From what I observe and I work within an industry with 95% women the first thing is sheer attraction. If a guy is very aesthetically attractive then you should see them falling over themselves to get his attention. For mere mortals who don't look like a GQ model then I guess whatever the guy lacks in the looks department there has to be an equal measure of either (or) a combination of humour, charisma, success, common interests and personality.
A friend recently updated her Facebook status which read: IS SEEKING 6,0 and above handsome guy, with chizelled good looks, athletic build ,grt personality sucessful career ,blue eyes, ONLY with hair no baldies please.... great white teeth no FALSEYS .... great sense of humor and is willing to wine and dine me ..... {it's a shame u can't buy one.}..... !!!!.
Now if I'm being honest I would have to throw that back at her and ask 'what do you have to offer in return' knowing the answer ain't all that is the reason she hasn't attracted such a man and this is the paradox right here which explains why there are so many single people.
As we know Dubai is an odd transient place. I arrived in Dubai with two averagely attractive women and the attention they received from men is on a different scale to what they are used to from their home country. The B*tch shield is common place in the clubs C0ck blocking the many desperate men who either stare strangely from a distance or do some odd Bollywood Peacocking dance hoping to woo the herd!
A woman who is attractive has had years of experiences where men treat them differently because of their attractive looks. High maintenance irrational personalities can develop because they can behave in a way not so attractive women can't get away with. In a similar way you notice that men and women who are hilariously funny often aren't blessed with amazing looks and this is no coincidence. Unfortunately, first and foremost, it often comes down to the fickleness of looks. A stunning friend of mine once said she 'wished she could meet a nice guy' and the truth is she was in a training college full of them. Clearly a blind eye was adopted as in her eyes they weren't attractive to go with it.
In a fickle place like this you better be in a good position in the right environment to show off your qualities. Clearly, not all woman are the same and neither are men but all too often the more beautiful of the species realise 'their worth' and attracting attention in this town is a dime a dozen but whether it's reciprocated is a different matter.