Cheating...to Confess It Or Better To Keep It To Yourself?

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Oct 06, 2006
it's easier to confess and tell the other party that you have cheated and everyone can just called it a day. But when a cheater doesn't wish to hurt the innocent party, concealing the fact that you have once cheated perhaps is easier for everyone to face each other again. That's what i called the white lie.

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Oct 07, 2006
anyone seen Closer? Makes me think this world is just full of psychological phunked people who choose infidelity as their hobby. What a way to spend your free time huh....?

Here's a good quote from the film:

"Oh, as if you had no choice? There's a moment, there's always a moment, "I can do this, I can give into this, or I can resist it", and I don't know when your moment was, but I bet there was one."
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Confessing Oct 15, 2006
I think if its a random non-planned thing that just somehow happen when consuming a large amount of alcohol, why hurt the person you true love, i dont think its worth hurting them over an uncalculated mistake.

However for those players out there i dotn believe in having a long term relationship behind the back of your loved one
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Re: Confessing Oct 15, 2006
Scare Face wrote:I think if its a random non-planned thing that just somehow happen when consuming a large amount of alcohol, why hurt the person you true love, i dont think its worth hurting them over an uncalculated mistake.


Because you have to admit to yourself then that you don't love them, because when you love someone, it generally means you don't go around getting drunk and screwing other people.

If anyone cheated on me, I would want to know straight away, because I wouldn't want to spend one more second with a person who cheated on me.

However for those players out there i dotn believe in having a long term relationship behind the back of your loved one


So it's ok to get pissed and root around, but not OK to have an affair. Personally, if I was the person being cheated on, I'd rather the affair. At least I wouldn't be shit scared about having The Aids.
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Monogamy is not in our nature!!!!!!! Especially not in males Sep 23, 2007
Quote: ''Behavioural studies support the physical evidence that humans are not monogamous''!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thats the reason why I do NOT believe in monogamy.

Why does almost no one in the world accept this fact and deal with it??????

Anyway I did accept it and try to deal with it, its very hard to accept men like this kind of creatures but there are TOO many evidences that show a man is NOT a monogamous creature(neither females but they have less need to have more partners), so why are we trying soooo are very best to stay monogamous and try to live up to these so called morals humans have created????? So we are 'killing' our basic instincts while they are essential to us and this is what nature has given us!!!!!!!!!!!!

Is it because of love???? Dont get me wrong I DO BELIEVE in love, i just do not believe in sexual monogamy and even in some cases i also do not believe in emotional monogamy, i also do not believe in settle down for less but that is a other topic ;)
What has love to do with monogamy????????

think about it :scratch:

Here is one of the many sources that can be found on internet about this topic : http://www.reasoned.org/rs_text7.htm

Imagine the world like this: we females accept the NATURAL behavior of men........I think there will be ALOT less pain and depressions, and a lot of less men who are sexually frustrated :protest:

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Sep 23, 2007
Imagine the world like this: we females accept the NATURAL behavior of men........I think there will be ALOT less pain and depressions, and a lot of less men who are sexually frustrated protest

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natural behavior????????? hell no . i am not so noble to accept a man cheating on me only to save him for his sexual frustrations :evil:
humans r not animals to act only on instinct and if he cant have self control i will drop his sorry @ss in a heartbeat and with no regrets whatsoever :twisted:
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Sep 24, 2007
I believe that everyone has skeletons in their closets.. some obviously a lot more than others... I also believe that the world has a sinister way of justice in that what goes around comes around and bites you in the hindside. Bearing all that in mind I suppose it would be a good idea to keep your pants on at all times and drown your sorrows over a JOINT!! :twisted:
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Sep 24, 2007
On a more sober note .... before u label all men as horny minks u should perhaps dwell on the probability that maybe if a person cheats it could very well be due to a particular emotional shortcoming from the female partner... not everything is about dipping the wick... Maybe before you 'drop his sorry @rse' u should stop and think about the reason.. root cause.. maybe then ul find its your own @ss that needs dropping.... :twisted:
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olivertwisted wrote:On a more sober note .... before u label all men as horny minks


