the other person get easily swayed by some matters...

that person will simply throw away the promises that he/she once made,

after all LOVES MAKES NO PROMISES,AND SOMETIMES LOVE JUST AINT ENOUGH...
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Apr 27, 2005
This topic also caught my attention because i am in a long distance relationship and have been for the last 4 years. We spend all our holidays together and we plan to live together soon. Its very difficult because both partners start to have seperate lives and lose common grounds in the long run, but if both want it / trust each other strong enough It works.
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May 09, 2005
I personally think that long distance relationships are creating Romance out of absence material, which is very hard to do so...
Having said that I myself have been in a long distance relationship my self for 2 years and it’s very hard to keep up to and it could well be a headache at some points.........


>>>>>>>>>>>>...All it takes is a bit of patience and trust to have a stable long distance relationship.........>>>>>>>>>
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May 10, 2005
Mizz_Fabolous wrote:I personally think that long distance relationships are creating Romance out of absence material, which is very hard to do so...
Having said that I myself have been in a long distance relationship my self for 2 years and it’s very hard to keep up to and it could well be a headache at some points.........


>>>>>>>>>>>>...All it takes is a bit of patience and trust to have a stable long distance relationship.........>>>>>>>>>


Mizz Faboulous ur avatar is B-E-A-UUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUTIFUL! :shock: Talk to moi and I will make you to believe in Long distance relationships! After allLove has no barriers at all :D
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May 10, 2005
Glory was that directed to me>>.>.....LOL :o :o
That is not a nice way to welcome a new member to the forum
Brainless F*** :wink: :wink:
Besides don’t generalise …if you have came across one individual that
Didn’t meet up to your criteria …of whom you might claim to be the elite character. Then that’s your judgment
Not all Queenslander are the Same…..>>>>


And Where is the Better plce you speak of
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May 10, 2005
“Sniper420”

Thx…for the gesture however been there done that
Ain’t my kinda thing….Long distance thing is tough
I prefer having the person leaving same state where we can have the accessional
Visit and catch up for coffee things…And no boarding plane or anything in that nature and travelling on my holidays…
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... May 10, 2005
long term relationships do work and i have myself been through it for over 5 years. Yes.... the distance makes it difficult and you tend to get interested in other people but I guess its a question of whether you really love each other. At times you need to have omeone with you and tend to get involved with others.

We did have our troubles and also had short flings elsewhere (yes yes yes....) and we are even aware of it now. But we are now married... doing fine. and together in Dubai.
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May 10, 2005
those who say it doesnt work are fickle minded pea brained dogs giving in to temptation... well distance or no distance ,,,u would fall for the next joe or jane u meet..

i hope i am not being rude
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Jun 08, 2005
plz move thiz to Dubai Romance. tnx
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Jun 09, 2005
Long distance?

Mmmm... one help is to never stop communicating and keep youself occupied with things to do, not to the extent of letting yourself be vulnerable to temptation in falling to another person.

Being far far away with the one you love sometimes lessen the fire, the sparks begin to dwilt in time, not because of emotional shortness or mental thoughts of him/her but the physical aspect of being there for your partner.

Try to be happy and keep a positive sight in your relationship.
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Jun 10, 2005
i think i'm gonna puk all this lovey dovey things are making me sick
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Jun 10, 2005
laila k m wrote:i think i'm gonna puk all this lovey dovey things are making me sick


Cos u dont know what iz lobe! :lol:
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Jun 10, 2005
and u do
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Jun 10, 2005
Ofcourse! I can teach u A to Z of love ! :D
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Jun 10, 2005
no thanks
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Jun 10, 2005
laila k m wrote:no thanks


My algo book says that u must be shy kind of girl. And shy gal's no= yes! :D So when do u wanna start?
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Jun 12, 2005
Wine em, Dine em, 69 em, that's snipers motto!
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Jun 12, 2005
You forgot to mention that it is also Kilani's motto, but with Kilani it involves his chimp love... Kilana...
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Jun 13, 2005
Pumpkin Escobar wrote:Wine em, Dine em, 69 em, that's snipers motto!


