Long Distance Relationships

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sometimes it does work out Nov 08, 2005
hey dont give up hope though...sometimes it does work out...in my case it did...after 8 months...she did move for me...we stayed honest to each other...sure there were a lot of temptations...as always will be...but the only advice i can give you is...COMMUNICATION...its the key...you have to talk it out...and when you are angry/frustrated/ready to slam the phone...talk some more...but dont let silence do the talking...as thats what kills it all...knowing is better than not knowing and imagining senarios...and hey, as in my case...if you are in nearby countries...it helps heaps...!!send letters...old fashioned way...flowers if possible...and get a inexpensive phone plan!!!... :D ...coz you'd probably run up quite a bill!!
hmm on the flip side...where it can fail...lots of reasons...
1>temptation...temptation
2>not being true to each other
3>wasn't a strong one to begin with
4>you need physical presence (for all the hugs/kisses and fights!!)
5>any old excuse can set it off...if you live far off...
6>excuses are endless...if you want to create them
7>maybe its too early for anyone to really commit?
...as i said the list can go on and so can the excuses...but can you go on without him...or vice versa?....

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Nov 09, 2005
Very nice words and for you im happy it worked out,,,, but honestly if a woman or man for that matter was offering themself up on a plate to you and your partner was out of sight ...your telling me you would decline???
Its just ..for me i would have trust issues and would not be able to keep a long distance romance going.....
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Home alone Nov 09, 2005
hmm...rosie...to answer your question...i love the "chase"...rather than dealing with the consequences...so yeah i would flirt/charm...but leave it short of seducing...seems to work for me...and i walk away feeling like it was all innocent fun...has happened that people have been receptive towards more than flirting...and when you're at a club...drinks are flowing...its hard to keep it all in prespective...but as i said earlier...i did go and visit my gf...at least once a month...so it wasnt too bad...but i will agree...if one is really doing the long distance relationship over phone/email/letters...it can be really tough...but i've had another mate of mine...whos done it successfully...the idea is to get so "pished" ...that you get thrown into a cab and all you can remember is to go to bed!!! ALONE ...had to pay the cabbie soo many times for that ungrateful cad!!!
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Nov 09, 2005
Rosie wrote:Very nice words and for you im happy it worked out,,,, but honestly if a woman or man for that matter was offering themself up on a plate to you and your partner was out of sight ...your telling me you would decline???
Its just ..for me i would have trust issues and would not be able to keep a long distance romance going.....


Trust, to me, is the most important part of any relationship - long distance or not. And regardless of where your partner is if you can't resist an "offer" then you're not ready for a commited relationship.
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Nov 11, 2005
Look to each their own..it would be great to totally trust,but for me i guess im not ready for a commited relationship...
Once bitten ,twice shy!!!
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Dec 27, 2005
well nothin is impossible...........but it depends on both ppl.........till my experience loong distance relationships doesnt workout
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Dec 27, 2005
Welcome to my world my friend !!!
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Dec 27, 2005
aduberdu wrote:well nothin is impossible...........but it depends on both ppl.........till my experience loong distance relationships doesnt workout


ur rite, no matter how hard you try!
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Jan 15, 2006
May be it would work for some people, in my case tried for 3 years, but then the intensity just fizzled out and we mutually decided to part ways. but it dint hurt coz we gave it time to work out before we went our ways.

Cheers,

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Jan 20, 2006
as for me, long distance relationship is not impossible...all u need to have is a good communication and trust and be honest with each other...
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Re: long distance relationships Feb 01, 2006
We met each other via Internet, but before we had long time of loneliness. Population of the Earth is over 6 milliards, so it was enough hard to meet soul mate. We know it from own experience. A theory of probability shows that the more variant you will sort out the more precise result you will get. We sorted out many variants during long time, but Internet helped us meet each other really very fast.

sweet mary wrote:My friends reminded me that long distance relationship is impossible to survive here in UAE. Is that so? :roll:



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Feb 04, 2006
ive been to that situation before but it didnt work out coz we lacked communication and we easily gave up...coz being far away from each other is not that easy...but i hope for u it will work out...
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Believe in your love!! Feb 05, 2006
Come on, have'nt you heard-
DISTANCE MAKES THE HEART GROW FONDER!!!
well if your love is true and you believe in the relationship,no one can break it.Not even a distance of millions of miles becoz after all your lovedone stays in your heart.RIGHT!Don't get depressed!
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Re: Believe in your love!! Feb 05, 2006
reem wrote:Come on, have'nt you heard-
DISTANCE MAKES THE HEART GROW FONDER!!!
well if your love is true and you believe in the relationship,no one can break it.Not even a distance of millions of miles becoz after all your lovedone stays in your heart.RIGHT!Don't get depressed!


True 8) Long distance relations are difficult, but nothing can beat true love :wink:
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Feb 06, 2006
I think that its pretty tough, especially if your younger.

Definitely the best of luck, I thought for sure that my long distance relationship would work when I went to Irak, but it definitely fell apart pretty hard. I couldnt even give you advice on where it went wrong, it just really did.

Sometimes the best thing to do is to end it with a kiss, and then if you cross paths again you didnt ruin your relationship with trying to force you, you *silently* sealed it with that kiss that will be there when you guys get back :cry:
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