Dating An Arab Man

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Jan 12, 2009
K-Dog wrote:Aisha7. I don't know if you are for real, but lets assume you are. Listen to UAEKid above. He is the only local who has responded to your OP so far. Please don't get hurt.


yes im for real. im not trying to justify things, im just responding to their questions.

i appreciate your responses actually. thanks a bunch


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aisha7 wrote:i appreciate your responses actually. thanks a bunch

Here's a blog about Filipinas it says Filipinos are by and large educated, but not too informed you can read it if you want to:
http://outcastsuperstar.blogspot.com/2008/04/ridding-filipinas-of-their-delusions.html
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ArchitectRoel wrote: Here's a blog about Filipinas it says Filipinos are by and large educated, but not too informed you can read it if you want to:
http://outcastsuperstar.blogspot.com/2008/04/ridding-filipinas-of-their-delusions.html


honest assessment from a foreigner... an interesting read. thanks architect for the link :)
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Jan 12, 2009
As an Arab guy myself... I would agree with 90% of all what already being said...

if you are looking to date him during your holidays and go back to you home country.. I would say you probably will get what you want from him..

but nothing more... trust me...

yet, you need to reconsider that dating a person you only knew online is not a good idea.

if you have friends in Dubai, pay them a visit and stay with them... don't stay in his place... meet him in a public place and see how it goes moving forward.
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Of course not all Arab guys are bad. But the fact is you will neve get anything long term out of him. Due to cultural pressures, most guys date and have fun with women of other nationalities - and if that's all you're looking for then fine - but they will settle with an Arab girl.

And yes, what the others are saying about meeting in a public place and not staying in somewhere he puts you is correct.
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Chocoholic wrote:Of course not all Arab guys are bad. But the fact is you will neve get anything long term out of him. Due to cultural pressures, most guys date and have fun with women of other nationalities - and if that's all you're looking for then fine - but they will settle with an Arab girl.


Indeed... its not that Arab men are bad... its the culture and social pressure that makes most Arab men never get committed with Asian/western ladies.

In this open multicultural age... its possible yet very limited

Men will remain MEN everywhere... :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
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FYI, I know some Arab men who are married to filipina girls, one of them is my boss :D...
Anyway I would agree that 95% of men (In general all over the world) are *****.
I general I would advice all girls who are looking for serious relationships to be very careful when they meet guys (face to face), and be ready for all probabilities, unless you are lucky and got one out of the 5% of us.
And in your situation its a keyboards relationship, I won't say say it never worked before because I am sure all of us have heard of good stories started from a keyboard hand writing, but I would just advice you to be ready for any 1% that this guy is just playing or a 99% .
cheers, good luck.
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Hellllo Jan 12, 2009
uaekid: Ahhh, C'mon man, how could you say that? we are not all like that, and do you
think your country men are not running for "Quickie" as well???

global_headhunter: there are famillies forcing their children to marry only from their countries girls, they raised them and they wish the best for them. is that wrong?

aisha7: to be frank, I like filipino people, im not criticising them, but cuz im planing to marry a girl from there someday, everyone warning me, they say she might cheat on you, or she can make a "quickie" with her x for a change and to remember her nice past, or she can easly take your kids and run away. we hear some scary stories as well, which is not aplicable on them all.

quatroporte: I rate your comment as the best.

My word for you Aisha. dont think about the money if he offered. sometimes it worths the risk, but it might be against your happiness. I know a filipina who was in a relation with a rich english manager, she lived with him in a luxerious house, fancy life, but she wasn't happy at all. then she left him with a poor waiter, searching for a simple life. get the one who will live with you in a room, but makes you happy, where ever he came from. Im arab, and I can sure tell you there are many good guys around, and there are other pain in the *** as well. No hasty decisions ma'am. God bless u.
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My word for you Aisha. dont think about the money if he offered. sometimes it worths the risk, but it might be against your happiness. I know a filipina who was in a relation with a rich english manager, she lived with him in a luxerious house, fancy life, but she wasn't happy at all. then she left him with a poor waiter, searching for a simple life. get the one who will live with you in a room, but makes you happy, where ever he came from. Im arab, and I can sure tell you there are many good guys around, and there are other pain in the *** as well. No hasty decisions ma'am. God bless u.


