debian wrote:If you don't want people to look then why are you showing
Either you're cynical or what......
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debian wrote:If you don't want people to look then why are you showing
Dubaidude007 wrote:
As far as the problem of inappropriate behaviour goes, it is like many of you pointed out, excrabated because of the gender bias against women in this part of the world. Somehow, with everything else factored in, men see nothing wrong with subjecting women to unwanted sexual advances. This is not the case in societies that implament more equality of the genders as part of their social strata.
reviewer wrote:
Yes, there's a real correlation between society and how it treats its people male and female. When society itself looks upon their womenfolk with low regards and treated unfairly,to the point of being bias in every sense of the word; women are easy prey to abuse of all sort whether at home, work and with in the society. Not suprisingly this societies do tend to hide this treatment by regarding this things as social taboos, a double joepardy for their womenfolk.
Dubai Knight wrote:Nicely put Shaf...
Interestingly, Dubai Municipality have instigated a team tasked with visiting all the malls in Dubai and removing any images or window decoration that is deemed to be outside the moral and cultural mores of the UAE.
In the mall by my office, there are some highly provocative images in poster form on the walls advertising a lingerie shop in the centre. The window display in that store not only shows the actual product on a mannequin, but has large images of a very s.e.x.y girl, obviously provided by the manufacturer in the US.
Don't get me wrong, I am not averse to looking at a beautiful scantily clad girl and this might be acceptable in London or Paris, however I do feel it goes against the grain here in a Muslim environment. I expect these images to be removed in the very near future.
Knight
Flying Dutchman wrote:I have real problems trying to understand this sheer hypocricy. And I encounter this kind of hypocricy here in Dubai more than anywhere else in the world...
reviewer wrote:Flying Dutchman wrote:I have real problems trying to understand this sheer hypocricy. And I encounter this kind of hypocricy here in Dubai more than anywhere else in the world...
Hypocrisy is really rife here, their self-righteousness on one hand yet with open hands indulges in debauchery. Its smack of arrogance.
Dubai Knight wrote:
Its not so much 'arrogance' as 'face'. Its very common in Saudi Arabia that a man must appear to be piously Islamic in all ways in front of his peers, however will then travel outside the Kingdom and behave in ways that would instigate a custodial prison sentence in his own country.
Dubai Knight wrote:"What happens in Vegas...stays in Vegas."
This is also quite common for the young ladies of Saudi also and I am afraid that repression of the normal human desires and weaknesses is to blame. If you make certain things 'forbidden fruit' then the desire to taste from that tree becomes an irresistable urge.
Its like having a big red button on the wall that says in bold letters "Do not press!"
Someone will.
Just to see what happens.
Knight
debian wrote:If you don't want people to look then why are you showing
kanelli wrote:debian wrote:If you don't want people to look then why are you showing
Come on now, they look anyway, no matter what you wear. Hey, perhaps the men should have a bag or sheet draped over their heads all the time so that we women won't have to see them staring.
shafique wrote:kanelli wrote:debian wrote:If you don't want people to look then why are you showing
Come on now, they look anyway, no matter what you wear. Hey, perhaps the men should have a bag or sheet draped over their heads all the time so that we women won't have to see them staring.
Come on now - there is a world of difference between a nun in a habit and a lady in a mini skirt and boob tube, both would not be stared at.
And you ladies also know that hair style and make up can transform one's appearance and will radically change the attention one draws.
That said, I agree that dress is not the only factor - one can be all covered up and still draw attention - it is however an important factor in itself, all other things being equal, dressing modestly will draw less 'unwanted' attention.
Cheers,
Shafique
reviewer wrote:
Come on now dressing modestly will not surely draw less attention, take the case of men in segregated societies though their womenfolk are all covered up they still draw attention and men do stares as if the women wears nothing. As pointed out earlier, its sheer hypocrisy of the men to blame the opposite love for their uncalled stares and sexual overtures.
St.Lucifer wrote:I think everyone should stop wearing clothes.. n then people will get used to seeing naked bodies and realize.. eeww. 75% are not really that hot as they used to think..
shafique wrote:reviewer wrote:
Come on now dressing modestly will not surely draw less attention, take the case of men in segregated societies though their womenfolk are all covered up they still draw attention and men do stares as if the women wears nothing. As pointed out earlier, its sheer hypocrisy of the men to blame the opposite love for their uncalled stares and sexual overtures.