Hey, I am NOT putting any labels on no one, I just say that ALOT of studies, tests and proven facts has shown us that we are NOT monogamous!!!!! Dont blame me, i did not create humans just saying its a fact, and i rather accept it and deal with it then the rest of my life be worried if my partner cheats on me yes or no, and if he does so what???? its not the end of the world and also not the end of a maybe great relationship!!!!!
I do however agree with you that a person cheats most of the time because of the partner, but if everything is going good in the relationship i am not going to be botherd with paranoja if he cheats on me yes or no, its a waist of time imo, and if it happens for some reason i will forgive my partner, simple as that and move on with our lives.
At one stage in our relationship i will suggest a 3some with a other women and try to have also some 'fun' in life with my partner instead of being worried all the time like a lot of my female friends!!!! they say: The wurst thing he could do to me is cheat on me :shock:

Well not in my relationship, there are MUCH wurser things he could do to me and in those cases (beating, abuse, hurt our children, mental abuse) i will drop his @ss, but if he treats me like a queen why should i not let him from time to time have some 'fun' in life with a other women(because it is a proven fact he wants it). If he does not treat me like a queen then why should i be with him in the first place then it is not the type of partner for me!!!!
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Sep 24, 2007
olivertwisted wrote:On a more sober note .... before u label all men as horny minks u should perhaps dwell on the probability that maybe if a person cheats it could very well be due to a particular emotional shortcoming from the female partner... not everything is about dipping the wick... Maybe before you 'drop his sorry @rse' u should stop and think about the reason.. root cause.. maybe then ul find its your own @ss that needs dropping.... :twisted:


olivertwisted u sure have a way to twist words...where in my post was I "labeling all men"??? u should learn how to read before u post a comment. it;s not my fault that u see urself as a horny mink :twisted: if that's what u saw in the mirror when u woke up in the morning it is ur own business :roll: :roll: :roll: but if u need some sympathy dont worry u got it....i feel for u :) no need to be so sad :!:

oh and one more thing: dont u worry about my @ss will ya? better go out and get urself a woman, that will help u to deal with ur frustrations

have a nice day :D :wink:
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Sep 24, 2007
my my such an outburst at a single post .... looks like Ive hit a nerve ... As far as the horny mink part goes you couldnt have been more right... I wake up and look at myself in the mirror .... sure enough I do have the six o clock in the morn hard on 8) and as for the sympathy Im touched by your ever so tender personality. From the looks of it its you that needs help sister. You sound exactly like some of the pig headed girls who Ive dated ...... Just cant accept that anything is your fault ..... how typically feminine. Didnt expect anything else. Predictable and vain... and in response a futile and pathetic attempt about my frustration. Is that the best u could come up with ... :D. Take my advise U could be a tad less tight @ssed I see where ur coming from ... as any guy would cheat on you if you react like this.... take a chill pill sister or all you'll be doin is eating dust from guys sneakers.
By the way I was having a bad day But uve just made Mine!!
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Sep 25, 2007
Lets get ready to Ruuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuumblllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllle. Bring out the pop corns. This is getting way intersting than I thought.
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Sep 25, 2007
olivertwisted wrote:my my such an outburst at a single post .... looks like Ive hit a nerve ... As far as the horny mink part goes you couldnt have been more right... I wake up and look at myself in the mirror .... sure enough I do have the six o clock in the morn hard on 8) and as for the sympathy Im touched by your ever so tender personality. From the looks of it its you that needs help sister. You sound exactly like some of the pig headed girls who Ive dated ...... Just cant accept that anything is your fault ..... how typically feminine. Didnt expect anything else. Predictable and vain... and in response a futile and pathetic attempt about my frustration. Is that the best u could come up with ... :D. Take my advise U could be a tad less tight @ssed I see where ur coming from ... as any guy would cheat on you if you react like this.... take a chill pill sister or all you'll be doin is eating dust from guys sneakers.
By the way I was having a bad day But uve just made Mine!!