hmmm honestly he's not offering money, maybe coz he saw that he doesn't have to? i mean, im not richie rich but not exactly poor either. i have a comfortable life, and he saw that. what he said was he'll make sure i'll be comfortable.

im sorry about the horror stories that you heard about filipinas. sad to say some of it are true. but then, you can smell a goldigger or a player a mile away. you can always tell by the way they talk. good luck, God bless you too sadiq 8)
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Re: Hellllo Jan 13, 2009
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howdy wrote:
My word for you Aisha. dont think about the money if he offered. sometimes it worths the risk, but it might be against your happiness. I know a filipina who was in a relation with a rich english manager, she lived with him in a luxerious house, fancy life, but she wasn't happy at all. then she left him with a poor waiter, searching for a simple life. get the one who will live with you in a room, but makes you happy, where ever he came from. Im arab, and I can sure tell you there are many good guys around, and there are other pain in the *** as well. No hasty decisions ma'am. God bless u.


hmmm honestly he's not offering money, maybe coz he saw that he doesn't have to? i mean, im not richie rich but not exactly poor either. i have a comfortable life, and he saw that. what he said was he'll make sure i'll be comfortable.

im sorry about the horror stories that you heard about filipinas. sad to say some of it are true. but then, you can smell a goldigger or a player a mile away. you can always tell by the way they talk. good luck, God bless you too sadiq 8)


Why not meet him in your comfort zone not his and see what he is like ...
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Galactico wrote:Why not meet him in your comfort zone not his and see what he is like ...

If he's true gentleman, he'll go to the Philippines...Get to know each other better..
...But I don't think he got the balls.haha
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Jan 13, 2009
lol 14 years ive lived here in UAE and you dont know the horrors i have eye witnessed with my friends or people i used know who did what you are about to do. i-babahay ka lang nya and use you as a parausan. trust me we used to rent a part of our villa, and the same thing happened to the filipina girl, she was pretty beautiful too and almost everyday i would see her with blue and black bruises over her body. when we ask her what happned she just says she fell/hit something. thats one thing but the most common is, once nagsawa na sila they will just dump the girl alone. anyways, suggest ko sayo you will be better off with a pinoy. but thats upto you, kakahiya kseh minsan kababayan d2 kasama ibang lahi, they look pretty cheap to be honest.
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Re: Hellllo Jan 13, 2009
howdy wrote: global_headhunter: there are famillies forcing their children to marry only from their countries girls, they raised them and they wish the best for them. is that wrong?


hey howdy in what part of my post did i say arranged marriage is wrong? kindly re-read my post: "true not all arab men are bad, in fact some of them are really sweet, gentleman, caring & family oriented. but you have to be careful cos most of them are looking only for transitional gf while they are being arranged for marriage by their families."

i am stating a fact, cos isn't it true that some arab men actually look for gfs outside their culture when they are not yet ready to get married but when the time comes that they want to start a family they follow their family's wishes? its your culture and tradition and i totally respect it. if it works for you then who is to say that what you are doing is wrong? no one should, cos its your life.

aisha is asking for opinions so i said my piece, ultimately it's her decision.
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xero_ wrote:but thats upto you, kakahiya kseh minsan kababayan d2 kasama ibang lahi, they look pretty cheap to be honest.


wag makitid ang utak mo kabayan, mas nakakahiya yata na pinoy nga ang kasama mo pero me pamilya na naiwan sa pilipinas tapos yung pera na para sa mga anak eh ginagastos sa babae nya sa dubai o di kaya sa sobrang kapal yung ipapadala sa pamilya eh nanggagaling sa bulsa ng babae. meron ding pinoy na nagkukunwaring walang asawa at nanliligaw ng kabayan na kahit matino at galing sa maayos na pamilya eh walang pakialam para lang makagamit. o sabihin na nating single nga ang lalaki pero 3 naman ang kasintahan.

