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you’re welcome wynn but remember that your boyfriends task to convince his parents is not an easy one even if they are wrong in their actions and beliefs. Islam pays great importance to kindness and respect to parents..You and his way of addressing his parents should be of soft nature with sweet tongue..

parents opinion in marriage
http://www.readingislam.com/servlet/Sat ... 3996016610

questions and answers regarding honouring parents.
http://www.islam-qa.com/en/cat/2011

kindness to parents..
http://www.islamreligion.com/articles/1624/

Well Wynn is a muslim, I think she knows issues about kindness to parents as well...

Kindness to parents and respect has to be, but sacrifice your life for selfish wish of your parents is not the right thing. Which parent could be happy from sorrow of their child??! To say that i will sacrifice my life happiness to see my parents happy is the most stupid excuse..If you as someone who respect parents will marry someone whom you don't love, you will suffer and then even your family and especially your children. Your marriage and home has to be your shelter where you can hide yourself when the world around isn't fair to you or you are tired from work etc.

Go get ur man Wyn...

You said the parnts too live in Dubai? Great....tell this so called man of urs and organize a get together. You need to start working on those parents right away, old minds are the most stubborn.......Although it ideally should've the guys responsibility to convice the wrinkleys, guess this one time ur just gonna have to get ur hands dirty. The things Love makes people do. Hilarious!
That is if ur so called man reciprocates ur affection and is on the same page with you on this.

It's all very well to say that Islam does not condone arranged marriages however we all know that this does happen and with Indians it may not be a religious thing, but it can very much be a cultural thing which happens on a daily basis - don't confuse the two!

I wold say tread very carefully and not go barging in over it, as it might have been something that has been an agreement between two families for years.

Wynn I agree over what you are saying and my first post is in full support of your opinion…

What I wrote in my 3rd post becomes important if children start treating their parents badly during the dialog.., acting against parents will in violence and strong opposition and rejection is not doing any good to parties involved either, Under such circumstances family ties break up, unity is lost and in many cases life continues under misery due to loosing family members and their support, and if marriage happens to fail after,children often have no face to turn to their parents again...

What we also see is that generally speaking, parents know personal nature and capabilities of their children better than anybody meets them later in their life. Most parents have better judgment and experiences that enables them to workout who their children can be happier and compatible with, provided that they give equal chance/assessment to their prospective brides/grooms they meet.

We do also know a lot of people who ignore and take decisions contrary to their parents advice or observations end up in failure, divorce and moving back in with their parents..
I have nothing much to say, so Just take posts as infos provided for knowledge, nobody is here to make matters worse for you or make judgment upon you..

Take care….

And what about parents point of view? Is it ok if their son will marry 'stranger'? Do you know how they're looking at that? Part of my family is from Greece and they were strictly against marriage with non Greeks..So my aunt got pregnant to convince family about their love...finally they got married and are living happily until now with more children..

to Berrin:

It's true that parents know the personality and capabilities of their child more than anyone else...But how they can say that this or that person is ok if they don't know the second person? Love and marriage is not a business..it was maybe several centuries ago in royal families...I am not willing to destroy my life in sorrow because i couldn't marry love of my life

I think, this is centuries old suggestion possible it will fall like that