that;s a lot of crap...even for a limp d.i.c.k like u :lol: :lol:
typical attitude from an impotent who is trying so much to appear a macho :roll: like anyone in here gives a S.h.i.t about ur fantasies of having erection in the morning......RIGHT :lol:
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Sep 25, 2007
olivertwisted wrote:On a more sober note .... before u label all men as horny minks u should perhaps dwell on the probability that maybe if a person cheats it could very well be due to a particular emotional shortcoming from the female partner... not everything is about dipping the wick... Maybe before you 'drop his sorry @rse' u should stop and think about the reason.. root cause.. maybe then ul find its your own @ss that needs dropping.... :twisted:


this is absurd! now u putting the blame on us? just becoz u have this itch to screw around.

and is that the way to treat ur partner? if something is wrong with her, why dont u tell her and sort it out... i think that is a lame excuse or is just very sick!!
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Sep 25, 2007
I have to say..... I know A LOT of girls that have cheated!

Many of them because they were fed up with being taken for granted by there fella's, admittedly!

Women have lustful thoughts too and some do carry through with it!

Not all the blame can lay with the boys!!
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English Girlie wrote:I have to say..... I know A LOT of girls that have cheated!

Many of them because they were fed up with being taken for granted by there fella's, admittedly!

Women have lustful thoughts too and some do carry through with it!

Not all the blame can lay with the boys!!


i agree with u its absurd to blame only the men. it takes 2 in a relationship therefore ( except the cases when the man simply cant keep his .... in his pants) it would not be fair to blame only 1 if there is "trouble in paradise".
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Sep 26, 2007
limp banana ... lolol this just keeps getting better and better..... somehow just when I feel u couldnt possibly say anything more retarded u go ahead and prove me wrong.... Its funny how people after you have seen light in my arguments and have responded by either countering or corroborating my statements in a sane or controlled manner. Its only u that seems obsessed with my supposedly limp banana and declining testosterone levels. Kind of goes a long way to describe your rudimentary intelligence. You should know something about me by now sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never fcuk me. Something tells me ur some skinny teeny bopper who thinks your some intellectual twat. Truth of the matter is no ones really put you in your place..... yet. tiger is a dime a dozen... all varieties and your just another one with the brains of an ants left bollock.... This whole argument is flawed due to the mere fact that even if anyone cheats no one would be stupid enough to leave ridiculous comments on this daft post for their mums to find out would they!!
Its funny u should have that ridiculous emoticon.... I bet u have a big smile just like that when ur using ur fingers
:twisted: Must come in handy in your deprived state
Youve just made my day again :lol: :twisted:
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Sep 26, 2007
and further more later you agree to the fact that a girl could be at fault ..... but only when another girl says that she feels a girl could be at fault... wonder .... r u schizophrenic
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olivertwisted wrote:and further more later you agree to the fact that a girl could be at fault ..... but only when another girl says that she feels a girl could be at fault... wonder .... r u schizophrenic


u r such a pathetic moron...where in my posts did i say it;s only men who cheat or it;s only their fault???
the comment that put ur ass on fire was not directed to u, it was to the girl who said women should accept that men r cheaters by nature...so go f.u.c.k urself


