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it never works Mar 16, 2005
DEAR SWEETY

I SHALL TRY TO SHELL IT IN FEW WORDS THOUGH PRACTICAL

i lost my 10 years love, on being long distance for two years.

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Mar 16, 2005
sweet mary wrote:

still i wanna play dumb, lemme ask this question. thinking of those hundred of married peeps having undefined realtionship, those guys and gurls cheating with their partners(bfs/gfs) back home and the broken relationship and promises.... how difficult is it to resist temptation here?


Not just here, but anywhere in the world for that matter. here is no different to London, Hong Kong, NY or wherever. If you are moving to a country for a long period and you have a relationship (bf/gf) then it best to break it off if they are not coming with you or planning on joining you later.

No matter what happens, YOU change, the other person does not. You are seeing different things, meeting different people from different cultures, which you bf/gf back home are NOT. YOU change.

OK, here's a leading question: You meet someone who is nice, easy going, sensitive and overall nice, and can offer you a life better than you would with your current b/f. What do YOU do?
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Mar 16, 2005
not unless i lose the spark and magic with my bf, and fall inlove with this 'someone' even if i resisted, then I think it's time to break off with him.

Any sensible comments from the ladies' side?...
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Mar 16, 2005
"love is fickle, love is blind ......................."
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Mar 16, 2005
lolzz :lol: :wink:
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Mar 16, 2005
well, anybody would do the same. We all need some one close to us, not far away!
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Mar 16, 2005
:scratch: :scratch: :roll: hmmmmm.... yeah....
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Mar 16, 2005
Ziajaveds has said it all. He lost his 10yrs relationship of being 2 yrs apart, I lost my 6++yrs relationship of being 6 mos. apart. Tried to work it out, but couldn't. World just became different.

A bond or committment should not make you suffer of loneliness because you are taken. You need the person to be there, to talk to, to cry on, to hold you and tell you that everything is gonna be alright. It makes a lot of difference.

It never really works especially if you already established a career somewhere else.

And the hardest part of it is, starting anew, getting to know, starting from scratch, adjustment stage. Not again! Its like you have a set of expectations outlined for the next guy and if he can't comply, you're gonna end up heartbroken.
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Mar 17, 2005
And the hardest part of it is, starting anew, getting to know, starting from scratch, adjustment stage. Not again! Its like you have a set of expectations outlined for the next guy and if he can't comply, you're gonna end up heartbroken.


would that mean, on your experience there's no third party involved? how come you gave up just cuz of the distance, where you know from the start that working abroad will mean thousand of miles away? So how about the love for 6++ years?!
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Hey... Glory Mar 17, 2005
An important reason I visit this forum is to read your one liners!! :-).
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Mar 17, 2005
An important reason I visit this forum is to read your one liners!! .


glory's avid fan?! :lol: :lol: :lol:
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Mar 17, 2005
Yes, just simply because of that.
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Mar 21, 2005
Long distance relationships are next to impossible to sustain. but I think if you start from a solid base of friendship when you meet again you could pick up where you left off. Love doesn't die just because someone isn't physically able to be with you.
But you have to be realistic -- life can't stand still. You have to be able to live your life in the present. You can't be living for the next meeting or the time you are finally together. its too intense and I think you stand still as a person.

I was in a long distance relationship which I ended before I came to dubai. My boyfriend ( I shoudl say ex...) left SA to travel last July and we continued our relationship. i saw him once in October and it was great . But ultimately I couldn't handle the uncertainty of it and the wondering when we'd be together again so I gave myself and him some certainty....
anyway we talk as much as we did when we were officially together. he's still my greatest support even if he's not with me.

long distance is not for the faint hearted. even if in this age of seemingly easy communication....
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Mar 21, 2005
sweet mary wrote:
And the hardest part of it is, starting anew, getting to know, starting from scratch, adjustment stage. Not again! Its like you have a set of expectations outlined for the next guy and if he can't comply, you're gonna end up heartbroken.


would that mean, on your experience there's no third party involved? how come you gave up just cuz of the distance, where you know from the start that working abroad will mean thousand of miles away? So how about the love for 6++ years?!


hi my old friend ... LETS GET REAL !!!!!!! LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP GOT ONLy 10 % chance of success so ... a real peice of advice ..

Leave as FRIENDs ... in that case he/she would be yours forever ....
rather than leave as lovers and fight a loosing battle ... where at the end you know bad words would be given, with shatterd trust and posibly violent reactions.

while with friends ... if all works out well and you come back ... he's or you are still single then you can continue what you've started...

so the Q is ... what he found someone while ur gone....??? accept it and be happy for him. it only means that your not meant for each other.. and i advice you to do the same. and be happy to know that even though he has someone you know that you didnt loose him ... because he's your friend...

now isnt that a prettier picture ....

than going through agonizing 3-4 years of restrictions, jealousy miss trust ... i mean LETS BE real all long distance relationship suffer from this dillema, and 90 perscent of them end up in flames !!!, some call them names they wont even call their enemies, some killed themselves, some killed, etc. etc. ...

another Q' why are they reacting like that ??? because trust was broken.. and they all felt cheated, betrayed... by someone who they love ... trust ...
and pride comes to play to....

so ... if you really treasure and love the guy ... make friends with him ... and see when you come back .... its a win win situation ....

good = you get back together ...
bad = you lost him but you have a friend ...