I'm not blaming women, I thought I was stating the obvious that dressing modestly will attract fewer unwelcome stares.
If you are right that a woman's appearance isn't important - then someone should tell the women not to bother with make up, hair dos etc
Cheers,
Shafique
reviewer wrote:shafique wrote:reviewer wrote:
Come on now dressing modestly will not surely draw less attention, take the case of men in segregated societies though their womenfolk are all covered up they still draw attention and men do stares as if the women wears nothing. As pointed out earlier, its sheer hypocrisy of the men to blame the opposite love for their uncalled stares and sexual overtures.
I'm not blaming women, I thought I was stating the obvious that dressing modestly will attract fewer unwelcome stares.
If you are right that a woman's appearance isn't important - then someone should tell the women not to bother with make up, hair dos etc
Cheers,
Shafique
What I'm saying is dressing modestly will not stop men from staring as has been happening and will continue to happen espcecially in the gulf. Case in point, try walking inside a mall where local women are dress in burqa yet being stared at and even given sexual overtones by their local men.
gtmash wrote:reviewer wrote:shafique wrote:reviewer wrote:
Come on now dressing modestly will not surely draw less attention, take the case of men in segregated societies though their womenfolk are all covered up they still draw attention and men do stares as if the women wears nothing. As pointed out earlier, its sheer hypocrisy of the men to blame the opposite love for their uncalled stares and sexual overtures.
I'm not blaming women, I thought I was stating the obvious that dressing modestly will attract fewer unwelcome stares.
If you are right that a woman's appearance isn't important - then someone should tell the women not to bother with make up, hair dos etc
Cheers,
Shafique
What I'm saying is dressing modestly will not stop men from staring as has been happening and will continue to happen espcecially in the gulf. Case in point, try walking inside a mall where local women are dress in burqa yet being stared at and even given sexual overtones by their local men.
You are now addressing a totally different issue. Local men showing interest in local girls is the first step towards a marriage proposal involving parents.
reviewer wrote:gtmash wrote:reviewer wrote:shafique wrote:reviewer wrote:
Come on now dressing modestly will not surely draw less attention, take the case of men in segregated societies though their womenfolk are all covered up they still draw attention and men do stares as if the women wears nothing. As pointed out earlier, its sheer hypocrisy of the men to blame the opposite love for their uncalled stares and sexual overtures.
I'm not blaming women, I thought I was stating the obvious that dressing modestly will attract fewer unwelcome stares.
If you are right that a woman's appearance isn't important - then someone should tell the women not to bother with make up, hair dos etc
Cheers,
Shafique
What I'm saying is dressing modestly will not stop men from staring as has been happening and will continue to happen espcecially in the gulf. Case in point, try walking inside a mall where local women are dress in burqa yet being stared at and even given sexual overtones by their local men.
You are now addressing a totally different issue. Local men showing interest in local girls is the first step towards a marriage proposal involving parents.
Excuse me; men following women like pack of wolves, blurting profanities, showing unwanted attention, you called this first step towards a marriage proposal involving parents. Wake up mate.
What I said;if you really understood what you read, is dressing up or dressing modestly is not always a solution and even if it does; it does not necessarily apply to all societies.
Different societies need different solution and approach.
kanelli wrote:Well, I notice that I don't get leered at much any more when I have the baby with me. Thankfully they are staring at the cute baby most of the time. There you go ladies, just bring a kid along and you'll get more respect.
Dubai Knight wrote:kanelli wrote:Well, I notice that I don't get leered at much any more when I have the baby with me. Thankfully they are staring at the cute baby most of the time. There you go ladies, just bring a kid along and you'll get more respect.
I am told I am a complete child sometimes by some people, so I am available for hire at a very resonable fee!
Knight
Dubai Knight wrote:kanelli wrote:Well, I notice that I don't get leered at much any more when I have the baby with me. Thankfully they are staring at the cute baby most of the time. There you go ladies, just bring a kid along and you'll get more respect.
I am told I am a complete child sometimes by some people, so I am available for hire at a very resonable fee!
Knight
gtmash wrote:I get the feeling you roam the seediest parts of Dubai, outside bars or something. I've never seen local guys blatantly harrassing local women in my 25 years here. There is the occassional case in the papers, but it is not as rampant as you make it seem.