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olivertwisted wrote:limp banana ... lolol this just keeps getting better and better..... somehow just when I feel u couldnt possibly say anything more retarded u go ahead and prove me wrong.... Its funny how people after you have seen light in my arguments and have responded by either countering or corroborating my statements in a sane or controlled manner. Its only u that seems obsessed with my supposedly limp banana and declining testosterone levels. Kind of goes a long way to describe your rudimentary intelligence. You should know something about me by now sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never fcuk me. Something tells me ur some skinny teeny bopper who thinks your some intellectual twat. Truth of the matter is no ones really put you in your place..... yet. tiger is a dime a dozen... all varieties and your just another one with the brains of an ants left bollock.... This whole argument is flawed due to the mere fact that even if anyone cheats no one would be stupid enough to leave ridiculous comments on this daft post for their mums to find out would they!!
Its funny u should have that ridiculous emoticon.... I bet u have a big smile just like that when ur using ur fingers
:twisted: Must come in handy in your deprived state
Youve just made my day again :lol: :twisted:



u make so much sense... "Dr. Freud" :lol: :lol: :lol:
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Sep 27, 2007
Freud was a retard as opposed to me luv........ I am as twisted as can be.... :twisted: Claircognizance is my forte.
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Sep 27, 2007
ur such a delight alexandra..... I think Im actually going to miss U... :sign10:
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olivertwisted wrote:and further more later you agree to the fact that a girl could be at fault ..... but only when another girl says that she feels a girl could be at fault... wonder .... r u schizophrenic


u r such a pathetic moron...where in my posts did i say it;s only men who cheat or it;s only their fault???
the comment that put ur a#s on fire was not directed to u, it was to the girl who said women should accept that men r cheaters by nature...so go f.u.c.k urself


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Quote: but there are TOO many evidences that show a man is NOT a monogamous creature(neither females but they have less need to have more partners)

Its just about the natural instincts, yes females could have this need of more partners in the same time but LESS then men allready have this need by nature , thats it we done ;)

C'mon give me a break, i know its kinda heavy but so what if my way of thinking is making me happyer and my partner, i think its something positive, well yea thats my opinion, but the studies and tests what they have doing for years and years is a fact so nobody can't deny this!!!! I am not being Einstein I am just saying that these are facts that we are not monogamous creatures, eveybody deals with it there own way so do i by not stressing to much over what my partner is doing ;)
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Sep 27, 2007
C'mon give me a break, i know its kinda heavy but so what if my way of thinking is making me happyer and my partner, i think its something positive

if u can share ur man with other women and that makes u happy so good for u. it;s ur choice :D

regarding ur opinion i respect it even if i dont agree with this approach.
if 2 ppl r not ready or able to commit i dont see the point of a relationship and that is just my opinion. if u want to sleep with a different woman/ man each night so why bother to stay together???

it;s obvious that not everybody is guided by the same principles in life: maybe to u, my view on this is narrow but i wont live my life pretending that is acceptable for the man i love to cheat even if he crawls back feeling sorry for what he did
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Sep 27, 2007
They almost fought like they are married couple or something. Makes me wonder if they were married in a previous life that is, if it did exist. hmmmm.
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Unknown Devil wrote:They almost fought like they are married couple or something. Makes me wonder if they were married in a previous life that is, if it did exist. hmmmm.


u r soooooooo funny :lol: i would not marry that guy even if he is the last man on the planet :roll:
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olivertwisted wrote:ur such a delight alexandra..... I think Im actually going to miss U... :sign10:



now who is the schizo :roll:

p.s i am not ur "luv" :twisted:
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Unknown Devil wrote:They almost fought like they are married couple or something. Makes me wonder if they were married in a previous life that is, if it did exist. hmmmm.



I've been thinking that aswell :lol: :lol:
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Galactico wrote:
Unknown Devil wrote:They almost fought like they are married couple or something. Makes me wonder if they were married in a previous life that is, if it did exist. hmmmm.



I've been thinking that aswell :lol: :lol:


hehehehe. What can I say. Everything started with a normal question and then what do u know blaming each other. Thats one facet of life which married couples go through. I wonder if anyone gets the couch or no dinner for a week!!
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Galactico wrote:
Unknown Devil wrote:They almost fought like they are married couple or something. Makes me wonder if they were married in a previous life that is, if it did exist. hmmmm.



I've been thinking that aswell :lol: :lol:


you too Brutus??

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