GOOD LUCK !!
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Mar 21, 2005
[quote="Kalay"]Long distance relationships are next to impossible to sustain. but I think if you start from a solid base of friendship when you meet again you could pick up where you left off.


so true !!!!!!!!!
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my conclusion... Mar 21, 2005
Yeah right! distance love affair is never easy...

The loneliness we feel when we are far apart with our partners , in most cases, can easily defeat the love. This happens especially when we miss
them(the one we want to share ur life with)and when they are not able to be by our side.

However, I still believed that each mile that seperates 2 person who truly care, can be joined with strong love they have got and the foundation of their relationship.

Having faith with each other,and believing that they do feel the same say,
standing firm with the trust, though most of the time it's tough,for the sake of long lasting relations, this is a must.

Thinking of one another's emotional needs, letting them know that we always care. Not letting the seeds of jealousy grow deep in our heart. Cuz if we let this happened,our relationship will surely be doomed to fall apart.

Being honest to how we feel, and never lead the other one on. It is unfair and irresponsible to play around with other's feelings, and turn around one day and walk away.

Not to give up for the love, and hold on to what we feel from deep
within.

Cuz for me, love that is sincere and strong, will be held together, no matter how apart......... :wink:
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Mar 22, 2005
It was very touching to read that above, but seriously, wake up and smell the coffee. it DOES NOT work, get out of the fantasy world.

Again, this will all blown away if you meet somebody else you think is really nice!
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Apr 11, 2005
Woooww.... I like this!

Looks like everyone has gone thur something here....

Good luck for all of you and I am sure you can find the right person.
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Apr 26, 2005
basically im just new here in this forum blah!blah! :?:
anyway this topic caught my attention...
Long distance love affair? will survive or not? hmmmm... it depends...

what kind of relationship ur into..or the truce you made to each other..
it will survive if there is enough love,respect,communication,trust and of course honesty in both sides. :roll: ..definitely IT WILL

But if the foundation is weak...more on just physically involved...i think it wouldnt, :cry: most specially if the other person get easily swayed by some matters...

that person will simply throw away the promises that he/she once made,

after all LOVES MAKES NO PROMISES,AND SOMETIMES LOVE JUST AINT ENOUGH...
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Apr 27, 2005
This topic also caught my attention because i am in a long distance relationship and have been for the last 4 years. We spend all our holidays together and we plan to live together soon. Its very difficult because both partners start to have seperate lives and lose common grounds in the long run, but if both want it / trust each other strong enough It works.
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May 09, 2005
I personally think that long distance relationships are creating Romance out of absence material, which is very hard to do so...
Having said that I myself have been in a long distance relationship my self for 2 years and it’s very hard to keep up to and it could well be a headache at some points.........


>>>>>>>>>>>>...All it takes is a bit of patience and trust to have a stable long distance relationship.........>>>>>>>>>
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May 10, 2005
Mizz_Fabolous wrote:I personally think that long distance relationships are creating Romance out of absence material, which is very hard to do so...
Having said that I myself have been in a long distance relationship my self for 2 years and it’s very hard to keep up to and it could well be a headache at some points.........


>>>>>>>>>>>>...All it takes is a bit of patience and trust to have a stable long distance relationship.........>>>>>>>>>


Mizz Faboulous ur avatar is B-E-A-UUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUTIFUL! :shock: Talk to moi and I will make you to believe in Long distance relationships! After allLove has no barriers at all :D
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May 10, 2005
Glory was that directed to me>>.>.....LOL :o :o
That is not a nice way to welcome a new member to the forum
Brainless F*** :wink: :wink:
Besides don’t generalise …if you have came across one individual that
Didn’t meet up to your criteria …of whom you might claim to be the elite character. Then that’s your judgment
Not all Queenslander are the Same…..>>>>


And Where is the Better plce you speak of
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May 10, 2005
“Sniper420”

Thx…for the gesture however been there done that
Ain’t my kinda thing….Long distance thing is tough
I prefer having the person leaving same state where we can have the accessional
Visit and catch up for coffee things…And no boarding plane or anything in that nature and travelling on my holidays…
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... May 10, 2005
long term relationships do work and i have myself been through it for over 5 years. Yes.... the distance makes it difficult and you tend to get interested in other people but I guess its a question of whether you really love each other. At times you need to have omeone with you and tend to get involved with others.

We did have our troubles and also had short flings elsewhere (yes yes yes....) and we are even aware of it now. But we are now married... doing fine. and together in Dubai.
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May 10, 2005
those who say it doesnt work are fickle minded pea brained dogs giving in to temptation... well distance or no distance ,,,u would fall for the next joe or jane u meet..

i hope i am not being rude
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Jun 08, 2005
plz move thiz to Dubai Romance. tnx
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Jun 09, 2005
Long distance?

Mmmm... one help is to never stop communicating and keep youself occupied with things to do, not to the extent of letting yourself be vulnerable to temptation in falling to another person.

Being far far away with the one you love sometimes lessen the fire, the sparks begin to dwilt in time, not because of emotional shortness or mental thoughts of him/her but the physical aspect of being there for your partner.

Try to be happy and keep a positive sight in your relationship.
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Jun 10, 2005
i think i'm gonna puk all this lovey dovey things are making me sick
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Jun 10, 2005
laila k m wrote:i think i'm gonna puk all this lovey dovey things are making me sick


Cos u dont know what iz lobe! :lol:
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