wag kang ipokrito, kaya ka nagagalit sa mga pilipina na me kasamang ibang lahi dahil di ka pwede sa ibang lahi.
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xero_ wrote:but thats upto you, kakahiya kseh minsan kababayan d2 kasama ibang lahi, they look pretty cheap to be honest.


wag makitid ang utak mo kabayan, mas nakakahiya yata na pinoy nga ang kasama mo pero me pamilya na naiwan sa pilipinas tapos yung pera na para sa mga anak eh ginagastos sa babae nya sa dubai o di kaya sa sobrang kapal yung ipapadala sa pamilya eh nanggagaling sa bulsa ng babae. meron ding pinoy na nagkukunwaring walang asawa at nanliligaw ng kabayan na kahit matino at galing sa maayos na pamilya eh walang pakialam para lang makagamit. o sabihin na nating single nga ang lalaki pero 3 naman ang kasintahan.

wag kang ipokrito, kaya ka nagagalit sa mga pilipina na me kasamang ibang lahi dahil di ka pwede sa ibang lahi.


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xero_ wrote:but thats upto you, kakahiya kseh minsan kababayan d2 kasama ibang lahi, they look pretty cheap to be honest.


wag makitid ang utak mo kabayan, mas nakakahiya yata na pinoy nga ang kasama mo pero me pamilya na naiwan sa pilipinas tapos yung pera na para sa mga anak eh ginagastos sa babae nya sa dubai o di kaya sa sobrang kapal yung ipapadala sa pamilya eh nanggagaling sa bulsa ng babae. meron ding pinoy na nagkukunwaring walang asawa at nanliligaw ng kabayan na kahit matino at galing sa maayos na pamilya eh walang pakialam para lang makagamit. o sabihin na nating single nga ang lalaki pero 3 naman ang kasintahan.

wag kang ipokrito, kaya ka nagagalit sa mga pilipina na me kasamang ibang lahi dahil di ka pwede sa ibang lahi.


kapal muka mo kabayan, pamilyado akong tao at sa dinami dami ng nakita ko dito sa dubai, eh totoo ang experience ko. kung may kamag anak ka man na babae na may boyfriend o asawang dayuhan eh dapat talagang mahiya ka. dahil sa kahirapan, nauuto ng mga dayuhan ang kapamilya mo nag magpagamit ng katawan nila. nakakahiya talaga ang mga kababaihan naten na pumapatol sa ibang lahi, at feeling pa nila eh naka-jackpot sila pag umasta sa mga mall kasama ang mga mababantot na dayuhan haha.
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Jan 14, 2009
hey hey....ease up guys...cant we agree to disagree without getting personal?




update: he keeps calling but im not answering his calls. he emailed and asked me what is going on.
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Re: Dating an arab man Jan 14, 2009
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aisha7 wrote:this arab man told me he loves me, and would want me to come and join him in dubai, or him coming over, whichever is sooner. i felt that 'love' is too soon, i want to get to know him more. i'm torn coz i kept on remembering wat my friends told me, but at the same time, i want to give this guy a chance.
im confused :(

Are you saying that you're going to marry the guy? since it is forbidden to live with a boyfriend/girlfriend here in Arab countries.


WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOH.....i like ur avatar ;) 8)
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Jan 14, 2009
[quote="xerokapal muka mo kabayan, pamilyado akong tao at sa dinami dami ng nakita ko dito sa dubai, eh totoo ang experience ko. kung may kamag anak ka man na babae na may boyfriend o asawang dayuhan eh dapat talagang mahiya ka. dahil sa kahirapan, nauuto ng mga dayuhan ang kapamilya mo nag magpagamit ng katawan nila. nakakahiya talaga ang mga kababaihan naten na pumapatol sa ibang lahi, at feeling pa nila eh naka-jackpot sila pag umasta sa mga mall kasama ang mga mababantot na dayuhan haha.[/quote]

ay naku makitid talaga ang utak mo! di katulad mo di ko pepersonalin dahil di ako guilty. marami talagang nakakahiyang mga kabayan dito na imoral (pinay at pinoy). sinasabi ko lang ang obserbasyon ko sa mga pinoy na nanloloko ng kapwa. buksan mo ang mga mata mo wag mong tingnan ang mga pinay lang na me kasamang ibang lahi. ke pinoy o ibang lahi ang kasama kung walang nasasaktang pamilya walang nakakahiya doon. sanga pala di kami mahirap kabayan at mga propesyonal ang magulang at mga kapatid ko kaya bukas ang isipan ko.