well i have invite em, Dine em, drive em home is ma motto pump
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Jul 17, 2005
it depends ..how long you will stay apart if its couple of month then you could do it ..if it is for couple of years then i think it is very very hard ...good luck
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Oct 09, 2005
Love masters! :D YOUR VIEWS PLS....

insanely in love??? well, im married man when i met this girl, she's my crush then, i found a way to tell her how i felt 'bout her, then we dated until 6 months, she accepted my status, things are quite good when she left, we have not yet broke up, we are still communcating with each other, we talk often over the phone, chat, etc...

The problem is, we're miles apart, i have a good job here and a family here. My relationship with my wife is another story. we're not in good terms lately.

However, i am afraid in losing this girl, i think i'm madly in love with her and i cant get her out of freakin mind...I know distance relationship does not work. chances are she could find someone else there, thats what i'm afraid of. She wants security. for the meantime i cant give it to her since i have to settle 1st my prob with my wife and kid.

She's always tellin me how she love me, miss me and she'll wait for and vise versa i told her also what i "TRULY" feel about her... The thing is, is this could last??? Is not that i dont trust her, but I dont want to expect much from her, because i know her situation there and the culture of OCW....loneliness, homesickness are the evil factors that tear relationships (correct me if i'm wrong)...And i dont want to get hurt in the end....

She's convincing me to go with her, i think i'am not ready for that, hence i have stable job here and pays me good...........Help she's driving me crazy...
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Oct 09, 2005
Long distance relationships can work if two people are prepared to go through with the long stuff lol if not then it wont work out! But its very hard as you cant see them from time to time and very frustrating! but also from my research from others who are going through with the long distant their relationship tends to be much stronger. But depends how much madly in love you are with the person? Good Luck!!!
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Oct 17, 2005
sweet mary wrote:you're pretty much understood! I gonna give you another medal as glory did!

nyway,what a scenario!

Well, i think i need to give up if and only if the fire of love has gone. Cuz if you considered yourself COMMITED you can't let go of this invisible tie, the bond which will always remind you that you are already 'TAKEN'. Just wishing my partner thinks the same way.

still i wanna play dumb, lemme ask this question. thinking of those hundred of married peeps having undefined realtionship, those guys and gurls cheating with their partners(bfs/gfs) back home and the broken relationship and promises.... how difficult is it to resist temptation here?
I would say it is extremely difficult. I know some guys, very decent chaps really, who can't wait for that fortnight or month when their better half goes back home to visit her parents etc.

These guys really love their wife and children. But the Temptations. :shock:
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Oct 17, 2005
yep, thats true... i have seen my Colleagues throwing parties whenever their families go out...but i think thats the end of it...they dont do nething else...and i think its justified to do so...everyone misses their bachelorhood days...so what if they have some nice time with their friends the way it used to happen in college days...they stll love their families...
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Oct 27, 2005
what kinds of temptations are there that we should be prepared for? usually if the man is in dubai and the girl is left in her country that's more difficult. are there people out there who would stoop so low as to attract someone even though she knows that guy has a gf back home?
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once maybe twice not really Oct 27, 2005
you know...for me...it worked out...but for 8 months she and i were visiting each other back and forth...(of course the distance wasn't much...4 hours flight away...diff countries though)...speaking from personal experiance...its real hard...and the fights you have over the phone...the amount of time you take making it upto the person...the dissapointments/anger/hope/love/frustrations...are like a rollercoaster every day...so my typical day would go like this :D :( :evil: :D :( ....it's real hard and you have to be Budda himself to actually not react to little things irrationally...for what it's worth...it did work out at the end!!
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Nov 07, 2005
thanks. that helps somehow. what i wanna know now is, where have some relationships failed? so that i can be prepared?
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