pasensya na din kung napersonal ko yung last sentence dapat ay "mga pinoy na nagagagalit dahil di sila pwede sa ibang lahi" di dapat patungkol sa yo yan... nasabi ko din yan dahil inaamin ng ibang pinoy yan.
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Jan 14, 2009
I'd never, ever date an Arab man.
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Jan 14, 2009
aisha7 wrote:hey hey....ease up guys...cant we agree to disagree without getting personal?

update: he keeps calling but im not answering his calls. he emailed and asked me what is going on.


That is kind of rude, don't you think? He hasn't done anything wrong yet If I read your story right.
So why not give him a change to come to your grounds. For a women thats much saver. Maybe he is the 'right' Arab guy afterall. Just date with him on your terms. Go girl. :wink:
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RobbyG wrote:German: Wie sagt mal?
Dutch: Wat zeg je?
English: What did you say?
French: Comment dit fois ?
I wonder... english please! :wink:

Thy're fighting and it's kinda personal...you don't wanna translate those rubbish words!
@global & xero= you both have a point.
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hey why u wear a string like dress
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shorn77777 wrote:hey why u wear a string like dress

it's called spaghetti :lol:
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Jan 15, 2009
This is an English forum! Therefore please post in English only!

I will not tolerate insults in this section, anymore and this is going to Fight Club or Trash!
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No Tagalog plz. Jan 16, 2009
global_headhunter and xero : Who give you the right to type in tagalog. I can read between the lines. and im better than you in arabic, so i can write many things which u can't ever know._



Del: so dont date arab men, they are not there for you.simply, Del them.

RobbyG: well said.

Let me tell you my story briefly. I had a filipina g.f, our relation lasted for almost 3 years. at the end, after loving each other sooo deeply, do you know why we started fighting? it was all cuz of other filipinos, they poisoned her mind of stories like that. "he is arab, even if he married you, he will leave you someday and go with his cousin, he will beat you, he will cheat on you, bla bla bla." and at the end, after our brake-up, we both found that they were jealous from our perfect relation. they even arrange a replacement for her, so she can erase me immediately, and she did,what was her end, she got pregnant from that guy, and he neglected her, who is bad here??. who the hell said im gonna leave her for my cousin??? those guys know nothing about us, they just judge books from their covers, and they don't even bother to read it. wake up guys. let people love as they want. when i was going with my x-gf to public places, guys on the side walk don't stop insulting her cuz shes with arab guy. so they just don't want her to be with a stranger (as they call us).
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Jan 16, 2009
Del wrote:I'd never, ever date an Arab man.

there must be a story behind that.... brave enought to share it !!!
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Jan 16, 2009
It's your life OP but you are here posting with doubts. Be careful. I've gone out with Arab Catholics and even then I felt uncomfortable with the culture difference.
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update: i answered his calls, explained to him why i ignored him. he didnt get angry. i thought we were ok then. the calls that came after that talk were kinda different. he always act like he doesnt trust me or jealous when he hears voices of other people in the background. i was like...whats up wid that? then shifts back to being nice and sweet. moody huh?
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Jan 17, 2009
This doesn't sound good Aisha. I once 'met' a man online then by telephone. I wasn't always available to answer calls because I was at work or at a dinner party but he was jealous because I wasn't readily available for a stupid call. Anyway that went nowhere. I didn't have to meet him in real life to know unhappiness waited for me if I stayed in touch with him.

Take care and be safe. I'm not Filipina or Asian but I feel like a surrogate sister to Filipinas.
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